17yo DD is an “influencer”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whose money is it? If it’s yours, you know what to do.

We don’t give her a lot of spending money but she has plenty of savings from Christmas, birthdays, her summer job, and grad gifts.

Money that is in savings is not to be blown in this manner. I would clamp down on that, at least until she is 18.

How? Isn't it her money?

What do you mean? What is the kid spending- influencers earn money, that’s likely her goal- not to spend it? If it’s her money who is mom to say how she spends it? I mean:: it’s not onlyfans, friends.

Mom her age has nothing to do with it. I’d be more concerned about why your relationship is such that you found this out through a friend and not from your kid. I support my kids business efforts, and support them coming to me for help with such things, or at least disclosure!

Seems like she doesn’t want you to be part of her world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:GRWM? Usually it morphs into the "Sex worker influencer" of OF. Congratulations, OP.

Her job may be AI proof.

You’re so weird. Millions of women are influencers NOT sex workers, grandma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a real post? You say you are not on socials at all but know that she qualified for a LTK account, which I had too look up.

Anyway, tell her how you feel and don't expect her to change.

At this point, unless she's doing something illegal, I'm not sure where you can change things.

no - and it is likely aied. Did you notice it mentions corsets? A word prediction of crazy mom DCUM topics. It reminds me of the taylor swift post and the one about her daughter having the hots for the politician.

[Anonymous]

How does posting silly videos of herself showing off what she has bought, done for the day, or having an overpriced latte, count as an "influencer" of any sort?

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What's her screenname? Give us a look, might not be as bad as you think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: My DD is a college freshman. She was born in NY and started kindergarten at 4. When she was in elementary school we moved to a different state with a much earlier deadline which is why she graduated high school at 17 and will not turn 18 for several more weeks. I am very against social media- I am not on it myself and we did not allow DD on it until she was 16. Today a friend asked me if I knew about DD’s social media and sent me a link to her Instagram and TikTok accounts. She has enough followers to qualify for a LTK account. I am very disappointed. The majority of the posts are “get ready with me” videos, shopping hauls, or showing what she is wearing. I don’t like seeing her spending so much money and being so commercialistic. One video was her in her corset Halloween costume, which I am angry about because she is still underage and if she were a senior in high school living under my roof, I would never let her go out like that. She was an academic high achiever in high school who is attending a competitive school. I believe should be spending her energy in more meaningful pursuits. I don’t know what to do- telling her to delete it would hurt our relationship, which is very strong. I just don’t like the idea that I raised an “influencer.”

Please have this conversation directly with your daughter. Your feelings are valid, but you need to communicate them to her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: My DD is a college freshman. She was born in NY and started kindergarten at 4. When she was in elementary school we moved to a different state with a much earlier deadline which is why she graduated high school at 17 and will not turn 18 for several more weeks. I am very against social media- I am not on it myself and we did not allow DD on it until she was 16. Today a friend asked me if I knew about DD’s social media and sent me a link to her Instagram and TikTok accounts. She has enough followers to qualify for a LTK account. I am very disappointed. The majority of the posts are “get ready with me” videos, shopping hauls, or showing what she is wearing. I don’t like seeing her spending so much money and being so commercialistic. One video was her in her corset Halloween costume, which I am angry about because she is still underage and if she were a senior in high school living under my roof, I would never let her go out like that. She was an academic high achiever in high school who is attending a competitive school. I believe should be spending her energy in more meaningful pursuits. I don’t know what to do- telling her to delete it would hurt our relationship, which is very strong. I just don’t like the idea that I raised an “influencer.”

Please have this conversation directly with your daughter. Your feelings are valid, but you need to communicate them to her.

No, her feelings are not valid and she should not take them to her daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: My DD is a college freshman. She was born in NY and started kindergarten at 4. When she was in elementary school we moved to a different state with a much earlier deadline which is why she graduated high school at 17 and will not turn 18 for several more weeks. I am very against social media- I am not on it myself and we did not allow DD on it until she was 16. Today a friend asked me if I knew about DD’s social media and sent me a link to her Instagram and TikTok accounts. She has enough followers to qualify for a LTK account. I am very disappointed. The majority of the posts are “get ready with me” videos, shopping hauls, or showing what she is wearing. I don’t like seeing her spending so much money and being so commercialistic. One video was her in her corset Halloween costume, which I am angry about because she is still underage and if she were a senior in high school living under my roof, I would never let her go out like that. She was an academic high achiever in high school who is attending a competitive school. I believe should be spending her energy in more meaningful pursuits. I don’t know what to do- telling her to delete it would hurt our relationship, which is very strong. I just don’t like the idea that I raised an “influencer.”

