So angry at BIL/SIL

[Anonymous]

We are all staying with gparents for the week. We have two kids, ages 6 and 3. They have three kids, ages 3, 5, and 7. Without asking us, they left to run errands for three hours (and counting) and left the kids with us. The time we they were gone included dinner time. They keep very, very strict kosher and they didnt give us any instructions about what their kids are allowed to eat. I just fed them what I served my kids and they can deal. If they don't come back soon, it will also be bedtime. No word from the, about when they're coming home.

[Anonymous]

Accident?

Please post back when you know.

If not, here's an anecdote: my SIL and her SIL had a falling out when their kids were little, because my SIL dumped her 4 children on the other woman for the whole day while she went out with her husband. Came back in the evening and did not apologize. Now their children are college-bound and the rift is still not healed!

Read them the riot act when they get home.

[Anonymous]

That is just weird, worrisome and rude all at the same time. Such young kids to just up and leave with no instructions what-so-ever. Really very strange for them to do that. And, yes, I would be upset, too.

[Anonymous]

I'd fed the kids a chili cheese dog (pork), a glass of milk, and lots of sugar. Not cool. At all. I'd return the favor tomorrow morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd fed the kids a chili cheese dog (pork), a glass of milk, and lots of sugar. Not cool. At all. I'd return the favor tomorrow morning.

You sound like a despicable human being.

[Anonymous]

why don't you just call?? If this were me, I would have texted-- where are you guys? What do your kids want for dinner? If no response, I would have called. If no response then, I would be worried about an accident or maybe a really big fight that they are working through.

[Anonymous]

Where are the grandparents? Why are you responsible for those kids?

[Anonymous]

No accident. They walked in a few minutes before we were about to start bedtime, didnt thank us at all, and handed out junk food to all the kids before I could say anything.

I have a lot of problems with how they parent anyway and this is just icing o. The cake.

[Anonymous]

You need to confront them about this.
Summon them to the kitchen or wherever, tonight, and tell them that you never want to be treated like that again.
That this is not fair on their children either, since they had no idea where their parents where or when they would come back.
That you were afraid for their safety.
That in the future they should always say how long they will be gone and call if they cannot meet that time. This is basic courtesy and they need to do this for anyone who watches their children.
Except that there will likely be no future babysitting unless they apologize and promise never to do this again.

Avoid staying in the same house with them, because you will likely be put in the same position again.

[Anonymous]

A friend did this to me about 2 months ago. They did however, ask me to watch their child, and I agreed. But they came back THREE HOURS after they said they would. I was worried sick and texted/called, but did not hear back for about 2.5 of those hours. They didn't apologize, they didn't take responsibility, even when I said I felt taken advantage of a few days later. It's caused a rift, but to me you just don't do this to people. It's been 2 months and we're still not on great terms. But I can't imagine helping them out again unless it's a real emergency..

[Anonymous]

Strict kosher drove them temporarily insane and they needed a break.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely say something to them. They should know that you were worried about them, you didn't know where they were, their kids were hungry and you didn't know what (or even if) to feed them and you had no way of reaching them.

It sounds as though they wanted a date night together, needed someone (you) to watch their kids but didn't want to do the same favor for you and your hubby. So they rudely ditched the kids without saying a word to you - knowing that their kiddos would be fine with you - and that you would be so appalled you would never, ever ask them to watch your kids. Or at least that's sure what it sounds like.

[Anonymous]

NOT cool.

[Anonymous]

Sister and BIL did the same to us once. They left DN at my house from 7 am until 10 pm. They were supposed to be gone 3 hours max. They turned off cell phones went to buy a car several hours away. I have not watched DN since. It's been 4yrs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd fed the kids a chili cheese dog (pork), a glass of milk, and lots of sugar. Not cool. At all. I'd return the favor tomorrow morning.

I'd have gone for the bacon-wrapped shrimp, myself.