Husband does not initiate sex

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you get fat

That can be an issue. My once thin wife packed on 40 pounds after 3 Kids. I’m still a skinny guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here again...wtf?

There never was a dry spell and sorry for using the word comply...the point is...he doesn’t seem interested and it’s so sad to feel rejected. That’s it

dont believe this. must be a troll. just doesnt make sense.

Quit gaslighting. Many women have begun similar threads here. There are plenty of men not initiating or responding. Low drive men are not always evident in the beginning of relationships. And plenty of fit wives are not gett8ng any without being harpies or previously rejecting. It’s hard to,talk about or get support and even more difficult when your partner wont acknowledge the problem, work in counseling or see a doc. It’s a sad way to be with someone emotionally and what should be intimately.


Also there is clearly someone or a few someone’s that bash any woman that addresses this. It’s kind of pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did you get fat

That can be an issue. My once thin wife packed on 40 pounds after 3 Kids. I’m still a skinny guy.

So give her some personal time for herself and love her up. Three kids is a ton of managing and leaves little time for self care. Plenty of non skeletal women enjoy rich sex lives by the way. Someone else probably finds her hot.

[Anonymous]

OP, how is the sex when you have it? Vanilla? Always the same routine?

[Anonymous]

OP, how is the sex when you have it? Vanilla? Always the same routine?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, how is the sex when you have it? Vanilla? Always the same routine?

Is he a giver?

[Anonymous]

Here is a solution: stop wasting your time asking him and let's get together. I won't say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried doing more chores around the house? How often do you cuddle him, woo him and make him feel special like when you were dating. Ask about his day and really listen. Up your game and put lots of effort into the relationship to ensure you meet every last one of his needs WITHOUT expectation of sex. Be patient and maybe in 13 years when the kids are older he might want to have sex again.

Clap. Clap. Clap.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Here is a solution: stop wasting your time asking him and let's get together. I won't say no.

Wrong forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes will comply when sex requested
Sometimes says no
Never seems interested

I’m at my wits end and sick of feeling rejected. Married 14 years, two kids. 38. Any ideas?

This is how most husbands feel after being married 14 years. It's nice to find a woman on the receiving end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried doing more chores around the house? How often do you cuddle him, woo him and make him feel special like when you were dating. Ask about his day and really listen. Up your game and put lots of effort into the relationship to ensure you meet every last one of his needs WITHOUT expectation of sex. Be patient and maybe in 13 years when the kids are older he might want to have sex again.

Oh that was awesome!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess porn addict and compulsive masturbator

+1

[Anonymous]

Ugh OP sorry no one here is taking you seriously. I have the same issue and it sucks. And for the record guys...coming on here and saying "there's no way, doesn't compute, that just doesn't make sense" doesn't make us feel any better - we are well aware of the (in many cases well-earned, sure) stereotype that the man wants it all the time and the woman is the withholder/gatekeeper...you're just making us feel worse and more alone.

Anyways OP I too am attractive, have not gained weight and did not turn him down a bunch or anything, and my husband seems largely uninterested. I think part of it is stress - when he gets stressed it just falls by the wayside for him. But that shouldn't explain a total lack of interest. It seems he's just low drive, and that sucks because sex has only become more important to me as I age. I wouldn't say porn addiction or anything but I do think my husband also got into the habit of a quick porn jerkoff because it was easier and quicker and he's just exhausted by the time he gets home. I dunno. Everyone will come on here and respond and tell me that's no excuse and doesn't make sense and they're never too tired or stressed for sex, and I will feel even worse / more hopeless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you tried doing more chores around the house? How often do you cuddle him, woo him and make him feel special like when you were dating. Ask about his day and really listen. Up your game and put lots of effort into the relationship to ensure you meet every last one of his needs WITHOUT expectation of sex. Be patient and maybe in 13 years when the kids are older he might want to have sex again.

Oh that was awesome!

Are we knitting testicle hats now, lads?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes will comply when sex requested
Sometimes says no
Never seems interested

I’m at my wits end and sick of feeling rejected. Married 14 years, two kids. 38. Any ideas?

This is how most husbands feel after being married 14 years. It's nice to find a woman on the receiving end.

My husband has a beer gut and hair in his ears. Still foxy. The problem is your own if you think weight gain equals no joy.