I fear I am going to be fat FOREVER - vent/advice-seeking

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So one prior poster was pretty rude about it, but, I think it's the truth. In all my research, the experts says that if you stay in a caloric deficit, you will lose weight....there is no ifs, and, or buts. No hormones, insulin, cortisol, anything...that can prevent weight loss when you are burning more calories than you are ingesting. Can you take a real hard look at what you are eating and drinking? I know you said that you counted calories before, but you must be missing something. My advice...don't listen to all these people saying to love yourself and accept the weight and all that. If you aren't happy with your weight, keep working. Don't give up. Keep exercising, keep walking, keeping lifting weights, keep cutting junk food,...keep with the high protein, low calorie. Keep it up.

dp. I agree with all this. I'll add that emotional eating often does not register in our brains. Seriously. I want to lose the 25 lbs I've gained due to emotional eating over the past 2 years. I also want to keep soothing myself with food. Even when I track, I seriously underestimate how much I consumed. I am accepting that I won't lose the weight until I find a better way to comfort myself.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

Good lord, the 700 calories a day + claimed 30k+ steps a day thread just will not die. This person either has an eating disorder or is lying or both. I'm sorry but walking 30-50k steps a day is pretty nuts. Maintaining 700 calories a day is nuts. Doing both is just bonkers.

I am OP of that thread... I posted evidence of my steps. I am toying with the idea of posting before and after pictures so that you can understand that, whatever else I am doing, I am not lying. This happened. Today, while I was wearing leggings, someone approached me to tell me I reminded them of "Jennifer Aniston". No kidding. I was over 200 lbs less than 8 months ago. I actually understand your skepticism, but what I did is real, and, the thing, it wasn't that hard. I explained there, eating <700 calories is easier than eating 1200 calories.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

Good lord, the 700 calories a day + claimed 30k+ steps a day thread just will not die. This person either has an eating disorder or is lying or both. I'm sorry but walking 30-50k steps a day is pretty nuts. Maintaining 700 calories a day is nuts. Doing both is just bonkers.

I am OP of that thread... I posted evidence of my steps. I am toying with the idea of posting before and after pictures so that you can understand that, whatever else I am doing, I am not lying. This happened. Today, while I was wearing leggings, someone approached me to tell me I reminded them of "Jennifer Aniston". No kidding. I was over 200 lbs less than 8 months ago. I actually understand your skepticism, but what I did is real, and, the thing, it wasn't that hard. I explained there, eating <700 calories is easier than eating 1200 calories.

PP the doubter-turned-believer - you don't need to post pictures for them, they won't believe what they can't believe, especially in this day and age with AI and everything. Of course what works for you won't work for many/most but I'm super happy for you and for hopefully a few other DCUMs who came across your thread and giving it a try. Please do post updates when you hit your goal weight and on maintaining it for the long run - most of us know that's the biggest challenge on this journey. GL.

[Anonymous]

OP, I am very sorry that you are going through this. Bad sleep/stress also keep us from losing weight. I’m sure with a toddler and two other kids your sleep and stress levels are far from optimal. I’d prioritize my sleep and then give keto a few months. I’d also add intermittent fasting but still eat breakfast and have late lunch/early dinner and aim to finish eating by 4-5pm. Don’t have caffeine on empty stomach but have it with your breakfast or after. And do not snack between meals at all and try to have 4hrs gap between meals. This should stabilize and decrease your insulin level and hopefully facilitate the weight loss.

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Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

Good lord, the 700 calories a day + claimed 30k+ steps a day thread just will not die. This person either has an eating disorder or is lying or both. I'm sorry but walking 30-50k steps a day is pretty nuts. Maintaining 700 calories a day is nuts. Doing both is just bonkers.

I am OP of that thread... I posted evidence of my steps. I am toying with the idea of posting before and after pictures so that you can understand that, whatever else I am doing, I am not lying. This happened. Today, while I was wearing leggings, someone approached me to tell me I reminded them of "Jennifer Aniston". No kidding. I was over 200 lbs less than 8 months ago. I actually understand your skepticism, but what I did is real, and, the thing, it wasn't that hard. I explained there, eating <700 calories is easier than eating 1200 calories.

And did everyone around you clap when she said this too? Something is very wrong with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were stranded on a deserted island and had to forage for your food...how long would you still be fat?

There is something you aren't being honest about.

this. And what dosage of GLP-1?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell.

