Wife's Phone Bill

[Anonymous]

My DD and DW share a cell phone account. I pay the bill every month. Yesterday, I went on-line to check the bill in order to pay it and found that the security code is changed. When I asked my DW about it, she said she doesn't want me "snooping" into her phone. I think it's time for her to start paying her own bill then. Why would she do this unless she has something to hide?

[Anonymous]

sounds like a plan. Report back after you stop paying the bill.

[Anonymous]

I think you have bigger problems if you are thinking about this question as "I pay her bill" and "she should pay her own bill" rather than we have family expenses and those expenses get paid out of our joint income. That being said, I would never think of having a cellphone or a cellphone bill that my husband didn't have access to and I would expect that he would never have one of those things that I didn't have access to. I pay all the bills (in that I physically write the checks out of our joint checking account) but he is free to see all of them if he wants to. He also has the code to get onto my iPhone and feels free to punch it in and use my phone to surf if we are out an about.

Maybe ask your wife what is bothering her about your current cellphone arrangement that makes her feel like she needs to keep this information from you. I bet it has nothing to do with what she doesn't want you to see on her phone and more to do with the fact that your marriage seems to have a strange relationship between separate and shared resources and the power dynamic between the two.

[Anonymous]

Well Desi, let us know when you let Lucy sing at the Tropicana and well get back to you after that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you have bigger problems if you are thinking about this question as "I pay her bill" and "she should pay her own bill" rather than we have family expenses and those expenses get paid out of our joint income. That being said, I would never think of having a cellphone or a cellphone bill that my husband didn't have access to and I would expect that he would never have one of those things that I didn't have access to. I pay all the bills (in that I physically write the checks out of our joint checking account) but he is free to see all of them if he wants to. He also has the code to get onto my iPhone and feels free to punch it in and use my phone to surf if we are out an about.

Maybe ask your wife what is bothering her about your current cellphone arrangement that makes her feel like she needs to keep this information from you. I bet it has nothing to do with what she doesn't want you to see on her phone and more to do with the fact that your marriage seems to have a strange relationship between separate and shared resources and the power dynamic between the two.

What a tortured response. It's far more likely she's texting another dude.

[Anonymous]

Dude, she's texting another guy. Obviously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Dude, she's texting another guy. Obviously.

Cell phone bills do not show texting details.. She is calling someone.

[Anonymous]

Are you separated from your wife? Why does she have a cell phone account that doesn't include your phone?

[Anonymous]

Cell phone bills can show texting details. At least the number that was texted.

[Anonymous]

change the code back. simply call the provider and say you forgot the code and they will reset it. You have the accoutn #, all the billing info. they will ask what the amount was of the last bill you piad.

boom done.

[Anonymous]

Check the texting history. Use reverse cell phone lookup to see who it is. I hope it is nothing. All the best.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you separated from your wife? Why does she have a cell phone account that doesn't include your phone?

i get my cell phone through work.

[Anonymous]

If she doesn't want you paying the bill she can pay it herself.

I wouldn't be surprised if she were texting/phoning another guy.

OTOH ... Have you hassled her in the past about numbers you didn't recognize?

[Anonymous]

If she was texting another guy she'd buy a separate shag-phone at Target, and not be so dumb as to use a phone tied to your account. Unless she is a dufus, in which case you should dump her.

[Anonymous]

Plenty of doofus guys and gals text/call the side piece from their own cell phone. Yes, you can get a shag-phone but most don't bother...