If your ex owes you money

[Anonymous]

At what point do you turn your ex in for failure to pay child support?

Is it an amount of time, or a dollar figure, that would prompt you?

[Anonymous]

I thought it was automatically done through the child support department, in which it would be a certain amount of time

[Anonymous]

I set up payments through the state as soon as we had a child support order.

They've gone after him twice, after 6mo of non-payment each time. Since then, he paid on time for a year, so they dropped us from active enforcement. Now, he's 2yrs and 5 figures behind, but I don't live in the state any longer, so they won't file for enforcement unless I fly back to appear at the enforcement hearing in person. I've retained a lawyer to help me figure it out and it sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I set up payments through the state as soon as we had a child support order.

They've gone after him twice, after 6mo of non-payment each time. Since then, he paid on time for a year, so they dropped us from active enforcement. Now, he's 2yrs and 5 figures behind, but I don't live in the state any longer, so they won't file for enforcement unless I fly back to appear at the enforcement hearing in person. I've retained a lawyer to help me figure it out and it sucks.

So go to the agency in the state you live in now and they can do a UIFSA case.

[Anonymous]

OP here, ex is "self employed".

[Anonymous]

That was my ex. He was paid under the table so it made enforcement basically impossible. The only time I got some money was if he got a tax refund. I would get that in the summer but that was all they did to enforce it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here, ex is "self employed".

Subpeona tax returns, garnish accounts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At what point do you turn your ex in for failure to pay child support?

Is it an amount of time, or a dollar figure, that would prompt you?

To be clear about something, he doesn't owe you a cent.

[Anonymous]

Not the OP but if there is a court order for child support, yes he does owe the money to the custodial parent. The money is to be used for the child/children.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At what point do you turn your ex in for failure to pay child support?

Is it an amount of time, or a dollar figure, that would prompt you?

To be clear about something, he doesn't owe you a cent.

Oh STFU.

Yes, he does owe YOU. Have YOU been feeding, clothing, housing his child? I'm sure that YOU have been paying for things for your child that his money, had it materialized, would have paid for. He certainly does owe YOU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the OP but if there is a court order for child support, yes he does owe the money to the custodial parent. The money is to be used for the child/children.

This. Money is owed to the custodial parent. So legally yes her ex does owe her. The order doesn't say to pay it to the minor child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At what point do you turn your ex in for failure to pay child support?

Is it an amount of time, or a dollar figure, that would prompt you?

To be clear about something, he doesn't owe you a cent.

Oh STFU.

Yes, he does owe YOU. Have YOU been feeding, clothing, housing his child? I'm sure that YOU have been paying for things for your child that his money, had it materialized, would have paid for. He certainly does owe YOU.

Forgot to add...I write this as the wife of a man who pays child support to his ex faithfully and in full each month.