Main reason for divorce

[Anonymous]

controlling nature of ex-wife which along with significant weight gain and low sex done the deal for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For us, it would be the complete inability to communicate about our relationship. That and weight gain by one spouse effectively killing intimacy.

who gained weight - wife or husband?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stagnation, Complacency, Resentment and Contempt usually stemming from adultery, abuse and lack of communication. Expectations and needs going unmet for years because they weren’t clearly communicated creates a belief that the relationship cannot change or grow.

Sometimes Adultery stems from resentment, stagnation, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lack of validation, appreciation, support, respect, and genuine care leading to resentment, disconnection, and contempt aided by poor communication. Often on both sides.

Sum it up 90%, plus lack of affection & sex earl on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stagnation, Complacency, Resentment and Contempt usually stemming from adultery, abuse and lack of communication. Expectations and needs going unmet for years because they weren’t clearly communicated creates a belief that the relationship cannot change or grow.

Sometimes Adultery stems from resentment, stagnation, etc.

Adultery is justified with resentment, stagnation etc, but it stems from entitlement, cowardice, selfishness and emotional immaturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stagnation, Complacency, Resentment and Contempt usually stemming from adultery, abuse and lack of communication. Expectations and needs going unmet for years because they weren’t clearly communicated creates a belief that the relationship cannot change or grow.

Blaming another for not “clearly communicating” their basic relationship needs over and over creates a misbelief that some Mommy Figure is supposed to tell you what to do all the time and not hold you accountable when you fail to do it.

I was thinking about the collapse of a relationship, but you are thinking that I was describing you. Based upon your comment, I would add the inability to forgive small things with the bigger picture in mind. Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women losing respect for their husbands for various reasons.

Women showing no appreciation for the husband and emasculating him until he quits trying usually comes before the loss of respect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Women losing respect for their husbands for various reasons.

Women showing no appreciation for the husband and emasculating him until he quits trying usually comes before the loss of respect.

She relentlessly seeks to control the relationship, but she hates you if you give in and let her. You’d think she might just… not chase the thing that she doesn’t want when she catches it, but she can’t help herself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you think the main reason for divorce is? If you exclude cheating.

Money, Money and Money.

[Anonymous]

Sex and money. Resentment over sex and money.

[Anonymous]

I won't say extreme chronic flatulence was the sole cause, but it was a significant element.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For us, it would be the complete inability to communicate about our relationship. That and weight gain by one spouse effectively killing intimacy.

who gained weight - wife or husband?

Husband.

[Anonymous]

honestly, women realizing what they thought they needed and wanted they don't; and that perimenopause and middle-aged male anger/ego don't mesh well together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:honestly, women realizing what they thought they needed and wanted they don't; and that perimenopause and middle-aged male anger/ego don't mesh well together.

Femcels vs MAGA.

There are no winners.

[Anonymous]

Gottman's Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling