It's almost over

[Anonymous]

My mom moves home in a week. I have to keep reminding myself. While taking care of DD yesterday, she was smoking in the basement and decided to febreeze the clothes I just washed to cover it up. They smell so bad, I can't even wear them.

[Anonymous]

Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Thanks, PP!

OMG, I only posted this 5 days ago. It feels like it's been a year. She took toddler DD to McDonald's while we were on date night. I left food for DD. She knows we don't approve of McDonald's. It feels like a stick in the ribs at the last minute.

This week, she's been feeding her candy bars every day for a couple of weeks while I'm at work. I disappeared the last candy bar and told her we don't let her eat that much sweets. She feeds her candy bars when the baby is fussy. She found another candy bar to feed DD after I told her not to. And then, I left her a healthier, low sugar bar she could give DD instead. NOPE. She busted out some gummy bears. My mom busted them on the couch and my mom was hand feeding her gummy bears while watching too much TV.

I ask her every day it's reasonable outside to take DD for a walk or to the park. She refuses. It was 60 one day last week. I asked her to take DD outside. She said she opened the door, felt a cool breeze, and decided they couldn't go outside. WTF. That's why they make coats. In fact, I didn't see many people wearing coats at work.

My mom is the laziest person on the planet. She tells me she only does what's easiest for her. I swear I didn't know I was raised that way. I thought she was the hardest working person I know. There are two days left. I don't think I can make it.

[Anonymous]

***My husband busted them on the couch...

[Anonymous]

Yikes. It's almost over and someday you'll look back on this and laugh. I think.

[Anonymous]

Hang in there! My mom's coming tomorrow & I am super sorry, but your stories cheered me up. My mom is certifiable in her own way, but my kids are older so she has less of an impact on everyone now. Seriously, deep breaths, and know that this DCUMer has great empathy for you! & it will get easier when your kids are older. You can just hire a babysitter like I did and tell the teenager to overrule your mom....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom moves home in a week. I have to keep reminding myself. While taking care of DD yesterday, she was smoking in the basement and decided to febreeze the clothes I just washed to cover it up. They smell so bad, I can't even wear them.

Smoker near your kid? Never O.K. Forgive yourself and let her go home. You're doing the right thing.

[Anonymous]

My mother was visiting one winter and asked if she could smoke in the basement since it was cold outside. MY LAUNDRY ROOM?!? I don't think so. What is wrong with people? At least mine asked. Hang in there OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My mom moves home in a week. I have to keep reminding myself. While taking care of DD yesterday, she was smoking in the basement and decided to febreeze the clothes I just washed to cover it up. They smell so bad, I can't even wear them.

Wow, I am allergic to both smoke and febreeze, so that would realllllly piss me off.

[Anonymous]

Other than the smoking, you know what? Just grit your teeth and bear it. All of the extended family (mother, brother, sister-in-law on my wife's side and my parents, my brother, sister and ex-sister-in-law on my side) all spoil our kids rotten and break many of our rules. It's just a week and yes, it makes the next two weeks difficult, but we want them to enjoy visiting family. Our family lives so far away (we are all spread out all over the country) that I want them to have a good time with family. Now, even at almost 3, they really enjoy and talk about our family a lot and get excited when family visits and enjoy them. Since we are both the youngest and we had kids late, their grandparents are pretty old and I want the grandparents to be able to make as many good memories with these grandkids as they can. I also hope that they stay healthy even while getting more infirm so that our kids will also have some good memories of their grandparents. It's all just perspective.

[Anonymous]

+1. That's what grandparents do. You will too some day. Relax and enjoy life! And BTW, did she go out and buy the febreze or did you already own it. Either way she's your mom, she raised a good kid didn't she?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes. It's almost over and someday you'll look back on this and laugh. I think.

Does that ever really happen? I think of all the crazy s**T my mom did, but I never seem to start laughing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, PP!

OMG, I only posted this 5 days ago. It feels like it's been a year. She took toddler DD to McDonald's while we were on date night. I left food for DD. She knows we don't approve of McDonald's. It feels like a stick in the ribs at the last minute.

This week, she's been feeding her candy bars every day for a couple of weeks while I'm at work. I disappeared the last candy bar and told her we don't let her eat that much sweets. She feeds her candy bars when the baby is fussy. She found another candy bar to feed DD after I told her not to. And then, I left her a healthier, low sugar bar she could give DD instead. NOPE. She busted out some gummy bears. My mom busted them on the couch and my mom was hand feeding her gummy bears while watching too much TV.

I ask her every day it's reasonable outside to take DD for a walk or to the park. She refuses. It was 60 one day last week. I asked her to take DD outside. She said she opened the door, felt a cool breeze, and decided they couldn't go outside. WTF. That's why they make coats. In fact, I didn't see many people wearing coats at work.

My mom is the laziest person on the planet. She tells me she only does what's easiest for her. I swear I didn't know I was raised that way. I thought she was the hardest working person I know. There are two days left. I don't think I can make it.

Your mom sounds like she enjoys breaking your rules. It is a bit infuriating. I wonder if she is the best baby sitter/ grandmother for your kid. I worked hard to keep my DCs from eating that much candy and then WHAM the babysitter did the same as your mom. Looking back, I really wish that had not happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Thanks, PP!

OMG, I only posted this 5 days ago. It feels like it's been a year. She took toddler DD to McDonald's while we were on date night. I left food for DD. She knows we don't approve of McDonald's. It feels like a stick in the ribs at the last minute.

This week, she's been feeding her candy bars every day for a couple of weeks while I'm at work. I disappeared the last candy bar and told her we don't let her eat that much sweets. She feeds her candy bars when the baby is fussy. She found another candy bar to feed DD after I told her not to. And then, I left her a healthier, low sugar bar she could give DD instead. NOPE. She busted out some gummy bears. My mom busted them on the couch and my mom was hand feeding her gummy bears while watching too much TV.

I ask her every day it's reasonable outside to take DD for a walk or to the park. She refuses. It was 60 one day last week. I asked her to take DD outside. She said she opened the door, felt a cool breeze, and decided they couldn't go outside. WTF. That's why they make coats. In fact, I didn't see many people wearing coats at work.

My mom is the laziest person on the planet. She tells me she only does what's easiest for her. I swear I didn't know I was raised that way. I thought she was the hardest working person I know. There are two days left. I don't think I can make it.

Boy, how much is she charging you for the child care?

[Anonymous]

She was compensated $2000/mo.

In a final hurrah of horror, she got so drunk last night that she stormed off over something stupid and wound up leaving the house. I thought she went to bed. I went to bed. It wasn't until 6:30am that we realized she had left. Texting revealed that she was almost back to our home state in her car (normally 6 hrs away) and had left drunk and didnt remember why she left. She didn't remember the spat. She didn't know why she left pr was mad.

She could have killed herself or someone else. I am horrified and glad she is alive, but she is lucky

I now recognize this feeling that I had to get her out of my house because she would have been resonsible for something bad happening to DD.