WAHM declined aftercare

[Anonymous]

Is there a WeWork (or similar service for remote employees) location near you that you could use as the address?

That is completely ridiculous. I telework and our handbook explicitly states that teleworking is not a substitute for childcare, and that you cannot provide dependent care during work hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

Um, we paid the aftercare fee, which we're now having to eat. Tuition insurance doesn't cover it when we pull the trigger to pull DC out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t mean leaving anonymous reviews on Yelp. I meant speaking to the Admission Director about how to pull your son and explaining that you are so sad to leave such a great school over a bureaucratic snafu but you are getting nowhere and upset to be treated like this.

Basically, complain like a rich white person!

+1000! I would run away and not think twice. This is insanity and a good reason not to enroll your kid.

And speculation, but I don't think they'd treat a dad with an in-home business the same way.

Now that you say in-home business, I bet they think I'm running an MLM so they're prioritizing me low. Which I'm not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

Um, we paid the aftercare fee, which we're now having to eat. Tuition insurance doesn't cover it when we pull the trigger to pull DC out.

Wait...I thought you said they denied you care??? If you registered, paid the fee and now pulled the child for some reason of your own then of course you shouldn't get your money back after you've already used part of the service. Or why would you pay the fee before being accepted? OP, you've got to be making this up for the thrill of the drama. I think your school is trying to send you a message if that's the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

My children have also always attended private. And aftercare is provided to anyone who signs up for it. To guarantee a spot you register when contracts are due, and they arrange for staffing. They certainly don't decide if we really "need" it. Frankly it is none of their business.

I don't understand why you think the school having to hire staff is a reason to let them off the hook? If the administration of my school found it that difficult to hire staff, I would seriously question the quality of the program, and/or their competence.

And, yes, of course there is an additional fee. No one is saying that there shouldn't be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

Um, we paid the aftercare fee, which we're now having to eat. Tuition insurance doesn't cover it when we pull the trigger to pull DC out.

Wait...I thought you said they denied you care??? If you registered, paid the fee and now pulled the child for some reason of your own then of course you shouldn't get your money back after you've already used part of the service. Or why would you pay the fee before being accepted? OP, you've got to be making this up for the thrill of the drama. I think your school is trying to send you a message if that's the case.

We registered, paid online, then got an email saying we weren't eligible. They're keeping the $250 application fee. Sorry, I wasn't clear on that. And yes, if we pull DC from school completely, we have to pay whatever the insurance requires.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

My children have also always attended private. And aftercare is provided to anyone who signs up for it. To guarantee a spot you register when contracts are due, and they arrange for staffing. They certainly don't decide if we really "need" it. Frankly it is none of their business.

I don't understand why you think the school having to hire staff is a reason to let them off the hook? If the administration of my school found it that difficult to hire staff, I would seriously question the quality of the program, and/or their competence.

And, yes, of course there is an additional fee. No one is saying that there shouldn't be.

Have you ever considered that different schools have different policies? You might want to think about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I didn’t mean leaving anonymous reviews on Yelp. I meant speaking to the Admission Director about how to pull your son and explaining that you are so sad to leave such a great school over a bureaucratic snafu but you are getting nowhere and upset to be treated like this.

Basically, complain like a rich white person!

+1000! I would run away and not think twice. This is insanity and a good reason not to enroll your kid.

And speculation, but I don't think they'd treat a dad with an in-home business the same way.

All of this. How dreadful, OP. Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell school is this????? Amazingly biased. I'd be running that up the flagpole at the school administration.

Totally agree. And what if I don't work but still want aftercare? Whose to say who is worthy or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Just out of principle, I would show them a letter written by your employer on company letterhead stating that you are working for them and need childcare when teleworking.
What a bunch of morons they are.

The OP already did that!
Read people, geez.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Can you show them the company policy that requires you to have child care in order to telecommute and that you'll be fired if you don't have it? Most companies put that in writing somewhere.

