Dance like nobody's watching

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are making up how many of us are tired of your shit, just like you are making up everything else. Deal with your mental illness somewhere else.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to dance like nobody's watching then you have to actually not care what other people think. It doesn't literally mean nobody is watching.

Yes, that’s how I read it—be yourself, and forget about what other people think! It doesn’t mean they’ll necessarily like your “dancing.”

In this case, your DH’s criticism sounds like they potentially have more to do with how you socialize when drinking than with your literal dancing. I wasn’t there to see if you were acting drunk (I have a low alcohol tolerance so personally would be after two glasses of wine). On the other hand, it’s possible that you were acting 100% socially acceptably and he is being cruel.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are making up how many of us are tired of your shit, just like you are making up everything else. Deal with your mental illness somewhere else.

Is your husband embarassed of you too? Sounds like it.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

.

It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

You are making up how many of us are tired of your shit, just like you are making up everything else. Deal with your mental illness somewhere else.

Is your husband embarassed of you too? Sounds like it.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us?_gl=1*7blaxr*_up*MQ..*_gs*MQ..&gclid=CjwKCAjw8arQBhB9EiwAfIKdQnSCkJ8DDvIq4IZBBznpMN3QjjUVZ2w3kTuvg3E8GHyMdFaGzaLuyhoCUesQAvD_BwE&gbraid=0AAAAAD_gfuwPoH50CkSCTcKW2jMKw7iqs

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to dance like nobody's watching then you have to actually not care what other people think. It doesn't literally mean nobody is watching.

Yes, that’s how I read it—be yourself, and forget about what other people think! It doesn’t mean they’ll necessarily like your “dancing.”

In this case, your DH’s criticism sounds like they potentially have more to do with how you socialize when drinking than with your literal dancing. I wasn’t there to see if you were acting drunk (I have a low alcohol tolerance so personally would be after two glasses of wine). On the other hand, it’s possible that you were acting 100% socially acceptably and he is being cruel.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

.

It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

Probably as "respectfully" as you.

If this was about caring about OP, there are gentle and respectful ways to talk about it. However, you made it about you, your own feelings, and your need to control and shame others.

And no, I don't drink myself. God.

What are you prattling on about? Are you this insecure about your own life that you heavily identify with OPs problems?

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to dance like nobody's watching then you have to actually not care what other people think. It doesn't literally mean nobody is watching.

Yes, that’s how I read it—be yourself, and forget about what other people think! It doesn’t mean they’ll necessarily like your “dancing.”

In this case, your DH’s criticism sounds like they potentially have more to do with how you socialize when drinking than with your literal dancing. I wasn’t there to see if you were acting drunk (I have a low alcohol tolerance so personally would be after two glasses of wine). On the other hand, it’s possible that you were acting 100% socially acceptably and he is being cruel.

Has anyone said "No offense" since 2017? What a dated phrase.

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You were totally fine, OP. He sounds uncomfortable with extroverted behavior and cannot imagine himself acting the way you did. It sounds like you had a really fun night. And even if you WERE tipsy and slightly “extra,” so what? You know who cares and was judging you? NOBODY! Nobody except your husband, I guess.

And I agree that if you were in an argument, he dredged this up and grossly exaggerated just to take you down and hurt you. I don’t know what your normal style of arguing is as a couple, but this was petty of him.

In sum, you were totally fine! Keep having fun and maybe leave him home for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:You were totally fine, OP. He sounds uncomfortable with extroverted behavior and cannot imagine himself acting the way you did. It sounds like you had a really fun night. And even if you WERE tipsy and slightly “extra,” so what? You know who cares and was judging you? NOBODY! Nobody except your husband, I guess.

And I agree that if you were in an argument, he dredged this up and grossly exaggerated just to take you down and hurt you. I don’t know what your normal style of arguing is as a couple, but this was petty of him.

In sum, you were totally fine! Keep having fun and maybe leave him home for a while.

Plus a million.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

He brought up the so-called issues a few weeks later. That timing suggests he either made something up to make her feel bad or else it was so low-level that it wasn’t even worth bringing up genuinely shortly after that evening.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

He brought up the so-called issues a few weeks later. That timing suggests he either made something up to make her feel bad or else it was so low-level that it wasn’t even worth bringing up genuinely shortly after that evening.

You have no way of knowing that.

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Anonymous wrote:Two glasses of wine is kind of a lot. You need someone to tell you what you're like when drunk. Do you always need to drink to be excited to be with your friends when you're out? Skip the wine next time.

No. I don't drink alcohol myself, but I do know that 2 drinks on a night out with a meal is pretty standard, even for women. The medical definition
of binge drinking starts at 4 drinks for women, and this is well below it.

I'm picking up a shaming tone in your post, and that says so very much more about you and your problems then about OP. It's kind of gross.

I don't care if you think it's shaming. 2 glasses is a lot for a lot of women and if OP is acting silly then her husband is doing her a favor pointing it out. We've all seen sloppy drunk friends. OP says she doesn't go out much so if she's suddenly drinking it can be a lot at once.

No, it's not. Go away with your nonsense.

It's half a bottle of wine. If you think that's nothing then maybe you have a drinking problem.

Again, no one cares what you think. Normal people are talking. Two glasses during the course of the night with food is nothing.

AND even if OP was tispy, SO EFFING WHAT. She was having fun with her friends, letting loose. Perhaps if you took your stick out every once in a while, you would see what a great benefit to mental health that was. You're an ass just like her DH.

Who gives a hoot what a teetotaler thinks about alcohol? Either OP drinks a shit ton at home and 2 drinks is nothing or she's on a bender on a rare night out and 2 drinks will hit her harder. She should ask her friends what she's like.

Wow. That's a helluva lot of black and white thinking. Are you an alcoholic?

Are you? This is in the health forum and op mentioned it. Is it a good health decision or not?

No, she never asked if you thought two glasses of wine was good for her health. You are the one who is desperately trying to make it a thing.

Op mentioned it and can defend her own alcohol choices.

No, she doesn't need to defend consuming two glasses of wine during a special night out. Again, go away. You're really tiresome and you are derailing the thread with your own agenda.

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It’s always a special night isn't it? She has lots of life problems. Clearly.

I have no idea how many problems she has, but it pales in comparison to all of the problems you have and keep bothering us with.

"Us"? You and your shadow. OPs husband respectfully brought up his issues the next day. He didn't fight with her when she got home like some might do. OP has some kind of next day regret. What actual advice has anyone given her here? Drink and club more? Get a divorce?

He brought up the so-called issues a few weeks later. That timing suggests he either made something up to make her feel bad or else it was so low-level that it wasn’t even worth bringing up genuinely shortly after that evening.

You have no way of knowing that.

DP. Well, other than what OP said, which is the only way to know anything about this.