asking for money for hosting teens tacky?

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Anonymous wrote:Those kids (and parents) are lucky to get a free stay in OP's Beach House. Why would OP have to pay for all of the meals for 7!!! 17 year old kids??!! That's a lot of money and if any of the parents think that's ok, they are out of their mind. They should give their kids money to buy snacks and food.

The only people who won't think to offer (which is the tacky part- your kid gets invited, of course you offer) are people who grew up rich and don't even empathize that this could be an expense. Also the takers.

People who grew up poor and normal people would offer to pay for meals as a matter of course.

Wrong.

Plenty of working class immigrant families would feed everyone in an analogous situation. It’s a matter of hospitality and generosity and having class/pride.

Look at ethnic weddings, for example.

Wrong? Did you even read? PP said people who grew up poor would offer to pay.
Even if the host was a working class immigrant themself which is not even a factor in this discussion, and insisting on feeding everyone, working class people would still check and offer. You're not even making sense.

Most of us gladly feed people and pay.

You don’t ever do things like this. One dinner is nothing.

I regularly feed kids - especially the HS sports team. I provide all the food, cook and clean up. Usually, we rotate homes but I do the bulk of it and don't complain. It’s easy to do it cheaply for 20-25 kids. Usually it’s weekly for 10 weeks.

You seriously need to stop making things up. Why are the high school teams of 20-25 teens regularly coming to your house? What’s the purpose? Never heard of this in my entire life.

Its part of the team culture to do weekly meals before meets.

It's team culture that one sucker does the bulk of it? Some culture.

Never heard of it because it’s actually stupid, obviously the previous poster has no clue about athletics. Athletes need specific nutrition, customized to how their body is processing the food and the demands of the sport. Communal meals tend to stimulate overeating which is why no team is doing them as part of the “culture”. No athlete wants to be fed before the meet pasta and instant ramen on the cheap. If anything there is a celebration meal at the end of the season after the game.

Then you are pretty ignorant. Pasta weekly dinners are the expectation. No ramen. You sound lazy.

Boiling a few pounds of pasta and dumping sauce on them and serving bagged salad is peak laziness. You serve garbage food and expect kudos.

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Anonymous wrote:Those kids (and parents) are lucky to get a free stay in OP's Beach House. Why would OP have to pay for all of the meals for 7!!! 17 year old kids??!! That's a lot of money and if any of the parents think that's ok, they are out of their mind. They should give their kids money to buy snacks and food.

The only people who won't think to offer (which is the tacky part- your kid gets invited, of course you offer) are people who grew up rich and don't even empathize that this could be an expense. Also the takers.

People who grew up poor and normal people would offer to pay for meals as a matter of course.

Wrong.

Plenty of working class immigrant families would feed everyone in an analogous situation. It’s a matter of hospitality and generosity and having class/pride.

Look at ethnic weddings, for example.

Wrong? Did you even read? PP said people who grew up poor would offer to pay.
Even if the host was a working class immigrant themself which is not even a factor in this discussion, and insisting on feeding everyone, working class people would still check and offer. You're not even making sense.

Most of us gladly feed people and pay.

You don’t ever do things like this. One dinner is nothing.

I regularly feed kids - especially the HS sports team. I provide all the food, cook and clean up. Usually, we rotate homes but I do the bulk of it and don't complain. It’s easy to do it cheaply for 20-25 kids. Usually it’s weekly for 10 weeks.

You seriously need to stop making things up. Why are the high school teams of 20-25 teens regularly coming to your house? What’s the purpose? Never heard of this in my entire life.

Its part of the team culture to do weekly meals before meets.

It's team culture that one sucker does the bulk of it? Some culture.

I prefer the kids at my house where they are safe.

We know you have tiny kids at your house. A teen isn't "unsafe" because they go to another house for a weekly dinner. Nobody needs your input about teen norms when you keep talking about catering the tiny tot pre meet dinner. It's completely irrelevant.

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If you can’t be hospitable at your beach house don’t have guests.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can’t be hospitable at your beach house don’t have guests.

Thanks for chiming in, taker.

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Anonymous wrote:Those kids (and parents) are lucky to get a free stay in OP's Beach House. Why would OP have to pay for all of the meals for 7!!! 17 year old kids??!! That's a lot of money and if any of the parents think that's ok, they are out of their mind. They should give their kids money to buy snacks and food.

The only people who won't think to offer (which is the tacky part- your kid gets invited, of course you offer) are people who grew up rich and don't even empathize that this could be an expense. Also the takers.

People who grew up poor and normal people would offer to pay for meals as a matter of course.

Wrong.

Plenty of working class immigrant families would feed everyone in an analogous situation. It’s a matter of hospitality and generosity and having class/pride.

Look at ethnic weddings, for example.

Wrong? Did you even read? PP said people who grew up poor would offer to pay.
Even if the host was a working class immigrant themself which is not even a factor in this discussion, and insisting on feeding everyone, working class people would still check and offer. You're not even making sense.

Most of us gladly feed people and pay.

You don’t ever do things like this. One dinner is nothing.

I regularly feed kids - especially the HS sports team. I provide all the food, cook and clean up. Usually, we rotate homes but I do the bulk of it and don't complain. It’s easy to do it cheaply for 20-25 kids. Usually it’s weekly for 10 weeks.

