Being asked to get covid, flu and Dtap shot before meeting baby

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Just wait till baby is immunized. I'd get DTAP or TDAP, but not rest.

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mom of older teens so its been a while. My sister is having a baby and her ob/gym said anyone around the baby within the first two months must have a flu shot, covid shot and Dtap.

I've had enough covid shots and had covid a few times. I was not planning to get me or my kids another shot.

Is this standard for newborns now?

Sounds reasonable

[Anonymous]

OP here- OP here. Good greif. You people take s**t out of context. I didn't say babies don't get covid. I never said I would refuse the shot. I said specifically I had not planned to get a covid shot. I asked a question if this was standard now.

this was my original message.
"I am a mom of older teens so its been a while. My sister is having a baby and her ob/gym said anyone around the baby within the first two months must have a flu shot, covid shot and Dtap.

I've had enough covid shots and had covid a few times. I was not planning to get me or my kids another shot.

Is this standard for newborns now?"

---Nowhere did I say I was MAHA or anti vax or

[Anonymous]

When my now 17 yo nephew was in utero we were all asked to get tdap. That’s not new. Flu is prudent for flu season.

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Anonymous wrote:Covid wasn’t standard 10 years ago because it has only been around since 2019. However, when I gave birth to my first child in 2012, we absolutely had both sets of grandparents get their flu & Tdap shots.

When DH and I were about to become grandparents, we went and got the vaccines recommended. We got flu shots yearly anyway.

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Yeah it is standard advice and has been for a long time but many don’t follow it especially for a second or third born, because it’s not really all that practical. With your first you might sequester and not go inside anywhere (even pre-covid, my oldest is 8) but that’s not the case with subsequent kids due to daycare / activities / needing to get out of the house w a toddler. It is what it is. I had the grandparents get tdap/flu ( I think flu but honestly don’t remember) but that’s about it

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

NP. It's been standard for well over a decade.

This. My friend’s youngest is 11 and I had to get a dtap before I met the baby (I already had the flu short and it was precovid) so the recommendation to be up to date on vaccines isn’t new.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they don't want a newborn getting covid a few times.

has there every been a case of a newborn getting covid?

.... yes? just like a newborn can catch RSV or the flu, from a sick parent or sibling?

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Normal.

Why on earth would you not get these?

[Anonymous]

If your dtap is up to date, screen shot that for her and show her. Even dads don’t have to get dtap for every baby, just the moms do while pregnant because it passes immunity.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe they don't want a newborn getting covid a few times.

has there every been a case of a newborn getting covid?

.... yes? just like a newborn can catch RSV or the flu, from a sick parent or sibling?

I wish everyone could get the rsv shot. It’s definitely more likely the newborn would get that than any other virus.

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Anonymous wrote:Of course being completely up on your vaccines is a thing OP.

You posted this to be annoying.

Grow up appreciate you have a healthy family member and get those dam shots.

I would not want an idiot like you around my kid.

Wow. I am the OP and you don't have call me an idiot. I simply asked the question of whether this was standard now because this was not something that was told to parent of newborns 10 years ago.

My doctor did not recommend covid shots for my family due to our history/exposure which is why I hadn't planned on doing it. I never said I wound't. I just asked if it was standard. Maybe you need to grow the F up

Of course covid shots weren't recommended 10 years ago! Purtussis and flu were recommended 19 years ago, when my oldest was born.

OP here. I was not talking about COVID. 10 years ago doctors were not recommending tetanus and flu shots before being around my baby. My peers and I with older kids were never told to ask people for any type of vaccine before being around our babies. People did not even ask nannies if they had had vaccines. I am not an anti vax person and have never refused any vaccinations or shots for me or my kids. We've had several covid shots. I just don't personally want more of that particular one. I DIDN'T SAY I WOULDN''. I JUST SAID I DIDN'T WANT TO

DON'T THEN

But don't we all do things we don't want to?

only if OP want to see her sister's child

OP here. Okay.... I've been examining why I'm feeling the way I feel because honestly I think its not about the vaccinations. I actually don't even care that much about shots. I think its that my younger sister is dictating terms to visit. She also seems to be a parenting expert when this is her first child. I have two high schoolers. I have a little experience.

The baby's mother is the expert on that baby. She and her husband do indeed get to dictate the terms for people who want to visit with their baby. Other people's experience with other children is irrelevant.

People run into this with their parents all the time as well. Doing something differently isn't a judgment on your parenting and it's really, really important to drop that attitude and defensive posture or you're going to ruin your relationships with people.

But yes, getting vaccines to protect vulnerable babies is a very normal ask. My Dad was a pediatrician and when my first nephew was born he told me.to get my Tdap updated.

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

NP. It's been standard for well over a decade.

My child is 15. We were given the same advice ( minus COVID). Everyone got the shots.

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I'll never understand the reasoning of people like OP, who are fine with playing with a newborn's life just because they don't want to be inconvenienced.

OP. I"m not playing with anyone's life. I asked if it was standard now

Also playing with words, I see. To answer your question, yes, it's the standard recommendation to be up to date on all routine vaccines, including flu, Covid, and Tdap (adult version of DtaP).

You should know this. I have a young adult and a high schooler, and I know this.

I know what is required for vaccinations for kids. I don't know of any middle-aged parents who have been asked to get a recent tetanus shot though. Do you?

Yes, our primary doctor has us get it every 10 years as a standard, with booster if needed due to exposure. I am 46. Over 65 should get rsv too. Why even question your sister if that is what she wants? You sound annoying Op.

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Um, a hormonal pregnant or post partum family member asks me to get vaccines? Yea without question. And OP if your perimenopausal mean, come over and rage in that forum and leave the pregnant ladies alone.