Are there any all girls' schools in the DMV that don't have a drinking/partying culture?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS and Holton girls party plenty, trust me. As others have said, it's all about what "friend group" your daughter chooses coupled with her own moral compass. Parents needs to do their jobs and not just blame it on the school. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries, and implement consequences.

Parents are often the problem. Kids that party and drink heavily often have parents who do so as well. They grow up in a family that puts great importance on social status, and for high schoolers that often involves partying. The worst of these parents are the ones who are absent and their houses are used for parties, or even host the parties themselves and allow and encourage underage drinking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NCS is overwhelmingly non-partiers.

Agree with the others that you will find a few per grade at any school. What you want to avoid is a critical mass which is somewhat hard to predict because it varies by grade. However, they do seem to congregate at SR.

Haha that is so not true. I know of girls partying like crazy and drinking. On top of it the parents have no clue as they end up doing sleepovers at other friends homes where the girl's parents don't care as they have a fear that their child will be left out or won't have a social life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:NCS and Holton girls party plenty, trust me. As others have said, it's all about what "friend group" your daughter chooses coupled with her own moral compass. Parents needs to do their jobs and not just blame it on the school. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries, and implement consequences.

Parents are often the problem. Kids that party and drink heavily often have parents who do so as well. They grow up in a family that puts great importance on social status, and for high schoolers that often involves partying. The worst of these parents are the ones who are absent and their houses are used for parties, or even host the parties themselves and allow and encourage underage drinking.

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We are currently living in a cultural where the alcoholic mom who drinks mimosas for breakfast, Bellinis at lunch with the yoga moms, and a bottle after work to wind down from the kids is normalized, paraded on social media as something relatable if not aspirational and in full on display for our kids. Not to mention dad who’s always drinking, especially socially at business functions, dinners, at home.. a few beers, some shots.. adult drinks at kid birthday parties. The problem isn’t the drunk kids, they’re symptoms of their parents example.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is 10th an entry year for Madeira? Do they accept transfers mid year for 9th?

9th is the actual entry year, like any HS, but they accept transfers in 10th and 11th if there’s space. I don’t know about midyear. With their mod system, I would think midyear transfers would be particularly difficult, but you can always call and talk to them about it.

You can enter in 10th grade at Madeira, but there is typically only 1 entrant Junior Year.

I have heard of mid or during the year exits, but never mid or during the year entrants.

- Current parent

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is 10th an entry year for Madeira? Do they accept transfers mid year for 9th?

9th is the actual entry year, like any HS, but they accept transfers in 10th and 11th if there’s space. I don’t know about midyear. With their mod system, I would think midyear transfers would be particularly difficult, but you can always call and talk to them about it.

You can enter in 10th grade at Madeira, but there is typically only 1 entrant Junior Year.

I have heard of mid or during the year exits, but never mid or during the year entrants.

- Current parent

This is correct (although there might be 0 or a small handful of Junior year entrants, depending on year).

- A different current parent.

[Anonymous]

no private school doesnt have drinking or partying culture. You are asking teens to not be teens

[Anonymous]

My DD is at SR and I can tell you that while there is a group of students who have frequent parties that likely involve alcohol, the smart high achievers at the top of the class are mostly not involved in that. I can't imagine my DD being able to keep up with her workload and be drinking every weekend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes NCS!
The girls are cute and nice, but they work their assess off and don’t have time for much partying or drinking. [/quo

Wow--that was not the case 40 years ago. We partied our asses off on the reg!

[Anonymous]

There are a some partiers per grade at NCS but it's by no mean the predominant culture. At least half of a typical grade will go through having never been at a party at all. I have recent/current experience with 2 girls.

All the parent alums I know say it's changed quite a bit in this regard from their time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DD is at SR and I can tell you that while there is a group of students who have frequent parties that likely involve alcohol, the smart high achievers at the top of the class are mostly not involved in that. I can't imagine my DD being able to keep up with her workload and be drinking every weekend.

Same & mine has sports 7 days a week. Not all the girls at SR are doing this. A few yes and parents have blown it out of proportion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are a some partiers per grade at NCS but it's by no mean the predominant culture. At least half of a typical grade will go through having never been at a party at all. I have recent/current experience with 2 girls.

All the parent alums I know say it's changed quite a bit in this regard from their time.

that is my perception too. the NCS girls I know are super nice and smart. They are generally attractive, but would much prefer to work on a research project or apply for an internship, than vape, hook up, take topless photos for Gonzaga boys, or drink until they pass out. there's nothing wrong with that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:no private school doesnt have drinking or partying culture. You are asking teens to not be teens

definitely true. But having raised three teenagers who went to both public and private, the party scene at public schools like Langley and McLean is more laid back, or as my kids would say, more chill than the privates. Public school kids do have big parties and I am realistic that there is drinking, but there is not the hard core "something to prove" mentality that I saw first hand at the private schools, and read about on the now locked Stone Ridge thread. for that reason alone, my kids had a much more fun and more normal teenage experience in public school than in private.

[Anonymous]

Most private schools with rich parents are going to have a hard partying hard drinking subset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are a some partiers per grade at NCS but it's by no mean the predominant culture. At least half of a typical grade will go through having never been at a party at all. I have recent/current experience with 2 girls.

All the parent alums I know say it's changed quite a bit in this regard from their time.

that is my perception too. the NCS girls I know are super nice and smart. They are generally attractive, but would much prefer to work on a research project or apply for an internship, than vape, hook up, take topless photos for Gonzaga boys, or drink until they pass out. there's nothing wrong with that!

Why do people say girls are cute or attractive in these sorts of posts? Why is that important enough to mention?

[Anonymous]

We have a daughter at Holton and one at SR. Echoing the sentiments already shared. SR isn’t unique. Both of my girls talk about parties and neither are allowed to go. I went to boarding school and even we managed to go out and party as juniors and seniors.