You seriously need to stop making things up. Why are the high school teams of 20-25 teens regularly coming to your house? What’s the purpose? Never heard of this in my entire life.

Its part of the team culture to do weekly meals before meets.

It's team culture that one sucker does the bulk of it? Some culture.

Never heard of it because it’s actually stupid, obviously the previous poster has no clue about athletics. Athletes need specific nutrition, customized to how their body is processing the food and the demands of the sport. Communal meals tend to stimulate overeating which is why no team is doing them as part of the “culture”. No athlete wants to be fed before the meet pasta and instant ramen on the cheap. If anything there is a celebration meal at the end of the season after the game.

Then you are pretty ignorant. Pasta weekly dinners are the expectation. No ramen. You sound lazy.

Pasta weekly dinners are your bizarre expectation. My kid doesn’t eat pasta or cheese, so pizza is also out of question. Not everybody is enthusiastic about your generously provided garbage meal prepared on the cheap in large quantities. I’m certain my kid prefers to buy his own food that is nutritious and tasty instead of humoring your cheap hosting fantasies. Mind boggling that you think you’re doing anyone a favor.

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I don't understand what's the big deal. I think the friends should be grateful they get to go to a nice beach house for a week with each other. OP, don't ask for money but you can tell your kid to tell his friends, "Hey, my mom will have food at the house for us but just bring enough money for when we're out and about." Or OP can say the same if any of the parents ask. That's what we've been doing the past couple of summers. We host my kid's friends and I always have enough in groceries for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. When the girls go out, they bring their own spending money for shopping, activities, and random eats; although I find that most of them would rather save their money and eat most of the meals at the house. No big deal. Pasta one night, tacos the other, fried rice the next. It's actually nice and the girls even help cook.

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Anonymous wrote:Those kids (and parents) are lucky to get a free stay in OP's Beach House. Why would OP have to pay for all of the meals for 7!!! 17 year old kids??!! That's a lot of money and if any of the parents think that's ok, they are out of their mind. They should give their kids money to buy snacks and food.

The only people who won't think to offer (which is the tacky part- your kid gets invited, of course you offer) are people who grew up rich and don't even empathize that this could be an expense. Also the takers.

People who grew up poor and normal people would offer to pay for meals as a matter of course.

Wrong.

Plenty of working class immigrant families would feed everyone in an analogous situation. It’s a matter of hospitality and generosity and having class/pride.

Look at ethnic weddings, for example.

Wrong? Did you even read? PP said people who grew up poor would offer to pay.
Even if the host was a working class immigrant themself which is not even a factor in this discussion, and insisting on feeding everyone, working class people would still check and offer. You're not even making sense.

Most of us gladly feed people and pay.

You don’t ever do things like this. One dinner is nothing.

I regularly feed kids - especially the HS sports team. I provide all the food, cook and clean up. Usually, we rotate homes but I do the bulk of it and don't complain. It’s easy to do it cheaply for 20-25 kids. Usually it’s weekly for 10 weeks.

You seriously need to stop making things up. Why are the high school teams of 20-25 teens regularly coming to your house? What’s the purpose? Never heard of this in my entire life.

Its part of the team culture to do weekly meals before meets.

It's team culture that one sucker does the bulk of it? Some culture.

Never heard of it because it’s actually stupid, obviously the previous poster has no clue about athletics. Athletes need specific nutrition, customized to how their body is processing the food and the demands of the sport. Communal meals tend to stimulate overeating which is why no team is doing them as part of the “culture”. No athlete wants to be fed before the meet pasta and instant ramen on the cheap. If anything there is a celebration meal at the end of the season after the game.

Then you are pretty ignorant. Pasta weekly dinners are the expectation. No ramen. You sound lazy.

Pasta weekly dinners are your bizarre expectation. My kid doesn’t eat pasta or cheese, so pizza is also out of question. Not everybody is enthusiastic about your generously provided garbage meal prepared on the cheap in large quantities. I’m certain my kid prefers to buy his own food that is nutritious and tasty instead of humoring your cheap hosting fantasies. Mind boggling that you think you’re doing anyone a favor.

Difficult houseguest alert. Your kid’s not invited to the beach house.

[Anonymous]

Nothing bothers me more than parents who criticize the food being offered to their kids. Or fuss around the idea that the meal might not be good enough or at the right time for their athlete.

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Anonymous wrote:If you can’t be hospitable at your beach house don’t have guests.

Thanks for chiming in, taker.

oink onk

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Anonymous wrote:Nothing bothers me more than parents who criticize the food being offered to their kids. Or fuss around the idea that the meal might not be good enough or at the right time for their athlete.

I don’t have a problem with my kid critically evaluate the food you put in front of him. I hope he’ll be polite, but I refuse to make him ingest any crap you deem satisfactory and force him to eat on your schedule. It’s fine to have different standards, and you can call my kid fussy all you want.

The issue is when you decide the way you do things should be the rule for everyone to follow and that recipients of your low budget culinary creations should be grateful for any garbage you concocted.

That’s why you let teens figure out what they eat within a budget instead of imposing on everyone else.