Do you know someone whi talks too much?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

Wrong. ADHD are more likely to go silent than take over a conversation, but if they are engaged, they are often great conversationalists. Autism spectrum disorder is the armchair diagnosis.

No, you’re wrong. I have ADHD and know lots of people with it. Some zone out but some of us get super animated and have to be careful about interrupting when we’re really engaged and interested in a conversation

[Anonymous]

Yes, a parent in a former school social group. I was so relieved when ex “got them in the divorce.” DC moved to a new school. Never had to listen to them again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And loud? I have some lovely friends but I cannot get over nor listen to them go in and on. Do you know someone like this? Exhausting. I feel bad, I always have to cut them off.

My whole Family including me - but we are working on listening to each other better.

[Anonymous]

You're the instigator, the orator of the town
You're the worst when you converse, just a big-mouth clown
You talk when you're awake, I heard you talk when you sleep
Has anyone ever told you that talk is cheap?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

Wrong. ADHD are more likely to go silent than take over a conversation, but if they are engaged, they are often great conversationalists. Autism spectrum disorder is the armchair diagnosis.

Wrong.

[Anonymous]

I have a friend like this, and I take her in doses. She dominates conversations. We can go for an hour long walk and she will take up 50 minutes of it. I'm not quite sure why she would lack social graces like this, but is otherwise intelligent and well-meaning. My only solution is to limit interactions to once a month or so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people I know do this.

For one it is driven by hearing loss (I can’t hear when you talk so I’ll just talk the whole time so as not to be excluded).

For others it’s anxiety. Talking is a way of self-soothing.

For the third group it’s poor social skills.

It’s exhausting to be around, and I limit my time with all 3 groups!

This. Many loud people have hearing loss. I am experiencing it myself and monitor myself not to be loud. I get anxious in groups because people are not understanding at all. I have done the nervous talking thing myself because I can't hear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes. There is a woman at my job who almost never stops. She interrupts people a lot and joins conversations that she is not a party to and starts rambling. She thinks she has valuable information on virtually every topic and that people need to hear what she has to add.

She is otherwise pleasant enough, not a bad person and decent at our job. But she alienates herself from a lot of people because of this habit of hers.

How are ppl clueless about this and its effect on relationships?

ADHD.

Wrong. ADHD are more likely to go silent than take over a conversation, but if they are engaged, they are often great conversationalists. Autism spectrum disorder is the armchair diagnosis.

Uh... no. Interrupting and too much talking are well known signs of ADHD. Spacing out and not contributing can also contribute. And personality obviously also matters

- someone with ADHD

[Anonymous]

I stopped hanging out with an acquaintance after being invited to her house for a drink two or three times and she talked about her problems the entire time and finally when I made motions to leave she said she was sorry she talked the whole time and didn’t even ask me about myself. A one off would be fine, but two to three times when she is clearly aware of her behavior but doesn’t change it is too much.