20 months apart. What will I need double of?

[Anonymous]

I'm expecting and my kids will be 20 months apart. I'm wondering if I need a few things. Would love to hear your experiences.

1) Double stroller? Maybe just a buggy board type thing? DD already gets annoyed if she has to be in the stroller too long and is getting more and more independent. So I'm wondering if a double stroller is necessary. I'll likely wear the new baby for the first couple of months but it'll be summer so that might get too hot.

2) A second crib? We're planning to keep the new baby in our room until around 4 months (cosleeper and then pack n' play).

3) A second glider? Do you still have a glider in your toddler's room? Right now we still use the glider with my DD to read bedtime stories, put her shoes on, console her in the middle of the night, etc.

Anything else I'm not thinking about?

[Anonymous]

We needed two boosters/high chairs eventually for meals with that age difference. And loved having a double stroller for longer outings when the older child got tired of walking. Did not bother with second crib nor second glider.

[Anonymous]

You will need double patience.

[Anonymous]

Mine are 17 months apart. No second crib. Mainly just double stroller and 2 eating chairs. You can just get the ones that belt into your chair yo save space and then you have the high chair later for the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 17 months apart. No second crib. Mainly just double stroller and 2 eating chairs. You can just get the ones that belt into your chair yo save space and then you have the high chair later for the baby.

Your older one can be in a big girl bed...just get rails if you are worried about her falling off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 17 months apart. No second crib. Mainly just double stroller and 2 eating chairs. You can just get the ones that belt into your chair yo save space and then you have the high chair later for the baby.

Your older one can be in a big girl bed...just get rails if you are worried about her falling off.

Oh.. And 2 car seats.

[Anonymous]

Mine are 16 months and we did need a second crib. Kept both kids in until 3, so it was a good investment for us.

[Anonymous]

Double stroller
Double crib - we shared the bed so when the baby arrived we sidecared each crib to each side of our bed to get us more room.
Another ergo so each one of us could wear a kid - we use the Ergos more than the stroller actually.
I ditched the high chair when dc1 was 12 mos. we had 2 INGLESINA hook on chairs on our table and once dc2 reached 18 mos the kids were eating alone in their own small table.
Once the baby arrived we realized we had to double blankets, boppy, and some toys since the older child got a bit jealous. We gave in to most of her wishes but now that they're 4-2 we work on sharing most of the stuff.

[Anonymous]

Mine will be 19 months apart (I'm due in a month), so I'm following this thread. However, all I've got doubles of at this point are a crib, car seat, and high chair/booster chair. I might get another diaper pail as well so the one we've got doesn't overflow so fast. I'm reusing all clothes (same gender), same toys, same supplies. I am making sure the white noise machine is working, so that we can try to minimize wakeups with the older one when the infant is crying. I did get another camera for the monitor so that we can have a camera in both rooms (eventually - the newborn will be with us for a while).

[Anonymous]

23 months apart here. Kept baby in pack n play for first 8 months so 2nd crib not needed. First kid despite taking metro to daycare hates stroller so she started walking everywhere and baby got the Maclaren. But for the first 6 months baby was in Bjorn so stroller was free in case we decided older one should be in stroller (like at Nats games, which we frequently attend).

Move older kid to a booster that sits on a chair at the table so you don't really need two high chairs.

And as PP said, lots of patience!

[Anonymous]

Ours are 20 months apart. Definitely double stroller - we highly recommend the city mini side-by-side version. We got a second crib since my son's crib converted to a toddler bed. Would not get a second glider. We did not get a second high chair, and we've managed without boosters, but I don't think we would have needed two. I'd just get a stroller and a crib and then figure it out as you go along.

And while it will be hard at first with two in diapers, once the little one gets to about 18 months, it is so much easier. They'll be close enough in age that they'll want to play with the same toys, watch the same cartoons, go to the same playgrounds.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

If you don't have a bumbo, get one. The 2 will be able to enjoy each other more once your LO is able to sit in the bumbo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine are 16 months and we did need a second crib. Kept both kids in until 3, so it was a good investment for us.

Same here. Kids are 21 months apart. I REALLY didn't want to deal with a 2 year old getting out of her bed all night on top of the baby feeding wakings. My older on never tried to climb out of her crib and was great at going to sleep (they are in the same room now, transitioned at 4 months). We got a cheaper crib from babies r us. Kids are now 3 and 1.5 and happily napping in their cribs.

[Anonymous]

I would get older child a strap booster for a regular chair. I would keep baby in a PNP for 4-6 months then transition older child to a twin bed with baby gate.

[Anonymous]

I don't have close in age kids, but I was a nanny for close in age kids, and I think you need a double stroller if you're planning on being out a lot with them. The reality with little kids is that sometimes you need them both contained. So you can go to the bathroom, or move things around or whatever. If you've got a single stroller, and the baby's in it, and you want to take the baby out and nurse, for example, but you're on a the metro platform where you can't really put your baby down or let go of your toddler, then switching them out is a complicated dance. But in the same situation where you can put your toddler in the stroller first, then take the other out? Easy. Same if you're wearing your baby and pushing your toddler, and you need to change toddler's diaper (something I'd rather not do with a baby in a front carrier). With a single stroller you need to take toddler out before you put baby in, and if your toddler is like many and doesn't want their diaper changed they'll dance away while you're undoing the ergo . . . Much easier to be able to put baby in and then take the toddler out.

As for the crib, why not just wait until baby is outgrowing the pack and play and see how you feel about moving the toddler then? How exhausted are you? Do you have a 4 m.o who sleeps well at night, and plenty of energy to focus on changing a bedtime routine for the older, or are you at a point where you'll gladly pay a few hundred dollars for an IKEA crib so you can put off the transition?

For the glider, it would largely depend on whether they were sharing a room or not.