Here we go...ILs and Family: Fourth '19 Edition

[Anonymous]

Positive: My mom texted my kids to say Happy Fourth.

Vent: We don’t have an extended family on my husband’s side. My mother is the stand by your man type so ditches us to hang out with his adult kids on the 4th because that’s what he wants to do.?My sister ditches us because she always spends it with her pushy in-laws out of town. We have lots of great friends but somehow end up alone on the 4th. Yes, we’ve have get togethers in the past and I’m usually the one that hosts everything so taking a pass today. Feeling sad about this today. First world problems, I know! Just being honest anonymously.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Positive: My mom texted my kids to say Happy Fourth.

Vent: We don’t have an extended family on my husband’s side. My mother is the stand by your man type so ditches us to hang out with his adult kids on the 4th because that’s what he wants to do.?My sister ditches us because she always spends it with her pushy in-laws out of town. We have lots of great friends but somehow end up alone on the 4th. Yes, we’ve have get togethers in the past and I’m usually the one that hosts everything so taking a pass today. Feeling sad about this today. First world problems, I know! Just being honest anonymously.

I meant to say my stepfather’s kids.

[Anonymous]

^^sorry, PP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been a loyal fan of DCUM for more years than I care to say. And I love a good crazy story about IL visits. But I’ve never heard of nor do I see the need for a
July 4th ILs rant.

Give it a rest. Fetch isn’t going to happen.

Three pages in, yeah...it happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

OMG, I recognize you. You're the one who opens her kitchen once a day and believes that people shouldn't be hungry because you fed them a "delicious" meal 10 hours ago.

It’s Burger King Lady!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

You are seriously out of your mind! Are you the pp that eats in a 4 hour period per day? And you think that little kids should do the same?! And if you are that pp, you claimed that you do not have a distorted eating, but here are your true colors. Sick in the head. And who closes the kitchen? Another lunatic like you! Kitchen should be there for all who want to go in and make a snack, open the fridge and have some food. What is she truly prepping food for 9 hours?! I can understand "closing the kitchen" if her grown up kids are utter slobs, and then they went to eat, and everyone is happy. But, your eating disorder is out of hand. Have a beer, dear!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

OMG, I recognize you. You're the one who opens her kitchen once a day and believes that people shouldn't be hungry because you fed them a "delicious" meal 10 hours ago.

It’s Burger King Lady!!!!

Guys! It’s Christmas Burger King Lady !!!

[Anonymous]

I have “kitchen is closed” ILs so I feel your pain, OP.

My ILs don’t eat breakfast until 10:30 am. They don’t eat lunch and have dinner at 6:30 pm and then dessert at 8.

Such oddballs. I quickly had to learn to bring small snacks for the kids to eat when they woke early when they were little. When MIL says kitchen is closed, it means other than getting a drink for yourself, you cannot get food on your own.

Thankfully, we only stay at their place once each year and the Fourth of July is not that one time!

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the closed kitchen. Do they lock the door? The fridge? Do they stand guard? I do not get it!

[Anonymous]

We stayed at SIL’s apartment and MIL met us there since SIL lives halfway between us. SIL freaked out every time DS moved more than a tiptoe. He isn’t used to people living below him and we’d remind him and he’d stop for a little while but then would forget to tiptoe again. I offered to go downstairs and tell her neighbor that we are trying to get him to only tiptoe but she brushed me off. It was not early morning or late at night and was during weekdays so most likely the neighbor was at work anyway.

They also both (SIL and MIL) freaked out if there was a literal crumb on the table or a drop of water on the counter. I made the mistake of clearing the table (trying to be helpful) but was told I was doing it wrong (I had the nerve to stack two plates in order to carry them together). DS bumped into a wall after tripping on a shoe and they both freaked out about the wall (there was not a speck of damage), meanwhile there are little red scratches from nails (they both wear red nail polish) by every door handle and toilet paper roll. I’ve been with DH for 15 years but I finally realized why he has so much anxiety around easily cleanable messes.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

Do you seriously think small children should go from 7AM to 4PM with only an apple in between? Do you not feed your children lunch?

If I am serving a late lunch/early dinner bbq at 4pm, I would not expect to have a pre-lunch/dinner meal especially if I had just eaten a big bowl of cereal that morning. If you really must eat, a delicious piece of fruit should be enough to sustain them until the bbq starts. I always keep a well stocked fruit bowl on the breakfast bar - you don't need to enter the kitchen - just grab an apple, banana, orange or pear, go sit outside in the fresh air and enjoy!

