My DW Embarrasses Me

[Anonymous]

Thing is, if OP's wife is really one of those women who start arguments/fights (and then expect their husbands/boyfriends/dads/brothers to finish them) ... she won't be happy if he just wanders off, pays Candy Crush, etc.

She's going to want him to BE SUPPORTIVE DAMNIT and will then proceed to complain on Facebook to all and sundry about how she was RIPPED OFF and how men just need to support women.

Nice idea about full receipt in a sealed envelope -- also paying with cold hard cash means you are less likely to overspend.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like a punk kid scared of his mom he needs to grow up and grow a pair.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too long! Maybe the first time was when she burst into tears b/c Disney World was closed.

Why was Disney World closed? The park was too packed? Hurricane? Disney never closes.

[Anonymous]

Too packed. We couldn't even get in the parking lot. Ended up at MGM Studios instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too packed. We couldn't even get in the parking lot. Ended up at MGM Studios instead.

Geez...I'd cry if I got forced into Diz...I'd rather poke my own eye out with a shitty stick than step foot in that hell hole again...{vomit}

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Too packed. We couldn't even get in the parking lot. Ended up at MGM Studios instead.

Geez...I'd cry if I got forced into Diz...I'd rather poke my own eye out with a shitty stick than step foot in that hell hole again...{vomit}

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Too packed. We couldn't even get in the parking lot. Ended up at MGM Studios instead.

Did this happen before or after you exchanged vows?

[Anonymous]

Before.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Before.

I'd be lying if I said I was shocked. You sat in a car with someone crying because Disney was closed and you went on to marry her. Did you think she would change? I can only imagine what a joy she must have been as your wedding day drew closer.

If you have kids, I hope you can figure out how to work through this. Perhaps a good therapist can help you share what you need from wife and help you reconnect with her. No one should feel embarrassed by their spouse like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Before.

I'd be lying if I said I was shocked. You sat in a car with someone crying because Disney was closed and you went on to marry her. Did you think she would change? I can only imagine what a joy she must have been as your wedding day drew closer.

I'd bet he was terrified of what would happen if he backed out of the wedding. The wife sounds like she gets emotionally dysregulated. He's getting embarrassed - regularly - because he knows her behaviour is out of whack for the level of stimulation.

Anonymous wrote:If you have kids, I hope you can figure out how to work through this. Perhaps a good therapist can help you share what you need from wife and help you reconnect with her. No one should feel embarrassed by their spouse like that.

OP - please consider just getting out; short of that, please do see a therapist. You probably can't get her to go in - that would require some acknowledgement on her part there is an issue, and that's probably something she can't do - but at least get in to one by yourself for your own mental health, happiness and well-being. Please, whatever you do, do not have children.

There was a PP who said you were reacting like this is some kind of reflection on you when you could just walk away; she's wrong - people see you as a couple and your wife's behavior will reflect somewhat on you, especially since she will doubtless goad you into taking her side and backing her up in the fight. But that poster was half-right - you can just walk away - not just from the immediate scene, but from the whole deal. Dude, I've BTDT, and I cannot tell you how much better I felt. Please read "The Gift of Fear". If she's not manipulating and emotionally abusing you using the constant threat of a scene, and you really love her, maybe you can help her (by being supportive while a counselor/therapist helps her), but you can't help her until you are safe yourself. It's like they taught us in lifesaving classes - you have to make sure the drowning person doesn't drown you too. Seriously, this is not hyperbole. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Thanks. I am already in therapy.

[Anonymous]

You should have given her a taste of the back of your hand.