I’m 39 for a few more days. I have three kids: 11, 8, and 2. Outside of pregnancy, and since my youngest was born, I was always within the same ten-pound range and wore a size 6. Sometimes a 4, sometimes an 8, but I was pretty much the same size. I ate normally - did not exclude anything but didn’t eat to excess - and was active but was never a gym rat. It was, in hindsight, easy for me to maintain this weight.

My last pregnancy wrecked me 100%. Baby was born in March 2023. I gained an ungodly amount of weight, developed gestational diabetes, and to this day I weigh 30 pounds more than I did when I got pregnant with him.

I counted calories: sub-1600, sub-1400, sub-1200. Eliminated sugar. Eliminated gluten/grains. Quit alcohol. Intermittent fasted. Worked out 3-5 times a week for a YEAR (July 2024-July 2025, cardio and weights). And my weight has barely budged. Oh and before anyone suggests it, I have been on both tirzepitide and semaglutide and neither worked. WTF.

I am now trying the last-ditch effort of a carnivore diet. It’s been 2.5 weeks, and after an initial drop of water weight I haven’t lost anything. My panels are normal, my blood glucose is normal, and I am so plucking depressed at the notion of being perpetually chubby/overweight. I have tried EVERYTHING. Will carnivore/keto be the answer to my problems? Or should I just get used to being FAT!?

While doing all of this did you track your consistency? How many days in any month were you going over your set calorie goal? It is hard to his 90% consistency and we often hit 70% or so which is enough to feel really hard and like we are doing everything right while being just outside where we need to be to lose weight. Or we eat well M-F then relax on the weekend. Did you weight all your food vs estimating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the hell.

I’m 39 for a few more days. I have three kids: 11, 8, and 2. Outside of pregnancy, and since my youngest was born, I was always within the same ten-pound range and wore a size 6. Sometimes a 4, sometimes an 8, but I was pretty much the same size. I ate normally - did not exclude anything but didn’t eat to excess - and was active but was never a gym rat. It was, in hindsight, easy for me to maintain this weight.

My last pregnancy wrecked me 100%. Baby was born in March 2023. I gained an ungodly amount of weight, developed gestational diabetes, and to this day I weigh 30 pounds more than I did when I got pregnant with him.

I counted calories: sub-1600, sub-1400, sub-1200. Eliminated sugar. Eliminated gluten/grains. Quit alcohol. Intermittent fasted. Worked out 3-5 times a week for a YEAR (July 2024-July 2025, cardio and weights). And my weight has barely budged. Oh and before anyone suggests it, I have been on both tirzepitide and semaglutide and neither worked. WTF.

I am now trying the last-ditch effort of a carnivore diet. It’s been 2.5 weeks, and after an initial drop of water weight I haven’t lost anything. My panels are normal, my blood glucose is normal, and I am so plucking depressed at the notion of being perpetually chubby/overweight. I have tried EVERYTHING. Will carnivore/keto be the answer to my problems? Or should I just get used to being FAT!?

The fact that your won't post your height /weight / BMI / fat%, and talking abou losing weight ins 2.5 WEEKS suggests that you are anorexic with a body image problem.

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Anonymous wrote:What the hell.

I’m 39 for a few more days. I have three kids: 11, 8, and 2. Outside of pregnancy, and since my youngest was born, I was always within the same ten-pound range and wore a size 6. Sometimes a 4, sometimes an 8, but I was pretty much the same size. I ate normally - did not exclude anything but didn’t eat to excess - and was active but was never a gym rat. It was, in hindsight, easy for me to maintain this weight.

My last pregnancy wrecked me 100%. Baby was born in March 2023. I gained an ungodly amount of weight, developed gestational diabetes, and to this day I weigh 30 pounds more than I did when I got pregnant with him.

I counted calories: sub-1600, sub-1400, sub-1200. Eliminated sugar. Eliminated gluten/grains. Quit alcohol. Intermittent fasted. Worked out 3-5 times a week for a YEAR (July 2024-July 2025, cardio and weights). And my weight has barely budged. Oh and before anyone suggests it, I have been on both tirzepitide and semaglutide and neither worked. WTF.

I am now trying the last-ditch effort of a carnivore diet. It’s been 2.5 weeks, and after an initial drop of water weight I haven’t lost anything. My panels are normal, my blood glucose is normal, and I am so plucking depressed at the notion of being perpetually chubby/overweight. I have tried EVERYTHING. Will carnivore/keto be the answer to my problems? Or should I just get used to being FAT!?

