Annoyed with DH

[Anonymous]

37 wks pregnant. Husband has known for months he has to take these exams for his job, he holds them off till I'm 39 wks. He barely studies, out with friends now. I'm exhausted,asked him to wash blanket for bed,it doesn't dry,but he just puts it and wet pillow cases on bed. They just didnt dry completely, but he didnt do anything to help it dry. I'm pissed. Sorry. Maybe it's hormones.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. Get over it. Jesus.

[Anonymous]

dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

Thank you! I'm just so exhausted. Trying to take care of dinners, laundry, cleaning. I'm going on strike I think. I just need some rest. I sympathize with DH bc hes had a lot going on in life and hes been busier than i have at work. But i cant do it anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

Why would he need to be 100% attentive to her needs? He probably still needs to work and he is still an individual human being who also has value despite not being pregnant. Should he be supportive and considerate - of course.

[Anonymous]

Go on strike. Seriously. And u hope you and dh have had some serious talks about who will be doing cleaning/laundry/cooking once this baby is born. It should not be you....get some rest and congrats!

[Anonymous]

Get some rest. You really don't need to be doing the housework beyond basics. If he won't do it, it'll slip a bit but who cares? As long as you don't have mystery mold growing just relax.
Putting wet bedding on the bed is plain lazy though, it's better not to even wash it if that's what he's gonna do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

Why would he need to be 100% attentive to her needs? He probably still needs to work and he is still an individual human being who also has value despite not being pregnant. Should he be supportive and considerate - of course.

are you a father? are you a good father? no and no. then STFU.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

Why would he need to be 100% attentive to her needs? He probably still needs to work and he is still an individual human being who also has value despite not being pregnant. Should he be supportive and considerate - of course.

are you a father? are you a good father? no and no. then STFU.

Get off my Internet.

[Anonymous]

I don't care whether he is 100% attentive to her needs or not. Who the HELL puts a wet blanket and pillowcases on the bed? A twelve year old? This is just weird and crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care whether he is 100% attentive to her needs or not. Who the HELL puts a wet blanket and pillowcases on the bed? A twelve year old? This is just weird and crazy!

Exactly.

Hang in there OP. As others have said, back off on being super wife/mom. Order take-out. Let husband pick up groceries on his way home. Let things slide.

[Anonymous]

Dump him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:dad here - i may be hormones but you should be pissed b/ at 37 weeks, he needs to be and should 100% attentive to your needs. yeah, it sucks he has to study for his exams but his thoughts should've been different - what if you deliver early? then what?

just sucks you're going through this and even as a man, heart goes out to you. but chin up, your incredible bundle of joy is almost here!

Why would he need to be 100% attentive to her needs? He probably still needs to work and he is still an individual human being who also has value despite not being pregnant. Should he be supportive and considerate - of course.

are you a father? are you a good father? no and no. then STFU.

Get off my Internet.

Seriously. He needs to be 100% attentive? That's ridiculous unless she's on bed rest. Yes, he should pull more than 50% of the weight for household items, but 100% is unreasonable.

OP, sorry your DH isn't even hitting the 50% mark. I agree with PPs, put your feet up, do only what is necessary to maintain your comfort. Good luck over the next few weeks and congratulations!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't care whether he is 100% attentive to her needs or not. Who the HELL puts a wet blanket and pillowcases on the bed? A twelve year old? This is just weird and crazy!

He sounds distracted. Maybe he needed to go out with friends to blow off steam. Of course, you also need to blow off steam! The exam procrastination thing sounds very annoying. But I am a master procrastinator, so I can imagine winding up in the same boat, even if pregnant me was taking the exams! (Procrastination example: I was in labor before we started putting the baby's bassinet together!)

Deep breath, OP. Let go whatever chores, errands, etc. can be let go. Get yourself a little pampering (facial, pedicure, daytime trip to the movies, etc.). Your guy will step up when the baby is here and things become tangible for him. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

he's sowing his wild oats before his freedom is completely gone when the child comes.