Too sweaty to dress cute in the summer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys are champs in gaslighting. Can’t believe people feel the needy to bully someone about how they should sweat in clothes.

+1.

You all are SO f$cking stupid sometimes! Why would someone go to DCUM and make up a lie about how they sweat a lot?! Jesus. Here’s a tip: you almost never have the slightest clue what you’re talking about. Behave accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Honestly this post isn't necessarily about how much OP sweats, it's about her tolerance for sweat / feeling sweaty. I wear whatever I want during the summer, for all I know I sweat just as much as OP, but I don't mind it. I freaking hate being cold though, it's just a preference thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I find it hard to believe you are “too sweaty” to wear anything but athletic shorts and tanks. People all over the world in much warmer climates tolerate regular clothes. Men, who are typically much more sweaty than women, wear regular clothes. This is an issue of your personal tolerance, rather too much sweat.

Ignore this poster, who lacks any knowledge of anatomy and physiology.

My personal approach to this problem is to shop high and low to score the absolute thinnest cotton weave dresses on the market. Sometimes you find them at Old Navy or World Market or H & M for $14. Sometimes they're in the Ralph Lauren section of Bloomies for $150. %100 cotton voile is the best.

Choose sleeveless, always. No waistbands. If you need to wear sleeves in an office to be professional, keep a cardigan at work.

While you're in the store (no online shopping, you must kick the tires so to speak), hold the fabric up to the light and make sure the weave is very, very open. Is a ton of light showing through? Can you see how many fingers you're holding up while looking through the fabric? Then it's acceptable.

If you're an athletic size 4, consider skipping a bra. Choose undies that are thong or thong-like -- do not cover up your butt cheeks with lots of wicking-not-wicking fabric!!

This is the type of dress I wear instead of shorts and tank to run errands, etc
https://www.endource.com/product/arket-cotton-voile-slip-dress/X2YpvUbg-wABN3Jc

Same fabric, slightly more coverage for dining out when it's 95 (no bra, yes thong)
https://www.net-a-porter.com/en-us/shop/product/vince/clothing/midi-dresses/cotton-voile-midi-dress/22831760542493239

I was with you on all of this guidance until “yes thong.” Why in the world would you want something crawling up your butt when it’s hot and sweaty out? Yuck. Better to just go commando.

I am very sweaty and I hate all this advice. The last thing I want is some see-through dress, open armpits that stink, and the knowledge people can see my nipples and bare a** through my clingy dress. I feel like PP is an exhibitionist. As a non-exhibitionist, I have come to prefer short sleeves to sleeveless in the summer - and I just change my shirt a couple times a day. I usually wear shorts because I feel more tucked in. With underpants because I am an adult who lives in the world, and not a made up character on some fanfic porn site.

Anyway, yes OP - I feel like one of the sweaty ones, too.

Wow, PP. That is quite a reaction to the totally non-scandalous dresses that the other poster showed. I'm a sweaty person who doesn't like to use tons of AC. I agree with the lightweight dress suggestion. I personally don't like a lot of fabric on my shoulders/arms/upper back or on my lower legs in the summer. I find that even a lightweight voile sleeves prevents evaporative cooling from breezes. I stick to above the knee dresses with small straps, cotton underpants, no bra (or thin cotton bralette). I find that this is way cooler than shorts and a tank on the hottest, most humid days. Someone dressing appropriately for hot weather is not exhibitionism... take your prudery elsewhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly this post isn't necessarily about how much OP sweats, it's about her tolerance for sweat / feeling sweaty. I wear whatever I want during the summer, for all I know I sweat just as much as OP, but I don't mind it. I freaking hate being cold though, it's just a preference thing.

This. OP is claiming she sweats more than the rest of us, but it's DC in the summertime! I spent 25 minutes outside this morning dropping my kid at camp and felt like showering when I got home. I sweat. It's impossible for me to know if I sweat more or less than OP, but it would not be possible for me to sweat any more than I currently do.

