is anyone worried about their kid finding their spouse in college?

[Anonymous]

Mine goes to a big school OOS and I’m more worried about them not moving back to the DC area for life afterward. I lived abroad in my 20s and I want them to live wherever they want, but I do want them to settle back here in the DC area after a while (just selfishly, so I can see them more often).

Don’t worry until you have something to worry about.

[Anonymous]

I don’t worry about my kid finding a spouse in college, but I do worry about how my kids’ choice of college influences who they marry.

We get so anxious on this board over where our kids might go to college, but ultimately that decision is much less important than who your child decides to marry.

[Anonymous]

Nah, not there for an Mrs. degree.

[Anonymous]

Worried that they do, or worried that they don’t?

Either way, no, I’m not worried about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd be worried if they did find a spouse in college. Then again, we didn't marry until our 30s, so my view is colored by that.

+1 me, too.

[Anonymous]

Im actually more worried that they won't. I have two college aged daughters and there is essentially no dating in college per their reports. And a family member who teaches at a medical school and residency in a female dominated speciality says that it's noticeable that year-in and year-out that the female medical students and residents don't date as they have a really hard time meeting eligible and educated men.

I wouldn't breathe a word of this to my daughters but it doesn't seem particularly easy out here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:or is that outdated now? it seems much less common than it was, say 30 years ago.
If you are, is it worth making sure their school is the right fit for it and if not, transfer?

Currently have a HS senior interested in big rah rah and greek life...

It is nice when it happens in grad school …

[Anonymous]

Op, it's an unimportant consideration for me, as a parent. I have never had that thought

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Im actually more worried that they won't. I have two college aged daughters and there is essentially no dating in college per their reports. And a family member who teaches at a medical school and residency in a female dominated speciality says that it's noticeable that year-in and year-out that the female medical students and residents don't date as they have a really hard time meeting eligible and educated men.

I wouldn't breathe a word of this to my daughters but it doesn't seem particularly easy out here.

Young women out number men in both Law and Medical school and just college in general.

[Anonymous]

Ugh.

Not something you should be considering at all. They are just teenagers. Let them become the adults they are meant to be. To acquire the knowledge and skills they need to support themselves.

There is plenty of time for them to pair off and procreate after college.

[Anonymous]

If they don't meet a future spouse then where will it happen? its so frowned upon if not forbidden to meet romantic partners at work now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they don't meet a future spouse then where will it happen? its so frowned upon if not forbidden to meet romantic partners at work now.

I work with a ton of recent grads and they all date each other, pretty openly. It's really only problematic if higher ups start sniffing around them but no one cares what the entry levels do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If they don't meet a future spouse then where will it happen? its so frowned upon if not forbidden to meet romantic partners at work now.

I haven't found this to be the case as long as the people aren't reporting to each other.

[Anonymous]

I prefer they DO meet spouse at college but hard at big Greek schools. Assume elite schools easier

[Anonymous]

OP - what exactly are you worried about?