The fact that your won't post your height /weight / BMI / fat%, and talking abou losing weight ins 2.5 WEEKS suggests that you are anorexic with a body image problem.

she is 5 3 and 175 lbs I think. it's somewhere in the thread

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:try the 700 cal diet in another thread. the op was able to lose ~35% of her weight in a few month with that, plus waking a ton everyday.

NP here, 20lb overweight. I would rather remain heavy than subsist on 700 calories a day. That seems so cruel for someone who is also walking a ton every day.

i was a doubter at first too but read through the entire thread and now a believer. keep an open mind and read it all when bored: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1286666.page

Good lord, the 700 calories a day + claimed 30k+ steps a day thread just will not die. This person either has an eating disorder or is lying or both. I'm sorry but walking 30-50k steps a day is pretty nuts. Maintaining 700 calories a day is nuts. Doing both is just bonkers.

I am OP of that thread... I posted evidence of my steps. I am toying with the idea of posting before and after pictures so that you can understand that, whatever else I am doing, I am not lying. This happened. Today, while I was wearing leggings, someone approached me to tell me I reminded them of "Jennifer Aniston". No kidding. I was over 200 lbs less than 8 months ago. I actually understand your skepticism, but what I did is real, and, the thing, it wasn't that hard. I explained there, eating <700 calories is easier than eating 1200 calories.

And did everyone around you clap when she said this too? Something is very wrong with you.

nobody heard it, and nobody clapped, but you know even if people clapped... like, why wouldn't i want to be be compared to one fittest and healthiest looking celebrities who is also close to my age? what is something "very wrong" with being happy someone made that comparison after spending 15 years in obesity?

[Anonymous]

I hope this helps someone.

Have any of you tried Contrave (a combination of Naltrexone/bupropion)?

My PCP prescribed it to me at the beginning of September, and I've dropped 25 pounds without exercise. It instantly zapped my appetite, muting the chronic food noise.

I spent 8 years at the border of overweight/obese and could not lose the weight through dietary changes/exercise because I could not shut off the food noise. I'm blown away by how little I think about food since starting the medication.

[Anonymous]

I think there is definitely something to doing longer sessions of low or moderate intensity cardio (walking or something else). I started doing 45-60 minute peloton rides 4 times a week (specifically powerzone endurance rides which are lower intensity) several months ago and it has made me lose most of my desire for junk food and the weight is coming off, albeit slowly. Some of it is just me trying to eat less without necessarily counting calories. I do need to be more intentional about consistently eating less to lose weight more quickly, as I go through phases where I eat more and my progress stalls. But I don't gain the weight back, I just stop losing weight.

I would not recommend keto. I tried it a couple of years ago and created some pretty bad habits. Also it is really hard to get enough fiber on it. And it didn't help my weight at all.

[Anonymous]

I am OP of that thread... I posted evidence of my steps. I am toying with the idea of posting before and after pictures so that you can understand that, whatever else I am doing, I am not lying. This happened. Today, while I was wearing leggings, someone approached me to tell me I reminded them of "Jennifer Aniston". No kidding. I was over 200 lbs less than 8 months ago. I actually understand your skepticism, but what I did is real, and, the thing, it wasn't that hard. I explained there, eating <700 calories is easier than eating 1200 calories.

You clearly have an incredibly unhealthy relationship with food. You said you were obese 8 months ago, and you obviously developed an eating disorder to combat that. So, you are going from one extreme to the other. You need therapy to change how you think about food and diet. Most people aren't doubting your results, they are telling you that your methods are unhealthy and unsustainable. And IMO, you have absolutely no business encouraging other people to try and follow your lead.

[Anonymous]

Try tirz again. and follow it. You will lose. I wonder if you bought some bad compound or something.

It takes a huge deficit of calories. Tirz showed me that. But it is impossible to do without meds (to all the PPs) because you will just be dying of hunger and miserable without the meds. It is sad how many less calories I must eat to maintain, let alone lose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try tirz again. and follow it. You will lose. I wonder if you bought some bad compound or something.

It takes a huge deficit of calories. Tirz showed me that. But it is impossible to do without meds (to all the PPs) because you will just be dying of hunger and miserable without the meds. It is sad how many less calories I must eat to maintain, let alone lose.

I'm far from obese but yeah, I was eating way too much, drinking way too much and that's one thing this drug does, manages the food noise so you are very aware of how much you are eating and what you need to eat to sustain.