Also, I had a job for several years where I had to wear a full suit every day and I didn't have a car and couldn't afford cabs that often. So for years, I had to wear suits for a metro + walking commute every day. You just get used to it (and find a really good dry cleaner that offers bulk discounts).

So now that I have the option of wearing cotton and linen dresses and skirts, or cute blouses with joggers or whatever, I just sweat through them and deal. It's all better than a wool-blend shift dress and having to carry a jacket around all day. And flat sandals versus close-toed heels? Please.

So no, even if you sweat a lot, you don't have to wear athletic shorts and tanks every day. I mean, do it if that's what you like, but of course you can "dress cute" in the summer. We're all sweaty. You have to just get over it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I find it hard to believe you are “too sweaty” to wear anything but athletic shorts and tanks. People all over the world in much warmer climates tolerate regular clothes. Men, who are typically much more sweaty than women, wear regular clothes. This is an issue of your personal tolerance, rather too much sweat.

Ignore this poster, who lacks any knowledge of anatomy and physiology.

My personal approach to this problem is to shop high and low to score the absolute thinnest cotton weave dresses on the market. Sometimes you find them at Old Navy or World Market or H & M for $14. Sometimes they're in the Ralph Lauren section of Bloomies for $150. %100 cotton voile is the best.

Choose sleeveless, always. No waistbands. If you need to wear sleeves in an office to be professional, keep a cardigan at work.

While you're in the store (no online shopping, you must kick the tires so to speak), hold the fabric up to the light and make sure the weave is very, very open. Is a ton of light showing through? Can you see how many fingers you're holding up while looking through the fabric? Then it's acceptable.

If you're an athletic size 4, consider skipping a bra. Choose undies that are thong or thong-like -- do not cover up your butt cheeks with lots of wicking-not-wicking fabric!!

This is the type of dress I wear instead of shorts and tank to run errands, etc
https://www.endource.com/product/arket-cotton-voile-slip-dress/X2YpvUbg-wABN3Jc

Same fabric, slightly more coverage for dining out when it's 95 (no bra, yes thong)
https://www.net-a-porter.com/en-us/shop/product/vince/clothing/midi-dresses/cotton-voile-midi-dress/22831760542493239

I was with you on all of this guidance until “yes thong.” Why in the world would you want something crawling up your butt when it’s hot and sweaty out? Yuck. Better to just go commando.

I am very sweaty and I hate all this advice. The last thing I want is some see-through dress, open armpits that stink, and the knowledge people can see my nipples and bare a** through my clingy dress. I feel like PP is an exhibitionist. As a non-exhibitionist, I have come to prefer short sleeves to sleeveless in the summer - and I just change my shirt a couple times a day. I usually wear shorts because I feel more tucked in. With underpants because I am an adult who lives in the world, and not a made up character on some fanfic porn site.

Anyway, yes OP - I feel like one of the sweaty ones, too.

Wow, PP. That is quite a reaction to the totally non-scandalous dresses that the other poster showed. I'm a sweaty person who doesn't like to use tons of AC. I agree with the lightweight dress suggestion. I personally don't like a lot of fabric on my shoulders/arms/upper back or on my lower legs in the summer. I find that even a lightweight voile sleeves prevents evaporative cooling from breezes. I stick to above the knee dresses with small straps, cotton underpants, no bra (or thin cotton bralette). I find that this is way cooler than shorts and a tank on the hottest, most humid days. Someone dressing appropriately for hot weather is not exhibitionism... take your prudery elsewhere.

Lightweight dresses are great. PP was suggesting OP hold a dress to the light to make sure it's see-through, then not wear a bra or underwear with it. That's a bit beyond trying to stay cool, and into trying to make everyone look at your privates territory. If that's your thing, cool - I just didn't get the sense OP was asking for how to not sweat so much while also making everyone on the street take a good look at her nipples and butt cheeks.