Please have this conversation directly with your daughter. Your feelings are valid, but you need to communicate them to her.

I mean/ daughter hasn’t shared this with mom- how does the non social media mom broach this subject? “My friend was snooping on you and sent it to me who snooped, why didn’t you share this with me?”

Well duh mom because you’re a creeper with creeper friends who then turns to the internet at large for advice rather than knowing how to speak to and connect with me as your child?”

[Anonymous]

Somebody AI ed this post with classic DCUM hot buttons and is now playing the cool poster



Well played

[Anonymous]

This is what you get for being restrictive when your daughter was under your roof. If you push too hard, please remember that your kids will move far away and not come back very often, and may not even supervise your care in your old age.

I had a very oppressive mother: she didn't let me go out with my friends outside school, dictated my clothing choices and they were all super baggy and full coverage, didn't let me watch TV at home, restricted my food even though I wasn't overweight, etc. As soon as I could, I moved to another continent and have stayed there ever since, apart from a few rare visits home.

This could happen to you. Be careful. You need to acknowledge the part you have played in this, and start accepting that she is her own person, making her own (good or bad) choices.

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Anonymous wrote:Let it go. She's an adult. If she's earning commissions from her content, then she's created her own earning stream. You may not like it but you don't have to.

It’s extremely common for young women in college to make extra money online; many work as influencers. Theres also good money to be had on Only Fans, or other sites, including working as a “cam girl.” It’s honest work.

True: up to 10% of U.S. women in the 18-24 age bracket are OnlyFans creators. The exact percentage is hard to pin down though, as Only Fans keeps much of the data about its models/ creators private, to protect those involved.

Hard to believe that many could make much money. But I suppose an extra $100 a month is nothing to sneeze at for a teenager.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Whose money is it? If it’s yours, you know what to do.

We don’t give her a lot of spending money but she has plenty of savings from Christmas, birthdays, her summer job, and grad gifts.

Money that is in savings is not to be blown in this manner. I would clamp down on that, at least until she is 18.

She might be using the money she makes to buy clothes. And based on college influencers they are wearing inexpensive clothing.

It’s time to accept the fact that she’s probably had an instagram account since she was 13 years old. You need to have a good personality and confidence in public speaking to be successful as an influencer, that a positive for her. One problem is you have to spend hours keeping your social media up, it’s hugely competitive.

Instead of being so upset and thinking that you could have controlled her Halloween costume (you couldn’t) if she had another year at home, talk to her about her new “job”. Ask her how she got into it, is she enjoying it. Keep it positive otherwise she’ll tell you nothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this a real post? You say you are not on socials at all but know that she qualified for a LTK account, which I had too look up.

Anyway, tell her how you feel and don't expect her to change.

At this point, unless she's doing something illegal, I'm not sure where you can change things.

no - and it is likely aied. Did you notice it mentions corsets? A word prediction of crazy mom DCUM topics. It reminds me of the taylor swift post and the one about her daughter having the hots for the politician.

Your theory is that any topic that is of interest to the audience of this website must be AI?

OKkkkkkk

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How does posting silly videos of herself showing off what she has bought, done for the day, or having an overpriced latte, count as an "influencer" of any sort?

People watch this crap. I watched that program about joining a sorority and they make these girls talk to the camera while applying makeup and then announcing what they are wearing and where they got it. The dumbing down of America continues.

As for OnlyFans that’s a slippery slope. You start with just topless photos, guys can offer you a certain amount of money to go completely naked, next is video, maybe a porno with another girl. The money gets bigger and bigger. There’s nothing innocent about OnlyFans.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:GRWM? Usually it morphs into the "Sex worker influencer" of OF. Congratulations, OP.

Her job may be AI proof.

You’re so weird. Millions of women are influencers NOT sex workers, grandma.

Sex workers and famous people are the only ones on OnlyFans making money. And influencer on Instagram and TikTok do not morph into OnlyFans.