BIL wants to change vacation plans

[Anonymous]

My BIL called my husband last month and said they would be in our area on the way down to the beach. He said he wanted to meet up at Busch Gardens in Williamsburg, Va. Kinda out of our way but we said OK.

He did not know of any resorts or restaurants in Williamsburg, Va. I called around and found a great rate at a high end resort. I also made dinner reservations at a nice restaurant for 12 people.

He now informed me they are going to stay in a different hotel and to cancel dinner reservations. This is for this weekend.

I am kind of miffed. It is hard to get a large group together and meet up without plans.

I am not going to change our resort reservation since it is too late. I have a feeling they want to come over and hang out at our resort. I don't think this is a good idea since this resort has a guard and you must give everyone's name who is staying in the room to use the amenities.

What do we tell them?

[Anonymous]

Go down, stay at the resort, meet them at Busch Gardens one day, have a nice weekend. Don't overthink it. If they are staying elsewhere because they don't want to afford a high-end resort and a nice restaurant, then you would feel bad if you made a big deal out of it.

[Anonymous]

Did you book the hotel for BIL? Is everyone sharing the cost of the dinner?

Sounds to me like your plans were out of their financial reach.

[Anonymous]

1424++ It's nice that your BIL wants to get together. No reason you should be miffed about his choice of a lower end hotel/restaurant.

[Anonymous]

Go enjoy your weekend and meet up BIL and his family at bush gardens, I'm guessing you are staying at great wolf lodge (water park for guest only) and that's fine they don't have to stay but that means they can't play. If you want to have this nice big group dinner offer to foot the bill or cancel it, it's likely out of there budget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you book the hotel for BIL? Is everyone sharing the cost of the dinner?

Sounds to me like your plans were out of their financial reach.

+1

[Anonymous]

We are not staying at the Great Wolf Lodge. We have older kids.


I don't think it is out of their financial reach but I could be wrong. We have stayed at places like this before with no problem.

We are paying for dinner.

[Anonymous]

If you're paying for dinner for 12 -- why is BIL cancelling?

There's more to this than you're telling.

[Anonymous]

Does BIL know you are paying for dinner? Is the place they are staying too far from the restaurant or too late in the evening if they have young kids?

[Anonymous]

OP here. I was getting worried the resort I picked was too costly and I starting to feel bad.

I called my SIL and asked what hotel they are staying at. My BIL failed to mention in his email they are staying in Virginia beach and driving up for the day.

All is well.

[Anonymous]

Glad it worked out. And good for you for picking up the phone. Voice trumps email. Every time.

[Anonymous]

Plans change sometimes to accommodate this/that. At least they let you know in advance.

Maybe plan should be made by the ladies only. Easier to communicate, sometimes.