My Eating Disorder is ruining my marriage

[Anonymous]

What’s your BMi, height and weight right now?

And before?

No one has a sense of what your body is physically dealing with here. All you said is you don’t like certain foods and may have anorexia but unclear how long or if you are obese or under nourished or what.

[Anonymous]

Are your parents helping you will all these mental and eating disorders over the decades?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am in recovery for an eating disorder that I have had for 30 years. My husband was initially supportive and engaged in my treatment but after 18 months, he has become withdrawn and frustrated. I have no sex drive which is a source of tension. Meal planning and negotiating food decisions is a major source of conflict.

The financial strain of all of my therapies plus accomodating my food requirements is starting to cause a lot of resentment. I need to keep at it but I feel like our marriage was so much better before. I wish I had never embarked on this treatment journey. Aside from couples therapy (we do), I am not sure what to do?

What therapies are you doing?

What do you mean your marriage was so much better before? How long have you been married?

If you’re a 47 now and have had eating disorders for 30 years, what changed with your health, habits, or marriage?

[Anonymous]

such a bad troll post OP, you really don’t know much about anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi. Can you share a little about what regarding meals becomes a battle?

I have a lot of fear foods and food rules so I get really stressed about meal planning. I have a dietician helping me with this but my husband ends up being my accountability which can get tense.

If I were dealing with that (I do, to some extent, but I don't have anorexia), I would meal plan and prep separately for myself and the rest of the family, but eat together. That's pretty much what we do in my house. Is that an option for you? Are you responsible for cooking for the entire household? When you say that he ends up being your accountability do you mean encourages you to eat the fear foods you avoid? And is that what is recommended by the therapist or is he imposing that?

[Anonymous]

Who’s raising the kids?

[Anonymous]

Serious question: what is the point of anorexia nowadays when you can just take ozempic? Like is the planning, obsessing, etc. the point? Being skinny can't be the point if it is so easy to achieve.

I feel for OP, but being around people who make meals stressful is utterly exhausting. I imagine it is even more exhausting when they aren't doing it to find a new partner, continue their modeling career, etc. And there is great joy that comes with food--having someone take that part of life away kind of sucks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: what is the point of anorexia nowadays when you can just take ozempic? Like is the planning, obsessing, etc. the point? Being skinny can't be the point if it is so easy to achieve.

I feel for OP, but being around people who make meals stressful is utterly exhausting. I imagine it is even more exhausting when they aren't doing it to find a new partner, continue their modeling career, etc. And there is great joy that comes with food--having someone take that part of life away kind of sucks.

This comment is terrible and yet so DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I’m betting OP is clinically obese.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m betting OP is clinically obese.

Interesting. But why would she say she had anorexia instead?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m betting OP is clinically obese.

I am not clinically obese. I recently got my BMI up to 19. I am not sure why that matters in terms of mending my marriage? I was more wondering if there were any other couples who had gone through this process together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: what is the point of anorexia nowadays when you can just take ozempic? Like is the planning, obsessing, etc. the point? Being skinny can't be the point if it is so easy to achieve.

I feel for OP, but being around people who make meals stressful is utterly exhausting. I imagine it is even more exhausting when they aren't doing it to find a new partner, continue their modeling career, etc. And there is great joy that comes with food--having someone take that part of life away kind of sucks.

This comment is terrible and yet so DCUM.

I am asking the people with anorexia to please explain why they engage in all of the work still. Is the planning, self-denial, etc. the whole thing? If so, you can imagine why it can ruin relationships. Just being skinny is no longer hard--you just aren't hungry on the drugs, but you aren't ruining everyone else's meals with all the psychosis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: what is the point of anorexia nowadays when you can just take ozempic? Like is the planning, obsessing, etc. the point? Being skinny can't be the point if it is so easy to achieve.

I feel for OP, but being around people who make meals stressful is utterly exhausting. I imagine it is even more exhausting when they aren't doing it to find a new partner, continue their modeling career, etc. And there is great joy that comes with food--having someone take that part of life away kind of sucks.

This comment is terrible and yet so DCUM.

I am asking the people with anorexia to please explain why they engage in all of the work still. Is the planning, self-denial, etc. the whole thing? If so, you can imagine why it can ruin relationships. Just being skinny is no longer hard--you just aren't hungry on the drugs, but you aren't ruining everyone else's meals with all the psychosis.

This is like saying why are you depressed if there are anti-depressants. They have a disease. You are saying just take ozempic so you don't eat but don't stress over food. OP has an underweight BMI. She needs to gain weight. It makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question: what is the point of anorexia nowadays when you can just take ozempic? Like is the planning, obsessing, etc. the point? Being skinny can't be the point if it is so easy to achieve.

I feel for OP, but being around people who make meals stressful is utterly exhausting. I imagine it is even more exhausting when they aren't doing it to find a new partner, continue their modeling career, etc. And there is great joy that comes with food--having someone take that part of life away kind of sucks.

This comment is terrible and yet so DCUM.

I am asking the people with anorexia to please explain why they engage in all of the work still. Is the planning, self-denial, etc. the whole thing? If so, you can imagine why it can ruin relationships. Just being skinny is no longer hard--you just aren't hungry on the drugs, but you aren't ruining everyone else's meals with all the psychosis.

I keep asking people with anxiety why they bother worrying when they can just scroll on instagram! I mean like what’s the point of having anxiety when you can just pop some benzos and wait to die?!?

PP you sound so incredibly dumb and ignorant.

[Anonymous]

What are your symptoms and habits ?