The 4th of July bbq spread is a much heavier meal than one would usually eat. I can't imagine eating a big, salty, heavily processed turkey sandwich from Panera only to turn right around and eat bbq just a few hours later.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

Do you seriously think small children should go from 7AM to 4PM with only an apple in between? Do you not feed your children lunch?

If I am serving a late lunch/early dinner bbq at 4pm, I would not expect to have a pre-lunch/dinner meal especially if I had just eaten a big bowl of cereal that morning. If you really must eat, a delicious piece of fruit should be enough to sustain them until the bbq starts. I always keep a well stocked fruit bowl on the breakfast bar - you don't need to enter the kitchen - just grab an apple, banana, orange or pear, go sit outside in the fresh air and enjoy!

The 4th of July bbq spread is a much heavier meal than one would usually eat. I can't imagine eating a big, salty, heavily processed turkey sandwich from Panera only to turn right around and eat bbq just a few hours later.

You have food issues. Please don’t pass them onto your kids. Eat normal portions and don’t gorge on dinner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand the closed kitchen. Do they lock the door? The fridge? Do they stand guard? I do not get it!

Imagine you are a guest in someone’s home. You go to the kitchen to get a glass of water: Burger King lady immediately shrieks “What are you doing in there? What do you need? Dinner is at 4:00pm!”

It’s very uncomfortable to get food in an environment where every bite you eat is controlled and timed by the hostess. I suppose you could ignore what your MIL says and eat anyways, but most normal people don’t want to antagonize ILs this way. Plus it’s usually clear that this is part of a decline of some sort, so nobody wants to make an issue of it on holidays. Of course, this make visits very difficult.

Hence, all the venting when you end up marrying into a family like this. I mean can you imagine Burger King lady forcing her family to eat all but one meal at a gas station so as to keep her kitchen pristine?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

Do you seriously think small children should go from 7AM to 4PM with only an apple in between? Do you not feed your children lunch?

If I am serving a late lunch/early dinner bbq at 4pm, I would not expect to have a pre-lunch/dinner meal especially if I had just eaten a big bowl of cereal that morning. If you really must eat, a delicious piece of fruit should be enough to sustain them until the bbq starts. I always keep a well stocked fruit bowl on the breakfast bar - you don't need to enter the kitchen - just grab an apple, banana, orange or pear, go sit outside in the fresh air and enjoy!

The 4th of July bbq spread is a much heavier meal than one would usually eat. I can't imagine eating a big, salty, heavily processed turkey sandwich from Panera only to turn right around and eat bbq just a few hours later.

Oh sweetie, bless your heart. This is not a good issue, it is a control issue. Peace be with your controlling heart.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unless your small children are infants they do not need to be fed around the clock, every few hours. Of course the kitchen is closed! Your mom will be treating you all to a fabulous bbq dinner soon. Why you would need to fill up on gross gas station food is beyond me.

Young kids can’t go from 7 am until 4 pm! Do you have little kids? I’m not for the snacking all the time but this is crazy.

This is why there is a serious obesity epidemic. Young children do not need to eat greasy convenience food. If they are hungry between meals they should get an apple out of the fruit bowl, sit on the front doorstep and have a nice, healthy, nutritious snack. They do not need a bacon, nacho cheese, funion burger.

Do you seriously think small children should go from 7AM to 4PM with only an apple in between? Do you not feed your children lunch?

If I am serving a late lunch/early dinner bbq at 4pm, I would not expect to have a pre-lunch/dinner meal especially if I had just eaten a big bowl of cereal that morning. If you really must eat, a delicious piece of fruit should be enough to sustain them until the bbq starts. I always keep a well stocked fruit bowl on the breakfast bar - you don't need to enter the kitchen - just grab an apple, banana, orange or pear, go sit outside in the fresh air and enjoy!

The 4th of July bbq spread is a much heavier meal than one would usually eat. I can't imagine eating a big, salty, heavily processed turkey sandwich from Panera only to turn right around and eat bbq just a few hours later.

Oh sweetie, bless your heart. This is not a good issue, it is a control issue. Peace be with your controlling heart.

*food issue