I've shown them that plus everything else I can think of. We're likely pulling him out and going public over it (can't find a center with transportation and aftercare locally). It sucks, but it is what it is. I was mostly just curious if this is common.

It’s not common. It’s very strange that in this day and age that they don’t understand what it means for people to work remotely from a home office. As a last ditch effort, I might get a letter from your direct supervisor stating your work hours and that you are required to have childcare when you are on the clock. Then I’d schedule a meeting with the principal and ask him or her to explain why your child is not eligible for care.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know why they would think you’re doing MLM if you already showed them a policy that says you have to have childcare while teleworking. MLMs are specifically marketed to fit into your life without childcare (at least the ones all over my Facebook feed are). This would seriously sour me to the school but if you want it to work out then you do need to learn how to complain like a rich white person. Honestly, it sounds like they might take it more seriously if your husband sets up the meetings and goes in to complain about it. But then again, do you now even want your kid at this school?

[Anonymous]

This is ridiculous and possibly illegal. Did you get a written denial? If so, I'd strongly consider taking this to the press. Are you in Silicon Valley? Is the private school prestigious? If so, I'm sure the San Jose Mercury News would love to hear about it. You don't want to go to a school that treats working mothers like this and the school deserves to have the shame and scorn of an Internet mob heaped upon it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

Um, we paid the aftercare fee, which we're now having to eat. Tuition insurance doesn't cover it when we pull the trigger to pull DC out.

Wait...I thought you said they denied you care??? If you registered, paid the fee and now pulled the child for some reason of your own then of course you shouldn't get your money back after you've already used part of the service. Or why would you pay the fee before being accepted? OP, you've got to be making this up for the thrill of the drama. I think your school is trying to send you a message if that's the case.

We registered, paid online, then got an email saying we weren't eligible. They're keeping the $250 application fee. Sorry, I wasn't clear on that. And yes, if we pull DC from school completely, we have to pay whatever the insurance requires.

This is BULLSHIT. You need to complain to the Director ASAP, and then you need to find the owners and complain to them. This is discrimination. Honestly you should take them to small claims court to get the $250 back because if they didn't state it up front, then they are stealing from you. COMPLAIN OP, it sounds like you are not going above the after care people's heads, you need to go to the top. GROW A SPINE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the private schools are getting a raw deal on this. Here is another perspective. Our children have always attended private. The extended day or aftercare has always been an additional fee, and it always has been dependent on space. I don't know if they have any requirements to meet. I can see how/why a school may not be able to accommodate all students since the staffing of extended day obviously is not done with teachers, except those who take it on as a second job. The school has to hire people to staff the program. And it makes sense that there is an additional fee because not everyone uses it so those who don't shouldn't have to subsidize it.

I don't know what to say about being declined because you work at home. Do you have any other options like a nanny share or an au pair share?

Um, we paid the aftercare fee, which we're now having to eat. Tuition insurance doesn't cover it when we pull the trigger to pull DC out.

Wait...I thought you said they denied you care??? If you registered, paid the fee and now pulled the child for some reason of your own then of course you shouldn't get your money back after you've already used part of the service. Or why would you pay the fee before being accepted? OP, you've got to be making this up for the thrill of the drama. I think your school is trying to send you a message if that's the case.

We registered, paid online, then got an email saying we weren't eligible. They're keeping the $250 application fee. Sorry, I wasn't clear on that. And yes, if we pull DC from school completely, we have to pay whatever the insurance requires.

This is BULLSHIT. You need to complain to the Director ASAP, and then you need to find the owners and complain to them. This is discrimination. Honestly you should take them to small claims court to get the $250 back because if they didn't state it up front, then they are stealing from you. COMPLAIN OP, it sounds like you are not going above the after care people's heads, you need to go to the top. GROW A SPINE.

A $250 application fee is peanuts compared to the cost of a part-time babysitter/nanny/au-pair or whatever care OP is going to need. Although I agree, she should get the fee back if none of the conditions were stated up front.