Do men really think some women are out of there league?

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Question for the women:
Have you ever been told by a man that you are out of their league? If so, what was your reaction? positive/negative? what happen with the potential relationship with the guy?

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Anonymous wrote:In my experience, most men don't think ANY women are out of their league.

+1. My DH has often said this. (in regards to other men and himself.

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Anonymous wrote:In my experience, most men don't think ANY women are out of their league.

+1. My DH has often said this. (in regards to other men and himself.

Yep. This is absolutely true. I'm cute but in no way a head turner. I work in a hospital. I was hit on last week by a 20 something dude who was literally being led out of the ER in handcuffs by police. "Come on, lemme say what's up to that girl!", he implored the officer.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience, most men don't think ANY women are out of their league.

+1. My DH has often said this. (in regards to other men and himself.

Yep. This is absolutely true. I'm cute but in no way a head turner. I work in a hospital. I was hit on last week by a 20 something dude who was literally being led out of the ER in handcuffs by police. "Come on, lemme say what's up to that girl!", he implored the officer.

That is a little different. There are guys who will hit on anyone at anytime no matter what the circumstances, like your friend in the hospital, that isn't really trying for a girl out of your league as much as it is just a crazy man.

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Anonymous wrote:Do men really believe there are women who are out of their league and if so what makes them out of their league? Is it looks, money or something else. Or is this just a line men use?

There is no woman I would consider out of my 'league'. There are plenty of women who have no interest in me and there are women I have no interest in. In other words, I am not setting up some imaginary 'league' that I am not a part of.

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Anonymous wrote:Do men really believe there are women who are out of their league and if so what makes them out of their league? Is it looks, money or something else. Or is this just a line men use?

There is no woman I would consider out of my 'league'. There are plenty of women who have no interest in me and there are women I have no interest in. In other words, I am not setting up some imaginary 'league' that I am not a part of.

+1

There are some women I would not hit on if I were single because its clear they have a particular type of guy in their head and I don't fit that mold. They probably won't be interested in me, and I'm usually not that interested in them, so what's the point? But its not like I've determined I'm a "B+" guy and so shoot for the women I consider to be "B+/A-" or something.

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Anonymous wrote:In my experience, most men don't think ANY women are out of their league.

Translation: "I get hit on by men who are beneath me."

There are about 10% of guys who will hit on anything at anytime. I had friends like that...it was their strategy. Sometime it works, but it really depends on what the guy looks like.

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Many women give off a vibe that they are only interested in certain types. If you are not their type(what school you attended, what profession, etc), you move on. There are many other fish in the sea, so why bother?
A lot of my wife's friends were like this...they are all still single. It gets tougher for these women because the bar is alway moving. So at first they want a lawyer, a little late a lawyer who is a partner at a big name firm. The problem is the pool keeps shrinking(not many men meet the requirement and they get married reducing the field further).

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Anonymous wrote:Many women give off a vibe that they are only interested in certain types. If you are not their type(what school you attended, what profession, etc), you move on. There are many other fish in the sea, so why bother?
A lot of my wife's friends were like this...they are all still single. It gets tougher for these women because the bar is alway moving. So at first they want a lawyer, a little late a lawyer who is a partner at a big name firm. The problem is the pool keeps shrinking(not many men meet the requirement and they get married reducing the field further).

Yes. This is a challenge for ambitious women. They are wired to look for provider traits and generally want a man who is "an equal partner" (should be read as "a greater than, or equal to, partner"). Because of this, their dating pool is small, and the men that they find attractive invariably have a much larger dating pool because men are not usually as picky about status and career success. So they are at a disadvantage.

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Anonymous wrote:My wife was out of my league when we met. I had been laid off from work and was starting grad school. I was literally making nothing and in funemployment. Her career had really taken off and she was about $400-500k a year. Also, she went to college on a track scholarship and had an insanely hot body and tan gorgeous skin. I guess I would describe her build as small waist, flat stomach and big butt with muscular legs.

What I've noticed in life is that even super attractive people are just people and they want to be loved too. Also, finding someone as hot as themselves to be in a relationship with isn't always realistic.

I have found that a lot of really attractive people who don't necessarily know they are attractive end up home alone because of this concept of " out of their league". Neighbor I just found out is in her 50's but I thought was late 30's or early 40's. Tall, runner, gorgeous nerd. Lots of family come to visit or stay at big fabulous house,but no dating. I think she is is victim of "out of their league" Not married, not sure if ever, and no kids. Wonderful person

So tell us more about her

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Anonymous wrote:Many women give off a vibe that they are only interested in certain types. If you are not their type(what school you attended, what profession, etc), you move on. There are many other fish in the sea, so why bother?
A lot of my wife's friends were like this...they are all still single. It gets tougher for these women because the bar is alway moving. So at first they want a lawyer, a little late a lawyer who is a partner at a big name firm. The problem is the pool keeps shrinking(not many men meet the requirement and they get married reducing the field further).

Yes. This is a challenge for ambitious women. They are wired to look for provider traits and generally want a man who is "an equal partner" (should be read as "a greater than, or equal to, partner"). Because of this, their dating pool is small, and the men that they find attractive invariably have a much larger dating pool because men are not usually as picky about status and career success. So they are at a disadvantage.

Slate had an amusing game theory article on this topic a few years ago.

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Anonymous wrote:
The typical things, rejection, embarrassment....

Time to toughen up, pal. Don't you get tired of 5s and 6s?

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Anonymous wrote:
The typical things, rejection, embarrassment....

Time to toughen up, pal. Don't you get tired of 5s and 6s?

Maybe he is waiting for the 7. Seriously though I read back to where this came from and if this guy likes this woman irrelevant of her age or success he should go for it. Not grabbing an ass or anything but something small like a movie or coffee.

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Anonymous wrote:In my experience, most men don't think ANY women are out of their league.

They might say that, but ask them to approach one and they'll cringe away with a lot of bullshit excuses for why they can't.

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Anonymous wrote:Do men really believe there are women who are out of their league and if so what makes them out of their league? Is it looks, money or something else. Or is this just a line men use?

It works both ways, IME. Some people just have more of it together and are higher up the food chain. It isn't just looks or money, it is also education, personality, EQ and IQ.....