Good men are married; single men are broke

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Anonymous wrote:If he doesn’t have money, he’s not worth wasting your time on.

If you don't have money, you aren't worth wasting his time either?

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$26 dollars an hour pre-tax and ins, is not wealthy by any standard, regardless of frugality.

You couldn’t even afford a decent apartment in this region.

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Anonymous wrote:You gotta lock em down in their 20’s. Even if you don’t marry until 30, you need to have it in the bag before then.

Men are not mature enough for marriage in their 20s anymore. Maybe 30s some are, or 40s for most men.

Some are, and I would argue the better ones. And the good ones who aren’t quite ready still need to be locked into a LT dating relationship by mid-late 20’s. If you don’t, someone else will.

Marrying a man that young, will wind up in divorce when the woman hits the wall at 40-60 and he's still turning heads.

Always marry a man around 10-20 years older to account for the biological gap.

Exactly how many middle aged men do you think are turning heads?
Look around at your kids soccer game and you will see a sea of fat dads. The one or two handsome ones have bombshell wives. I have literally never seen this situation you bring up.

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Anonymous wrote:You gotta lock em down in their 20’s. Even if you don’t marry until 30, you need to have it in the bag before then.

Men are not mature enough for marriage in their 20s anymore. Maybe 30s some are, or 40s for most men.

Some are, and I would argue the better ones. And the good ones who aren’t quite ready still need to be locked into a LT dating relationship by mid-late 20’s. If you don’t, someone else will.

Marrying a man that young, will wind up in divorce when the woman hits the wall at 40-60 and he's still turning heads.

Always marry a man around 10-20 years older to account for the biological gap.

Exactly how many middle aged men do you think are turning heads?
Look around at your kids soccer game and you will see a sea of fat dads. The one or two handsome ones have bombshell wives. I have literally never seen this situation you bring up.

Not saying I am ugly, but I am not a bombshell and DH still turns heads. I am his “type”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If he doesn’t have money, he’s not worth wasting your time on.

If you don't have money, you aren't worth wasting his time either?

If she is marginally attractive and has a moist vajayjay she thinks she is all that and a bag of chips.

[Anonymous]

I thought this was a troll post - I've never heard of that website and it sounds like a joke. But everyone is responding like it's Census data?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:$26 dollars an hour pre-tax and ins, is not wealthy by any standard, regardless of frugality.

You couldn’t even afford a decent apartment in this region.

The Chick-fil-a by my house starts new employees at $22 per hour.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But everyone is responding like it's Census data?

It is Census data.

Income and marital status information is derived from the 2023 Annual Social and Economic Supplement (ASEC) of the Current Population Survey (CPS) conducted by the Census Bureau of United States.
https://igotstandardsbro.com/stats

Do you dispute that most men in their thirties and forties are married, and the single ones earn much less? There are over 1 million men in prison and almost 1 million homeless. Around 11% of working age adults have a disability. There are poor immigrants and unskilled laborers who cannot support a family. And then there are the "failures to launch" who live with their parents. These guys are all single.

Some people live in a white collar bubble where everyone attended a Top 20 college. But most adults lack a 4-year college degree. Marriage is much more common for high income people. This affects both single men and women. But men are more willing to date women who earn less money and become homemakers.

[Anonymous]

It’s not that complicated.

If you want an attractive man with money, become an attractive woman with money.

The women I see complaining how there are no men left don’t take care of themselves physically, and even if they are attractive, work a $16 an hour job because they just want to be a SAHM.

And it goes both ways. Men who can’t land a woman are always ugly and/or broke.

Be someone worthwhile and you’ll attract someone worthwhile.

[Anonymous]

Never thought that worth was related to material things when it comes to relationships. Clearly, here in USA is all transactional, which is why does not work in most cases. The what is in it for me, is really the issue.

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Anonymous wrote:You gotta lock em down in their 20’s. Even if you don’t marry until 30, you need to have it in the bag before then.

Men are not mature enough for marriage in their 20s anymore. Maybe 30s some are, or 40s for most men.

Some are, and I would argue the better ones. And the good ones who aren’t quite ready still need to be locked into a LT dating relationship by mid-late 20’s. If you don’t, someone else will.

Marrying a man that young, will wind up in divorce when the woman hits the wall at 40-60 and he's still turning heads.

Always marry a man around 10-20 years older to account for the biological gap.

Exactly how many middle aged men do you think are turning heads?
Look around at your kids soccer game and you will see a sea of fat dads. The one or two handsome ones have bombshell wives. I have literally never seen this situation you bring up.

Not saying I am ugly, but I am not a bombshell and DH still turns heads. I am his “type”.

One dad of a player on DD's soccer team and wife is not a bombshell, very pretty but not a bombshell. The other dads are as you describe.

[Anonymous]

The very best way of improving your odds of finding a great partner, either on line or off line, is by improving yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:You gotta lock em down in their 20’s. Even if you don’t marry until 30, you need to have it in the bag before then.

Men are not mature enough for marriage in their 20s anymore. Maybe 30s some are, or 40s for most men.

Some are, and I would argue the better ones. And the good ones who aren’t quite ready still need to be locked into a LT dating relationship by mid-late 20’s. If you don’t, someone else will.

Marrying a man that young, will wind up in divorce when the woman hits the wall at 40-60 and he's still turning heads.

Always marry a man around 10-20 years older to account for the biological gap.

Exactly how many middle aged men do you think are turning heads?
Look around at your kids soccer game and you will see a sea of fat dads. The one or two handsome ones have bombshell wives. I have literally never seen this situation you bring up.

Not saying I am ugly, but I am not a bombshell and DH still turns heads. I am his “type”.

Do you see the difference between one sample and the average that PP is talking about ? Men have 15% obesity rates than women past age 45.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he doesn’t have money, he’s not worth wasting your time on.

Such an interesting gulf between kinds of people. I have my own money so it doesn't even occur to me to care what a man makes. As long as I don't need to give him an allowance, I am free to judge on things that actually matter to me, like humor and kindness and ... certain skills. Such as cooking.

[Anonymous]

I mean isn’t this just human nature? The hot, well earning and nice humans get picked off first?

I married a very attractive man and I’m sure that some of the reason was that I found him first at age 20. He was always super hot but once we had kids and he was very involved with them, women want him. He’s typically oblivious but joked once that he gets hit on more with our 3 kids in tow, driving our minivan, more than he ever had as a single guy. I bet most women want an involved father more than they want an attentive spouse or a high earner if they had to pick.