ESMR therapy.
Revamping my diet - avoiding foods that trigger panic and anxiety and mood changes. Sought out help from a osteopath. Taking magnesium. Approved via dr. Exercising - specifically running! Also regularly practice yoga to keep my mind calm and my muscles loose. Tremendous help. I strive for 3 times a week yoga and almost daily cardio. This is weird but I’ll pass it along anyway; I truly have migraines (rarely now since changing my diet) but I have found that if I’m having a rough time and highly anxious, I will openly tell people that I’m dealing with a migraine. This is a half truth because often I will get a panic attack pre or post migraine so I have to switch gears and take care of myself. Just verbalizing that I’m struggling is a release valve of sorts and gives me not an excuse but frees me up from trying to “hold on” and pretend to be fine. In an emergency, I tell myself that if I have to leave suddenly, I’ll tell my boss it’s a migraine. Having this white lie at the ready makes me feel more in control and is soothing. Also: I have a rx for Xanax to take in emergencies only. Just having this on me (and I keep exactly one in the rx bottle) and having this always with me helps psychologically. I tell myself that it’s there and relief will be there if I’m unable to circumvent a P-A otherwise. |
And another thing: distraction!
I play scrabble, do crossword puzzles on my phone or even make elaborate written lists if I’m in an anxiety provoking situation like being on a plane or at a doctors office waiting room. I’m at my best when I can actively engage myself or even be helpful to someone else, especially when I’m nervous. So, keep chatting. Get out of your head. An as cold as you can stand it shower will stop a panic attack! Or even splashing cold water on your face. Unable to do this? Ice pack on the back of your neck for a few minutes will help. For me, getting as cold as possible (even shivering) brings relief. Peppermint also helps. And ginger. I keep peppermint and ginger candies with me. Good to just raise your blood sugar. I like to fall asleep to the drone of podcasts or talk radio. Again stops the spiral of intrusive thoughts. |
I completely cut out alcohol. That was the single biggest factor. |
I second the suggestion to cut back or eliminate alcohol. I used to drink almost every night. Now I have maybe half a beer or wine once a week or less. Alcohol or other mood-altering substances can really make it hard to modulate your mood. If you are prone to depression or anxiety and can't take an SSRI, being able to track and modulate your mood is really helpful. An SSRI can flatten or eliminate mood swings, which is part of why they are effective. But if you can find ways to do this on your own, you can often find a higher baseline than you would on an SSRI.
For reference, when I was on an SSRI, my anxiety disappeared and I stopped having deep depressive episodes. However, I still had my flat affect from my depression because I also just felt dulled in general. Even on a very low dose, the SSRIs would deaden my emotional response to things. So even though I was not depressed, it was hard to feel happy. But by almost entirely eliminating alcohol and being very aware of sleep and exercise cycles, I have become pretty effective at modulating my own mood, but without that flattening effect of the SSRI. So for me, even though it is hard and entails sacrifice, treating my depression/anxiety without medication is really worth it. There is more joy in my life and once I figured out how to avoid the very low lows, the rest of it was manageable. Though I should note I don't have any mania at all. I think this is much harder to do if you have bipolar depression. My mom is BPD and she has to be medicated because her highs are almost as bad as her lows in terms of emotional hangover and risk of negative behavior. But in her case, even on medication she struggles to regulate mood, whereas for me the medication made this really easy. So it can be very person dependent. |
Is it from omega-3?? |
Was just coming to say the same thing. Exercising definitely helps me too but this is the biggest. |
DP. Can anyone else weigh in on diet and supplements? Personally don't drink and have increased exercise. Prob need to work on reducing caffeine and sleeping more. However, coffee is actually a bright spot in my day that I enjoy. I just wonder if it negatively affects mood regulation in the long run, somewhat similar to alcohol. |
Buddhist-inspired philosophy. (I call it that because I don’t know enough about the religion itself to know whether it’s “really” Buddhism...) Try something by Pema Chodron and see if it speaks to you. Any local public library should have at least one of her books.
Everyone thinks of mindfulness with those books, and that’s definitely a big part of the philosophy, but personally it’s not the aspect that most speaks to me. What has been life-changing for me is a concept of flaws and difficulty being an inherent part of everything in life. Life became much easier to take once I started viewing the life challenges and difficult phases as natural and changeable rather than something I was responsible for fixing. There’s also a similar concept of just noticing and accepting unpleasant emotions and, essentially, lovingly waiting them out without letting them get to us so much. |
I think the caffeine question depends a LOT on the person -- people's reactions to caffeine vary widely, and there's a genetic componant to it. If it's working for you, I wouldn't change it. But regular sleep is really important for everyone. There are studies indicating that omega-3s help with mood regulation, so it was something that our psychiatrist, who is usually not a big fan of the alternative medicines, did recommend. There's also some good evidence that the special lights help a lot of people, particularly in the winter. |
PP. I've tried cutting out caffeine at various times in life and it had absolutely no effect on anxiety/mood ( or my BP, or anything at all that caffeine supposedly causes). |
Not OP, but thank you for taking the time to explain. This is very helpful. |
A daily, morning shower gets every day off to a great start.
Keeping the house clean, the laundry done & not having too much clutter. Staying far away from toxic individuals and counting my blessings daily. Keeping a gratitude journal also helps if you love to write. |
I take daily omega supplements and eat salmon at least once a week. I do think it helps. |
+1 DP and agree this is very helpful. I have just started trying to journal my thoughts as my tendency is to always have something in my life which I am currently catastrophizing... |
Lot of good things here.
I got an Oura ring to help track my HRV (heart rate variability) and sleeping. I made some changes from that. I stopped drinking when I could see what it did to my sleep and HRV. I use box breathing if I find my self having bouts of anxiety, to help with the distancing aspect and bring my body back to normal. We eat fish at least once weekly. I no longer guilt myself for watching shows, it is a distraction. I set time on the weekends to tidy- I use Alexa to help, I feel better when my visual space is less cluttered. I limit to one cup of coffee in the morning and have a cup of non-caffeinated tea after lunch. I try to have some kind of exercise daily. This has been really hard since it’s been so cold, so I do more housework, cleaning, cooking. I bought a kick bike that I loved using in the fall, and am excited to get back outside when I feel warm enough. Definitely vitamin D, and I also have some magnesium with it (natural calm). I also try to incorporate way more vegetables in our days than I used to, beyond peas and corn. |