Parents getting upset about any group invitation

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

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We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

Right. And it’s never ok to invite yourself or guilt/shame someone into inviting you to something, no matter what you overhear. Go make your own plans and control your emotions

If you felt shamed, don’t keep making the same mistake. Manage the crap coming out of your mouth first. Why are you resisting the obvious solution? Keep your social plans to yourself because you can’t control others.

“I” wasn’t shamed. You are spouting nonsense. This didn’t happen to me. But clearly that was the intent of the parent OP was talking about that confronted her over this situation

So, as you know, when you can't control other people, you have to control your own behavior. In this case, stop talking in front of others about your parties. That's all that is needed. Not trying to scold strangers about how they should or should not react to the initial rudeness.

Ok. And OP didn’t talk about. Neither did her kid. So move on

Instead of lashing out at this other mom, blame the kids who talked. There are reasons these social norms exist.

Child who mentioned it is 6 and overheard parents talking about it.

Maybe there is a solution? Careful what you say around your kids.

Not the solution nor the problem. Not getting invited to things is part of life. This was a small gathering. While generally people (should) try to avoid directly mentioning something to you they may not know if are invited to, there are no top secret social events. You may overhear others talking, you may see a picture, someone may inadvertently or indirectly allude or mention something- it happens and is generally not some intentional vendetta to hurt you. This isn’t an excuse to go ballistic and pester people for leaving you out and insisting you be invited next time. THAT is what you need to teach your kids.

“I refuse to change my behavior so you better change yours!” Good luck with that!

It’s not “my behavior” it’s reality. You won’t be invited to everything and you may sometimes know of things you weren’t invited to attend. You need to learn to manage your feelings. No one is entitled to go to all the things

Ok. And you can fully expect some parents who also doesn’t subscribe to social norms, like you, might have something to say about it. You were warned.

You are absolutely absurd. Just FYI.

NP

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

How else would op know that the kids were talking about this at school? This parent pointed it out, hopelessly it’s addressed. Some things are ok to talk about at school and some aren’t.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

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OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

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Anonymous wrote:Has she ever invited your kid to anything? Has she ever initiated plans?

You are not obligated to be anyone's social secretary.

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She needs to get over herself. I’m so tired of people like this.

Yea stop the people pleasing. The woman seems like an entitled b. You shouldn't have to explain a thing to her.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

How else would op know that the kids were talking about this at school? This parent pointed it out, hopelessly it’s addressed. Some things are ok to talk about at school and some aren’t.

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What just bumping every post you disagree with? Hungover today?

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

🤦‍♀️

OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

Maybe she just doesn’t like OP.

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Wacky that this thread has 24 pages.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

🤦‍♀️

OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

Maybe she just doesn’t like OP.

Then make you own group and stop whining, there’s 120 kids. Maybe the mom and kid should branch out and stop focusing on these 5 families.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

🤦‍♀️

OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

Maybe she just doesn’t like OP.

Then make you own group and stop whining, there’s 120 kids. Maybe the mom and kid should branch out and stop focusing on these 5 families.

A mom constantly ignoring OP has done that, OP is too dumb to read the room.

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

🤦‍♀️

OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

Maybe she just doesn’t like OP.

Then make you own group and stop whining, there’s 120 kids. Maybe the mom and kid should branch out and stop focusing on these 5 families.

A mom constantly ignoring OP has done that, OP is too dumb to read the room.

Not when you confront multiple people about it

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Anonymous wrote:All of you sound like a bunch of middle schoolers. I thought I was in the teen forum and couldn’t believe what I was reading and just noticed I was in the elementary forum. I must have clicked here by mistake.

Ignore the mom and stop caring what anyone thinks. Soon enough, you won’t even know the parents of your kids friends. - mom of teens

^^^^

We've just found the mom that does this stuff on purpose.

You are bananas. OP did nothing at all wrong and the other mom sounds unhinged. I cannot imagine caring about this or confronting another parent about not being invited to something. That is psycho

Psycho is not explaining to your kids social norms. Since you can't control others behavior, stop putting yourself in the position to get blow back. It's really very simple. Shut your mouth, and nothing will happen. You can't control others so control your own behavior, right?

It’s normal to occasionally find out about something you weren’t invited to for many reasons. This wasn’t a gathering at Camp David. I’ve had a friend ask me if I’m going to So and So’s dinner on the weekend (when I didn’t even know about it, i.e. I wasn’t invited). I just say, no, I’m not. I don’t make that person feel bad for mentioning it nor do I call up the host and harangue her for not inviting me. It’s not a big deal.

Read the op. A kid mentioned it to another kid. Kids shouldn’t do that. Because look what happens.

NP. I agree that parents should instruct their children not to discuss social events at school. But parents should also teach their kids that they will not be invited to every event, and that’s okay. Frankly it’s not even clear to me that the “excluded” child is upset. It’s the mother who seems to be taking all this very badly.

The mother said her piece and then has been silent. Not sure why OP isn’t picking up on her cues that she is no longer interested in a group that didn’t include her kid. This kid found out about a party and said something to their parent. What exactly did that kid do wrong?

I don’t think anyone really did anything terribly wrong. Yes, the kid shouldn’t have talked about the event at school, but apparently we’re discussing 6 year olds here. Hurt feelings are a part of life and this could be a teachable moment for the excluded child. Instead his mother is making it worse.

But the mom is just choosing to no longer interact with OP and the moms in this group. How does that make it worse? It sounds like OP doesn't want to socialize with this woman (or have her kid socialize with this woman's son), but she also needs the more to be friendly to her.

OP's hurt feelings over the mom's silent treatment are also a "part of life" that OP is having trouble dealing with. So much so that she started this thread and posted repeatedly to defend herself and attack this woman. Who cares? There are also people I am not friends with who don't speak to me, it's never occurred to me that this is a problem.

🤦‍♀️

OP posted because she’s gone above and beyond and the other mom is acting pissy and huffy. The excluded mom needs to take it down a notch. She’s a taker with thin skin and OP should cut her off completely.

The other mom has been aloof and non committal, OPs exact words. The exact opposite of huffy and pissy. I guess OP is miffed that his woman isn’t leaping at her invitations. Her kid got hurt by this crowd once and she’s not letting it happen again.

Nope. “Silent treatment” isn’t appropriate behavior for 5-year-olds, let alone grown women. Try again.

Maybe she just doesn’t like OP.

Then make you own group and stop whining, there’s 120 kids. Maybe the mom and kid should branch out and stop focusing on these 5 families.

A mom constantly ignoring OP has done that, OP is too dumb to read the room.

Not when you confront multiple people about it

I guess they get what they give. Why should people here care?