Talking about 2nd marriage. I make $120k, he makes $5M.

[Anonymous]

This is the same clueless troll lady who posted as the will/ inheritance OP before.

Who will protect me or grant me money if I get handicapped or my new rich second husband dies!?!

[Anonymous]

It was that post also with his trust.
She wants access now “in case she needs money to tide herself over through two kids’ colleges.”

[Anonymous]

Newsflash, this dude ain’t going to marry you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both have young kids. Won't have anymore.

Two convos we havent had-
1. Pre-nup. I was fully expecting him to bring it up but he hasn't. Should I bring it up?

2. If we combine finances, I'll be taxed into oblivion, right? I grew up poor so it's a scary thought to not have enough take home pay of my own. This also brings me back to point #1 that I want to be protected.

How would you handle this?

Is this a joke?

[Anonymous]

If you combine finances, meaning paychecks during marriages, you combine those taxes and net income. So are you concerned you should stop working since 30-50% if your gross income will go to govt?

No way would a second marriage with young kids person combine pre-martial assets or inheritances.

[Anonymous]

OP, do you and he love each other? Stupid question I know. Just curious.

[Anonymous]

How are you ladies meeting these men?!

Asking for a friend…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, do you and he love each other? Stupid question I know. Just curious.

Love has nothing to do with keeping your savings and assets from age 20-45 or 50 separate from new people in your life right away.
Maybe in 20 years you commingle, but not immediately. Plus, you have kids from an earlier marriage, they should get their proportion as well, not the new chick dad married who makes receptionist pay.

[Anonymous]

Love should have everything to do with why you are even talking about marriage under any terms in the first place

[Anonymous]

Yes, you can love someone and not sign away your 25 years of compensation, investing and inheritances.

That frankly is prudent. And also fair to your biological children.

[Anonymous]

25 years of prior…

Very coming for second and third marriages. Less commingling than when single and in your 20s starting to build your adult life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We both have young kids. Won't have anymore.

Two convos we havent had-
1. Pre-nup. I was fully expecting him to bring it up but he hasn't. Should I bring it up?

2. If we combine finances, I'll be taxed into oblivion, right? I grew up poor so it's a scary thought to not have enough take home pay of my own. This also brings me back to point #1 that I want to be protected.

How would you handle this?

Before you get engaged or once engaged, meet with a financial advisor to discuss this together.

[Anonymous]

Or if you understand personal finance well, talk amongst yourself.

Might have tax, estate or family law items woven in as well due to this being your second marriages, ex spouses, two sets of children, an income disparity, and like a wealth disparity.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand all this fuss about the kids' finances. The kids have a father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he divorced if he earned 5 million a year?

This is a big red flag.

Most women want to divorce A Man earning that much.

The is very true. I divorced a man earning $700K a year for reasons that should prevent anyone else from marrying him.