is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the concern of kids meeting a partner in college: My peers had 2 waves of marriage. First group was around mid to late 20's after college/grad school and the other wave was late 30's. The latter 30's group were professional woman who struggled to find a partner. These were all smart, beautiful and fun women. It's more difficult outside of school, particularly these days with workplace restrictions on dating due to possible grounds for harassment. We have 3 kids. One met partner in college (married age 28), 1 met a coworker and hid their relationship for 2 years, and 1 is in college and still dating a hs boyfriend long distance. I also have 3 beautiful single nieces age 28-34 that are struggling to meet someone and so frustrated with online dating. Gone are the days of meeting someone at a party, bar or work. Its not easy... Although I am in no rush to have my kids marry, I am aware of the current challenging dating dynamics and limitations outside a school and workplace environment.

So what schools are best for decent suitors?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD is destined for one of the Ivies; her books include 2 legacy parents as well as grandparents, significant alumni giving over many years, etc. Admission is not in doubt.

However, we do feel some trepidation at the rapidly growing demographic crisis affecting our respective Alma maters and how it may affect the pool of eligible suitors for her.

I'm sure she'll still be able to find an "eligible suitor" on an Ivy campus. Poor guy.

[Anonymous]

^ oh my Abraham, our little Jewish Larla is going to marry some Christian East Asian guy, what will we ever do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Regarding the concern of kids meeting a partner in college: My peers had 2 waves of marriage. First group was around mid to late 20's after college/grad school and the other wave was late 30's. The latter 30's group were professional woman who struggled to find a partner. These were all smart, beautiful and fun women. It's more difficult outside of school, particularly these days with workplace restrictions on dating due to possible grounds for harassment. We have 3 kids. One met partner in college (married age 28), 1 met a coworker and hid their relationship for 2 years, and 1 is in college and still dating a hs boyfriend long distance. I also have 3 beautiful single nieces age 28-34 that are struggling to meet someone and so frustrated with online dating. Gone are the days of meeting someone at a party, bar or work. Its not easy... Although I am in no rush to have my kids marry, I am aware of the current challenging dating dynamics and limitations outside a school and workplace environment.

The hot guy is either gay, his jewish mom said only jewish girls or they won't pay for college and law school, or fits in both of these

[Anonymous]

With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

Also if white girls are not in to Asian guys, forget it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

Also if white girls are not in to Asian guys, forget it.

So what is your white girl going to do before applying? Look up race makeup on CDS?

[Anonymous]

Senior day at Penn State versus Mich State football game at MI State. The young men students in attendance at the stadium think they need to take off their shirts. Maybe OP's kid can find their spouse at that game.

[Anonymous]

Like many others, I am hopeful my kids will wait until age 25 at earliest to find their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not something I'm worried about, but interestingly, for both of my daughters that is part of their "plan."

They have a lot of single older cousins so maybe that has influenced them plus the general societal angst about how hard it is to find someone and how horrible dating is in this day and age.

It’s unlikely. Grad school is a good time though.

+1 my kids have zero interest in finding a spouse in college. I know a lot more people who met their spouses in grad school vs undergrad

My general experience has been that high achieving men marry their grad school girlfriends, much to the chagrin of their college girlfriends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

Also if white girls are not in to Asian guys, forget it.

This is becoming a bigger problem every year at the Ivies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

I can't imagine the girls are fine with it.

[Anonymous]

It seems parents here are hoping to control who and when their kids date or marry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems parents here are hoping to control who and when their kids date or marry?

It’s DCUM, they think they can control everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:With one at an Ivy, I hear it's most a random hookup scene. One guy sleeping with 5 girls and the girls are fine with it. Too many hetero girls to hetero guys ratio makes it very difficult to date.

Also if white girls are not in to Asian guys, forget it.

So what is your white girl going to do before applying? Look up race makeup on CDS?

Okay I am a dp with a white guy and I do look up the makeups…