Contested divorce - fake post nup

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OP here: after subpoenaing my bank accounts, today he sent a settlement offer for a low ball offer: just 200K (mind you, he made 1.35M from the house sale)

[Anonymous]

Pre ups in Virginia need to be notarized. I think this may be a fake post.

If he does get fifty fifty, make sure he is doing all the pickups and drop-offs. If he can't do that, he needs to give up custody, not have you do his job while he is paying less child support.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a fake post. I’m dealing with a fake post nup and according to my lawyer, notarization is highly encouraged but not legally required.

[Anonymous]

In Virginia, at what age do kids get to decide where they want to live?
Also, if no physical domestic violence, is there a way to get your husband who is always yelling everyone (kids and wife, but not physical, but verbally abusive) to leave before the required year of separation if he is refusing to do so? Kids are teenagers and don't want him in the house.

[Anonymous]

If 50/50 and dads don't take their time, with careful documentation- do you get child support adjusted?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am going through a very contested divorce in fairfax county where my husband has come up with a fake post-nup agreement. I've never seen it, let alone signed it. We had a hearing in Oct which has been continued for Jan (his lawyer was sick); lots of evidence including handwriting experts, IT forensics, alibi witnesses etc. We have a strong case and have lots of evidence that this is a fake document. After Jan, we have a child custody hearing in Feb. Since separation, kids have lived with me in Arlington (moved here post separation) from Mclean/Vienna area. Husband sold our marital home behind my back last December when the kids and myself were abroad visiting my family. Kids are with my on weekdays and go to Dad Friday evening-Sunday morning. I want to keep this schedule and he has never asked for more time, kids have adjusted well. Both kids attended schools in Arlington.

He is asking for 50/50. Is he going to get it? He will have to come from Vienna every day for drop offs/pick up during rush hours. I have a fulltime nanny so for me its not been an issue; plus my mother lives with me. How can I get him to settle outside of court? He has a bulldog attorney who loves to litigate and forces me to bleed money....I'm so tired and want this litigation to just end and settle.

This sounds fake. If you both own the house, he cannot sell it without your signature. Why would you move so far if you have shared custody. You both sound like drama. He can get a nanny too. Why shouldn't he get 50-50? Going dad's on the weekend doesn't work as later on you will claim they have activities, sports and friends and then completely stop visits. You had the money to stay local and choose to move away.

Why do you need a grandma and nanny? Raise your own kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In Virginia, at what age do kids get to decide where they want to live?
Also, if no physical domestic violence, is there a way to get your husband who is always yelling everyone (kids and wife, but not physical, but verbally abusive) to leave before the required year of separation if he is refusing to do so? Kids are teenagers and don't want him in the house.

Your posts make no sense as you took the kids and move away. So, you are separated. Stop alienating dad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: after subpoenaing my bank accounts, today he sent a settlement offer for a low ball offer: just 200K (mind you, he made 1.35M from the house sale)

You have your own money and what does this mean? Did you both own the house or only he owned it? What are your savings, retirement, income and what is his?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes he’s going to get 50/50 but usually dads do a “call in sick” type routine where they don’t really follow through. Document it carefully then ask for a modification later.

I’m sorry you’re tired but this is an endurance sport.

OP has a nanny. The nanny does all the sick days and the kids are teens. Why does OP have a nanny and grandma when the kids are teens? Is she taking off when the kids are sick? Her nanny can drive the kids back and forth. That's the nanny's job.

[Anonymous]

I'm the OP. My kids are NOT teens. they are 5 and 3. I have a very busy job so my nanny (whom I pay) does drop off and pick up. Grandma is only here temporarily to help out. The home was purchased during the marriage, but was bought behind my back when I was out of the country and my name was not on the title. he made the downpayment and mortgage payments. We lived there as a family for 3 years, I paid for nanny, renovations, cleaning service, furniture, hosting,etc.

[Anonymous]

I moved to Arlington into my parents paid off condo; that was the reason i moved and plus he sold our home!! i moved for greater stability for me and my kids. he was fine with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the OP. My kids are NOT teens. they are 5 and 3. I have a very busy job so my nanny (whom I pay) does drop off and pick up. Grandma is only here temporarily to help out. The home was purchased during the marriage, but was bought behind my back when I was out of the country and my name was not on the title. he made the downpayment and mortgage payments. We lived there as a family for 3 years, I paid for nanny, renovations, cleaning service, furniture, hosting,etc.

So the real question is, what does your attorney say? Hopefully you have a shark.

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How did he sell the home without your signature?

Was it titled in his name only or titled in both names?

[Anonymous]

Only titled in his name so he could legally sell it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: after subpoenaing my bank accounts, today he sent a settlement offer for a low ball offer: just 200K (mind you, he made 1.35M from the house sale)

What was the appreciation on the house since you only owned it for 3 years? What was his DP?