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Anonymous
Not sure this is accurate. We're on one income since I'm a SAHM. We saved and spent wisely for the past 8 years (and were frugal when dating/engaged) so when we started a family it wasn't so difficult to stick to a budget. - SAHM in Fairfax |
Anonymous
PP was speaking generally. You are probably not the norm (ie., living frugally, saving, spending wisely). I think many families buy further out where it's cheaper so that one parent can SAH. |
Anonymous
| I was recently laid off, and unless something comes through soon, will probably be a SAHM for awhile starting next month. I live in Forest Glen (just outside the Beltway), and have a 2 year old and a baby on the way in the spring. I'm glad to know there are other SAHMs in the neighborhood. Are there any playgroups? Any other suggestions of activities in addition to story time at the library and music at Mayorga. |
Anonymous
You don't see them as much in the winter, but start heading over to Livingston Park and Turtle Park. Sign up for a class with Miss Cynthia -- it's a Music Together program on Wisconsin in Bethesda. Also try the bookstores for reading hour. |
Anonymous
| To the Forest Glen poster: I think it depends on what side of GA you are on. I know that on the Holy Cross side (non-metro side) the 20902 Mom's Group is supposed to be great. Hanging out at Getty Park, as I do often, I meet a lot of SAHMs. Same with Capital View Park. There are occassional nannies but they are the exception (and all very nice- but it is more parents than babysitters). |
Anonymous
With respect, the OP is telling us that she does go to the parks and storytimes. And as I can attest along with the several AU, CC posters here, it's a sea of nannies around the kid haunts of 20015, eastern 20016 and lower 20815. I'm trying to think of a time when I saw more than two parents at Livingston Park .... |
Anonymous
| What's wrong with Nannies, anyway? Are they all mute and heavily armed? |
Anonymous
I'm the PP you are refrencing. I lived inside the district, VERY different from scrimping in Fairfax. There was not enough frugality in the world I could exercise to continue living life in Dupont, let alone move into house with more space and a tiny back patio. For us, a child in a 1BR condo was not going to cut it. I'm sure if you took your home in Fairfax and plopped it into Dupont (if you could even find enough space, which I doubt) it would cost probably a million plus more combined with a private education. Now that I'm in Loudoun, I can work or I can SAH, which ever I want. I choose to work PT, this would not have been a choice if we still lived in the district. My nose would be to the grind. |
Anonymous
Most nannies I see are in their early early 20s or have limited English skills and an even more limited education. What are we going to have in common? What could I possibly talk to a 23 yr old about? For real, how many of you mom's in your 40's, with advance degrees have close friends in their 20s and are good friends with your neighbor's Nigerian nanny? |
Anonymous
Obviously, nobody said anything is wrong with them. As a SAHM in Friendship Heights, however, it would be nice to find some like-minded moms to hang out with. I actually chat with nannies quite a bit, and have never had much in common with any of them (not to mention that many don't have enough English for a sustained deep conversation in any case). (I am not any of the PPs, BTW; this is my first post to this thread.) It is not anti-nanny to want to meet other moms, for heaven's sake. |
Anonymous
So is the problem age, English skills, or being Nigerian? Sounds like you are unwilling to find out what you might have in common with these nannies. One obvious thing you have in common is that you care for children. |
Anonymous
| This is ridiculous. Moms are different than nannnies (whether the mom works outside the home or is a SAHM) because they are all moms. Nannies are just doing a job, though hopefully care for the children, it is a job. I always chat with the nannies, and many are nice, but there is just not much to say, they are not going through the same experience of parenthood that I am. They are doing a job. |
Anonymous
| Also, I think it would be very isolating to be a SAHM and not have other SAHMs are around. It's a tough and isolating job even if your neighborhood is full of SAHMs. I can imagine it is even more challenging if there aren't other SAHMs in the neighborhood. |
Anonymous
Age, english skills, and education level. Just because I am a SAHM does not mean that I want to talk diapers all day. I read books, I follow politics, I have advanced degrees, and I have a wide breadth of things I like to communicate about. Many of the nannies that I've seen at the park are barely 23 years old. I simply have nothing in common with them. I'm married with children, they are still dating. They like to party on the weekends, I like to curl up in front of the fireplace and read a good book. I'm not saying that there are not intelligent nannies out there, because there are. Often times the nanny does not have command enough of the English language to communicate in more than short sentences with me. So, no I am not unwilling, it just makes it difficult when we don't have a language in common in which to speak. There is only so much charades I can paly in a day. |
Anonymous
| Glover Park has a good number of SAHMs, a few SAHDs, and a whole lot of moms working part-time. During the week, our playgrounds are a mix of parents and nannies. |