Posting on Facebook when child gets college acceptance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love seeing my friends post their kids’ college plans.

Are they really your friends though if you don’t know other than seeing it on FB?

[Anonymous]

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It would be in better taste to not say anything at all, but if you post on FB, I guess taste doesn't have a place in this discussion to begin with...

There are those of us who live a long way from family and lifelong friends. It’s a good way to keep up and not tacky unless every little thing about your life is posted. But no harm in keeping up with childhood friends or with grandparents when you’re not fortunate enough to still have them near.

I wouldn’t post acceptances for many reasons. Like others said, ask your child if they mind and then post a short message when they commit if you feel you need to share that.. “Off to so and so college in the fall!”

Trust me, grandparents are going to want a more personal delivery of the college news than seeing it on Facebook for the first time, along with 500 of your closest “friends”. There are other ways to communicate with Grandma and Grandpa.

[Anonymous]

This is why I do not have a Facebook account.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I do not have a Facebook account.

Yes! I thought I was the lone hold out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't do it. Nobody cares where your stupid kid got in. You can call/email your real friends and tell them. "Sharing" it with the world is just pathetic narcissism.

Your kid will post it on their instagram page anyway.

This is exactly how I feel about Facebook. Posting photos of your kids on your social media is pathetic narcissism. Give them privacy and autonomy. They are not your pet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Interesting how much disagreement there is on this subject.

Really. Seems to be an almost overwhelming majority--don't post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid in the school sweatshirt, done.

You’re allowed to brag. And the kids who got rejected aren’t your problem.

This!

The people in this camp have no idea how much people roll their eyes at them, even the ones who like the post. It shows such a startling lack of self-awareness. Call grandma and tell your closest friends offline. Anything else you do with regards to social media is tone deaf.

^^^ This crazy person is not your problem.

Don't post every acceptance only the one they will attend.

[Anonymous]

I love those posts and would find it so interesting. It is one of the few times in life when celebrating proudly seems in order.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is why I do not have a Facebook account.

Yes! I thought I was the lone hold out.

Another holdout checking in! I have been tempered lately but I have held out so long, I hate to give up now.

[Anonymous]

Social media is a horror. Truly. Just get off of it. Whether you’re the person trying to figure out how to announce things (you’re not a celebrity with a new movie, announcements are not necessary) or the person annoyed by the “bragging” (you’re on social media, it only exists to trumpet narcissism, don’t get mad when that’s what’s there).

The whole thing is rotten. Just get off. It’s not making your life better.

[Anonymous]

One HS junior. One college freshman. Last year what the vast majority of his friends did, and what we did, was a photo in college sweatshirt, after mid April, with a “We are so excited for Larlo, who’s next big adventures await at xxxxx”

Done only when my kid had given me permission to post, which was not immediately after a decision. He wanted live with it a bit.

I have a pretty small FB group though. If I don’t care where your kid is going to college, You aren’t my FB friend to being with.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is why I do not have a Facebook account.

Yes! I thought I was the lone hold out.

Another holdout checking in! I have been tempered lately but I have held out so long, I hate to give up now.

Tempted, not tempered.

[Anonymous]

In my DC's circle, friends create IG posts announcing where someone is going a la "This girl is off to Northwestern. " No one posts acceptances. Don't be more indiscreet than the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Kid in the school sweatshirt, done.

You’re allowed to brag. And the kids who got rejected aren’t your problem.

This!

The people in this camp have no idea how much people roll their eyes at them, even the ones who like the post. It shows such a startling lack of self-awareness. Call grandma and tell your closest friends offline. Anything else you do with regards to social media is tone deaf.

I am curious what you think the purpose of social media is if not to post important family news such as this? Maybe you just use social media for political grandstanding or diary entries of your boring life?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Interesting how much disagreement there is on this subject.

Really. Seems to be an almost overwhelming majority--don't post.

The people who are fine with posting aren't commenting here but wondering what loser friends you must all have.