[Anonymous]

Lightweight dresses are great. PP was suggesting OP hold a dress to the light to make sure it's see-through, then not wear a bra or underwear with it. That's a bit beyond trying to stay cool, and into trying to make everyone look at your privates territory. If that's your thing, cool - I just didn't get the sense OP was asking for how to not sweat so much while also making everyone on the street take a good look at her nipples and butt cheeks.

But... PP said "As a non-exhibitionist, I have come to prefer short sleeves to sleeveless in the summer". I mean... I can't believe that a reasonable person in hotter than Hades DC would find a sleeveless top to be something only an exhibitionist would wear.

[Anonymous]

I sweat a lot because I walk quickly (I'm a Northerner). I have noticed that locals and Southerners are much slower when walking on the sidewalk, and assume that's why I am a sweaty mess all summer.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No. I find it hard to believe you are “too sweaty” to wear anything but athletic shorts and tanks. People all over the world in much warmer climates tolerate regular clothes. Men, who are typically much more sweaty than women, wear regular clothes. This is an issue of your personal tolerance, rather too much sweat.

Ignore this poster, who lacks any knowledge of anatomy and physiology.

My personal approach to this problem is to shop high and low to score the absolute thinnest cotton weave dresses on the market. Sometimes you find them at Old Navy or World Market or H & M for $14. Sometimes they're in the Ralph Lauren section of Bloomies for $150. %100 cotton voile is the best.

Choose sleeveless, always. No waistbands. If you need to wear sleeves in an office to be professional, keep a cardigan at work.

While you're in the store (no online shopping, you must kick the tires so to speak), hold the fabric up to the light and make sure the weave is very, very open. Is a ton of light showing through? Can you see how many fingers you're holding up while looking through the fabric? Then it's acceptable.

If you're an athletic size 4, consider skipping a bra. Choose undies that are thong or thong-like -- do not cover up your butt cheeks with lots of wicking-not-wicking fabric!!

This is the type of dress I wear instead of shorts and tank to run errands, etc
https://www.endource.com/product/arket-cotton-voile-slip-dress/X2YpvUbg-wABN3Jc

Same fabric, slightly more coverage for dining out when it's 95 (no bra, yes thong)
https://www.net-a-porter.com/en-us/shop/product/vince/clothing/midi-dresses/cotton-voile-midi-dress/22831760542493239

I was with you on all of this guidance until “yes thong.” Why in the world would you want something crawling up your butt when it’s hot and sweaty out? Yuck. Better to just go commando.

I am very sweaty and I hate all this advice. The last thing I want is some see-through dress, open armpits that stink, and the knowledge people can see my nipples and bare a** through my clingy dress. I feel like PP is an exhibitionist. As a non-exhibitionist, I have come to prefer short sleeves to sleeveless in the summer - and I just change my shirt a couple times a day. I usually wear shorts because I feel more tucked in. With underpants because I am an adult who lives in the world, and not a made up character on some fanfic porn site.

Anyway, yes OP - I feel like one of the sweaty ones, too.

Wow, PP. That is quite a reaction to the totally non-scandalous dresses that the other poster showed. I'm a sweaty person who doesn't like to use tons of AC. I agree with the lightweight dress suggestion. I personally don't like a lot of fabric on my shoulders/arms/upper back or on my lower legs in the summer. I find that even a lightweight voile sleeves prevents evaporative cooling from breezes. I stick to above the knee dresses with small straps, cotton underpants, no bra (or thin cotton bralette). I find that this is way cooler than shorts and a tank on the hottest, most humid days. Someone dressing appropriately for hot weather is not exhibitionism... take your prudery elsewhere.

Lightweight dresses are great. PP was suggesting OP hold a dress to the light to make sure it's see-through, then not wear a bra or underwear with it. That's a bit beyond trying to stay cool, and into trying to make everyone look at your privates territory. If that's your thing, cool - I just didn't get the sense OP was asking for how to not sweat so much while also making everyone on the street take a good look at her nipples and butt cheeks.

