Do I tell his GF?

[Anonymous]

You have NO IDEA who this person is who texted you. It could’ve been him from a different number for all you know. “She” will want to meet up to get details and it’ll be him and he’ll end you. Or she could be a legit gf but she will f you up. Do NOT engage.

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Anonymous wrote:For the people who are wary of responding to strangers, I think this is a situation where you should respond. Moral rectitude outweighs the risk. But if you're frightened, you can investigate her phone number and see whether the person it's attached to could plausibly be that man's girlfriend.

No, keeping yourself safe outweighs moral responsibility to strangers.

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Anonymous wrote:I think l would tell her you dated him for 6 weeks x months ago. You were the one who broke it off. You didn’t know he had a girlfriend.

All true facts. Why not help her with information?

BC it never ends .. Then things gets weird.
Who wants to be a part of or responsible for that ?

Np. How do you it won't end? If she keeps contacting you just ignore after you have given the info.

How would you feel if u were the girlfriend? You can tell her that you are afraid of his temper

Girllllllllllllllllllllllllll.... No. But ok.
Try Un- Inserting yourself if business that doesn't pay you.

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[Anonymous]

Block the number.

You do not need to put her or yourself in any danger.

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Anonymous wrote:What? You dated for just over a month and slept with him?

This is...not a strange timeline.

Yes, it is.

Maybe if you were young in 1910.

I think it's that poster who comments on every thread how "sex before marriage is a sin" and "we should repent." Very annoying.

It’s meant to annoy people who are promiscuous.

It doesn't annoy me. I feel sorry that you lead such a small, constrained life. The vast majority of people are engaging in sexual intercourse well before the six week mark.

I feel sorry that you don’t value yourself. The vast majority of promiscuous people may engage in it well before six week mark. That is an illogical fallacy to say this makes it right.

Stop derailing the thread. No one cares about what you think about premarital sex. Go away.

Because you don’t have a defense.

Defense? You stated your dumb opinion no one cares about. There is nothing to defend against.

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Anonymous wrote:Block the number.

You do not need to put her or yourself in any danger.

Agreed.

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Back to the OP's original question. Unfortunately you are in a (relatively small) bit of danger whatever you do. Obviously the guy is unstable, and anybody in a relationship with somebody like that for six years is not normal either. A normal person would have run within a few weeks, like you did.
Who knows if the text came from a genuine girlfriend, or from the guy himself trying to stir up your attention. Either way, if you ignore it, he/she may be triggered and escalate to something worse then a bizarre text. But if you engage, it is going to escalate too.
you seem kind of screwed either way. Buy a gun, find a healthy, normal boyfriend to protect you, and say a prayer that it goes away. Best of luck

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Anonymous wrote:Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.

Wrong. How do you know she is the GF? How do you know this isn’t a scammer?

Do you really share all the details of your life with a random stranger who messages you?

Op indicated that the guy is a creep. This could be him texting. Block the number.

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Anonymous wrote:For the people who are wary of responding to strangers, I think this is a situation where you should respond. Moral rectitude outweighs the risk. But if you're frightened, you can investigate her phone number and see whether the person it's attached to could plausibly be that man's girlfriend.

What if she is as crazy as he is? and decide to come after you for sleeping with her boyfriend? You don’t need that drama. Block her number and stay out of it.

A woman who stays with a man like that for 6 years definitely isn't right in the head.

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Anonymous wrote:Well as someone who was the GF who reached out to the woman my ex was cheating with, I am forever grateful for her honest, kind reply. We didn’t stay in touch and there was no drama. But I will forever appreciate the clarity she gave me as my ex was a lying @sshole.

Why didn't you call her? A text could be from anyone.

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Anonymous wrote:A few months ago, I dated a guy very briefly. He started off nice, but started acting sketchy, then it became pretty clear he had an angry/violent streak (like yelling at a cashier then finding her on FB to send her threatening DMs). I broke things off immediately when this side of him came out. We had only dated for about 6 weeks and slept together maybe 3 times.

Last night I got a text from a woman that said she had found my number in his phone, and asking if I knew him, because she was his girlfriend of 6 years and suspected he was cheating on her.

Normally I would tell the truth, but given this guy’s anger issues, I don’t want to get dragged into anything. I’m debating between either blocking her number or making up some excuse like, I dunno, I’m a realtor and just talked to him about a house. Although I guess that’s stupid because if he gave her another excuse, it won’t line up.

Normally I’m a girl’s girl and would let her know her BF was seeing me but I do worry this guy would show up at my house angry.

WWYD? Just block her?

Well yeah. It might even be him. Tread lightly and MYOB.

Or you could sleep with her and send him some vids and throw caution to the wind.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell the truth, tell her exact dates as near as you can, and explain the reason why you left and your fear that he's a violent person. Obviously note that you were not aware he had another girlfriend! Legally, you owe her nothing, but morally, you have a duty of care.

Wrong. How do you know she is the GF? How do you know this isn’t a scammer?

Do you really share all the details of your life with a random stranger who messages you?

You seem to be spamming the thread. I don't agree with you. What would a scammer get from concocting such a story? Nothing.

You are so naive. Don’t you know how scammers operate?
Step 1: build trust
Step 2: once you trust them and believe their story, its easier for them to get what they want from you.

With you, they already succeeded with step 1. You are ready to put yourself at risk to save “the poor woman”.

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OP please come back with an update.

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Anonymous wrote:OP please come back with an update.

She’s in a ditch somewhere because she agreed to talk to the “GF” and *shocker* it was exBF out to get her.