Ex boyfriend sent note about his mom dying

[Anonymous]

No card. That is overdoing it. It is hard because it in one way you still enjoy the contact. However, it's not going to lead to anything and you need to tell yourself that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I did not know his mom. Just heard about her. Funeral was in CA and he sent me a note from there. I sent a note back and guess I'll call in a few days to see how he's doing. Was just taken aback to get the note.

I would take it as a sign that he thinks you are a good person and he wanted to reach out to good people during this time.

This is lovely and optimistic. However, since he broke her heart, I think it's much more insidious. At best, he is selfishly reaching out and getting comfort from her because maybe his new GF already realizes he's a jerk and isn't there to comfort him. More likely, he's realizing he shouldn't have broken OPs heart and dumped her. At worst, he's playing games because he realizes OP is slowly getting over him and he doesn't like that.

Regardless OP, KEEP YOUR DISTANCE. Believe people when they SHOW you who they are. Words and after-the-fact kind acts don't mean anything. And if somehow he's "reformed", good for him, let him benefit another woman. 99.9% nothing has changed and if you get engaged again you will UNDERestimate your ability to stay away, he'll reel you back in, and you'll get your heart broken again.

Don't do it. A simple "Sorry to hear that" note and that should be IT. Don't even call. It's not going to turn out well for you if you do. And if he's struggling, let him turn to others in his life who maybe he didn't break their hearts. Not to be cold and callous, but he lost his right to lean on you when he broke your heart. I say all this as someone who's lost my own mom at a young age, so it's not that I don't get the heartbreak of losing a parent. But stay away, stay far away. It's an in to further contact and you really really need to stay far away and move on with your life.