I’m the PP who raised the concept of “going commando.” To be clear, I never do this—I find full-coverage cotton underpants and a lightweight bra to be perfectly comfortable in hot weather—but would absolutely choose no underpants over a thong in hot weather. That’s all.

[Anonymous]

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Lightweight dresses are great. PP was suggesting OP hold a dress to the light to make sure it's see-through, then not wear a bra or underwear with it. That's a bit beyond trying to stay cool, and into trying to make everyone look at your privates territory. If that's your thing, cool - I just didn't get the sense OP was asking for how to not sweat so much while also making everyone on the street take a good look at her nipples and butt cheeks.

But... PP said "As a non-exhibitionist, I have come to prefer short sleeves to sleeveless in the summer". I mean... I can't believe that a reasonable person in hotter than Hades DC would find a sleeveless top to be something only an exhibitionist would wear.

I was writing quickly and poorly. I wear plenty of sleeveless clothes, and dresses, and neither is exhibitionist. I was really just responding to PP's suggestion that OP look for see-through dresses, then wear thongs with them.

You all were right. I worded my response poorly. It came across other than as I intended. I continue to maintain that OP was probably not looking for the advice to wear see-through dresses with thongs and no bra, but I might have been wrong - and in any case, I made my post overly prudish in response.

What I meant is that I personally prefer short sleeves because I find that I feel less sweaty in them - or at least less offensively sweaty - and I change them a couple times a day. I also do wear sleeveless shirts. And dresses. And skirts. I should not have combined my opinion that short sleeves make me feel less sweaty with the implication that preferring otherwise makes a person an exhibitionist. It does not, that was - again - my poorly worded sentence.

Now I wear a hair shirt.

[Anonymous]

Some fabrics (usually dark colors) make the sweat marks less noticeable.

[Anonymous]

Me too! I started wearing camisoles and slips and it’s a game changer. It’s counterintuitive to add layers, but it keeps me sooo much cooler, and I don’t sweat through clothes. I like Airism from Uniqlo and Jockey for slips.

[Anonymous]

OP, find some athleisure dresses (cotton?! Lol). Athleta has some simple ones in light, wicking fabric. I sweat a ton, too—and am also very athletic—but it’s more comfortable sweating in things like this than something like linen pants (shudder).

Something like this: https://athleta.gap.com/browse/product.do?pid=291709092&cid=1096392&pcid=1096392&vid=1&nav=meganav%3ADRESSES%3ACATEGORIES%3AAbove-the-Knee&cpos=19&cexp=2378&kcid=CategoryIDs%3D1096392&cvar=18750&ctype=Listing&cpid=res21062905984040860544909#pdp-page-content

High fashion, no, but it’s reasonably cute and more comfortable than most options for us sweaty people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is there a reason you can sweat in shorts and a tank top but not a dress? Just wear a dress and sweat. I don’t get it...

Chub-rub; i.e. thighs rubbing together and chafing.

I avoid this by wearing skorts or compression-style shorts (not control) under skirts/dresses. It's also not unheard of me to have to change my underpants during the day if I've been outside in the heat too long. REI makes hiking underpants that are breathable.

[Anonymous]

My parents are from Lahore which is a fashion Capitol of the Middle East and South Asia (runway shows, export clothes etc), and the women are always dressed beautifully. It’s also very very hot there, up to 112 degrees and humid. There is a craze there for lawn outfits for the summer, which are very very light cotton tunics and very loose parachute shaped pants underneath. The lady talking about cotton voile is 100% right. You can actually wear layers of cotton voile or linen and as long as it’s very loose it’s great.

Here’s some eye candy:

https://www.afrozeh.com/collections/summer-sonnet

[Anonymous]

And if anyone is interested in ready to wear tunics, here they are:

https://us.khaadi.com/ready-to-wear.html