Where are the best places to approach women in public?

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Anonymous wrote:OP, DCUM is not the best place to ask. The majority of DCUM users are middle-aged women who are frustrated in life, understandably, because they are juggling parenthood and marriage and careers.

The only difference between "looking like a creep" and "being interesting and approachable" is going to be subjective and will depend on the woman in question. If you're handsome and have good social skills, you will face a lot less judgement, surprise, surprise! Your intent and good character don't actually matter in those few minutes, even though all these women think they do.

lol take it from a man to believe that this depends on the man being handsome and then discounting the importance of social skills. Yes dummy, you need to have good social skills to pick up women. Sorry you find that hard to swallow.

If the OP had social skills then he wouldn’t need to ask his question in the first place. If you have social skills then you can pick up women pretty much anywhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Stairwells in parking garages

as a woman, I would be uncomfortable if a man approached me when we were alone in a stairwell. maybe I've been watching too many police dramas but my mind would race to the worst case scenario and i would not be in a flirty mood.

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Anonymous wrote:Stairwells in parking garages

as a woman, I would be uncomfortable if a man approached me when we were alone in a stairwell. maybe I've been watching too many police dramas but my mind would race to the worst case scenario and i would not be in a flirty mood.

The PP was joking, nitwit.

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Anonymous wrote:Men in a book club!? Laughable.

I joined a book club but none of the women I met was remotely appealing as a partner or even a date.

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Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.

Anywhere. Not like there are designated "flirting zones" to be had.

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These responses confirm the value of dating apps.

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OP, during times you're waiting. You're in a small group waiting for something. For my now DH, we were waiting for a metro bus during our commute. It was an off-peak time and there was a lot of time to wait. I'd suggest it's best if you speak first to someone else in the group. Talk to an elderly gentleman, someone like that. Exchange a friendly comment and only then speak to the woman who you find interesting.

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There is nothing wrong with approaching someone in public! As long as you are very attuned to whether she is responsive or not. A woman who gives you a quick glance and polite short response then looks back at her phone or book or whatever is not interested, so stop. But If you're waiting for a train/bus/plane/in line for a restaurant or concert or whatever, go ahead! Just a friendly comment to assess if she is open to chatting.

I chat with strangers (men and women) all the time in grocery store lines, airport lines, etc. Nearly always it is just brief polite chit chat about the lines, the weather, whatever and it goes nowhere after saying "oh that's my group they're calling, have a good flight!" But every now and then it has led to friendships and even a couple dates. It is only weird if you make it weird.

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Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend approached me while waiting for a train and asked if I'd want to sit together

That's strange just walked up to you and asked to sit together? Odd.

Best thing that ever happened to me. He struck up a convo and then when the train got there he asked what stop i was heading to and if I wanted to sit together/continue the convo.

Is he a really outgoing person in general? Did he ever describe to you how he felt that day?

I'd describe him as a reserved social butterfly. He is never the center of attention or life of the party, but he can shoot the sh-t with anyone about almost any topic and always leaves wherever he goes with new friends. It was a very cold winter day and I was shivering like crazy waiting for the train because I was in a work dress + pea coat + flats and he made some joke about it being a good thing i dressed for the weather and I joked back that I was dismayed because my humble hardworking parents paid good money for 14 years of catholic school skirts to permanently harden my legs to the cold, but I was apparently turning wimpy in my old age. He laughed and said he was also a reformed catholic school kid and we started chatting.

I am invested in this story. Did he get off at the same stop as you? At which point did you ask for his number?

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Anonymous wrote:If I want to be approached, I'll go to a cozy pub and get an appetizer/drink alone at the bar.

Now days no one will approach you. Men have gotten the message. So if one does approach you watch out!

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Is the Social Safeway on Wisconsin still a place to go for this?

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Anonymous wrote:These responses confirm the value of dating apps.

Dating apps are worst. After 2-3 days of creation of your profile, men and women are only matched up with others who have the same internal score from the dating apps. It is based on views, responses, the rating of those interacting with your profile, etc. If a profile is 2-3 days old it has an internal number. So let’s say you get some interest from a bunch of 5-6s by day 3 you will be only seeing 5-6s or lower.

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Anonymous wrote:If any. Public approaches feel like a lost art.

On the street. Just be sure to look for an illuminated red light first.

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Back in the olden days before the apps most couples met at work, school or through friends. More likely to get a positive response than approaching a stranger. It usually feels creepy or like harassment.

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Anonymous wrote:I second the "please do!" as long as it's not creepy. Places as are vast as "public" - the gym, the grocery store, the metro, on a walk. Just strike up a neutral conversation.

No please don’t. Bad advice. Most women will consider It harassment.
There is only a 5% chance that the woman you approach might be interested.

The 5% are far more important than the 95%