If you were married 20 years or more how long did it take you to get over your divorce?

[Anonymous]

Married almost 20 years and started getting over it after years of alcoholism on spouse's part, plus prescription drugs, ADHD and other things that led me to say enough is enough. I realized how I was constantly braced for incoming, managing our lives to keep things from falling through the cracks and trying to insulate our DD from impacts that she felt anyway. Now we are in the middle of a nasty divorce and I'm fielding one accusation after another as ex-spouse looks for ways to impugn me and my behavior. THere's been no time to mourn or grieve the loss of my marriage since this all started; I've been in self-defense mode every since. I don't even recognize this person and sadly, I don't feel a thing for them anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Divorce, divorce, divorce. It’s all you people think about. What did you get married for?

Based on OP’s question, I’m guessing OP is on his/her first divorce and we’re talking about a long term marriage, so it’s not like OP and spouse never took marriage seriously. Either be supportive of someone going through a rough time or ignore. There’s no reason to kick someone when they’re down.