can I block child's ability to buy food?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The lunches I pack: turkey and cheese on a bagel, chicken salad sandwich, peanut butter and jelly or honey sandwich.... a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. Generally he eats everything except the sandwich, says it "got squished and looked gross" etc.

So then buys a second lunch from the school, usually their nachos meal, chicken and waffles meal or the Power Pack with an uncrustable and cheezits.

You have to pack the sandwich in a hard container. Or just buy the Uncrustables in bulk at Costco or wherever and send 1 of those in his lunch if he’s usually buying them at school. If it’s good enough for NFL players, your kid can eat it too! https://people.com/nfl-players-eat-at-least-80000-uncrustables-a-year-8734457

Seriously? I would never base any parenting off of what professional football players do. Most have literal brain terms, and many come from homes where proper nutrition was likely not taught.

This isn’t that much of a stretch of the imagination. I would say many kids who don’t even play football come from homes where proper nutrition was not taught. Why do you think cafeterias are stuffing kids with nachos and pancakes for lunch?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The lunches I pack: turkey and cheese on a bagel, chicken salad sandwich, peanut butter and jelly or honey sandwich.... a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. Generally he eats everything except the sandwich, says it "got squished and looked gross" etc.

So then buys a second lunch from the school, usually their nachos meal, chicken and waffles meal or the Power Pack with an uncrustable and cheezits.

You have to pack the sandwich in a hard container. Or just buy the Uncrustables in bulk at Costco or wherever and send 1 of those in his lunch if he’s usually buying them at school. If it’s good enough for NFL players, your kid can eat it too! https://people.com/nfl-players-eat-at-least-80000-uncrustables-a-year-8734457

Seriously? I would never base any parenting off of what professional football players do. Most have literal brain terms, and many come from homes where proper nutrition was likely not taught.

NFL teams have nutritionists on staff who approve and food for the athletes. Post workout meals can be smoothies, quick snacks, like uncrushables, etc.

I won’t be quick to dismiss this idea just because they are NFL athletes and you have a limited knowledge of them and are quick to stereotype them.

This is is literally UPF garbage. Any nutritionist who recommends this should have their qualifications reviewed.

Honestly, who cares! lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

[Anonymous]

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

OK, I'll bite. But that is probably a total of 750 calories. Maybe 900. It's not enough.

He's clearly either growing or not into what you're packing as a "main." Ask: "What can we pack that you'd like to eat? Want to come to the store with me?"

Even after packing what my son wants, he gets tired of it after a while, and I allow him to tell me what he'd like, how we can switch it up, etc. And he does eat the full lunch we pack, but comes home and eats what I call second lunch. He's just....hungry.

If he's doing any kind of sports, protein protein protein. I'm not surprised he's balking at chicken salad. $10 his friends said "Ewwww. What's that?" once and he's never even pulled it out of the lunch kit again.

I think there's also some peer pressure and social aspects going on in the lunchroom either. Is he talking a lot and not able to finish his lunch? Is there a friend that buys and he wants to spend time in the line with them? Is there a girl he likes and wants to walk through the line with?

Or, have you ever thought he's giving the lunch to someone else? He may be trying to help someone and doesn't know how to tell you. Just throwing it out there.....You may need to get creative with how you are asking what's really going on at lunch.

[Anonymous]

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What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

OK, I'll bite. But that is probably a total of 750 calories. Maybe 900. It's not enough.

He's clearly either growing or not into what you're packing as a "main." Ask: "What can we pack that you'd like to eat? Want to come to the store with me?"

Even after packing what my son wants, he gets tired of it after a while, and I allow him to tell me what he'd like, how we can switch it up, etc. And he does eat the full lunch we pack, but comes home and eats what I call second lunch. He's just....hungry.

If he's doing any kind of sports, protein protein protein. I'm not surprised he's balking at chicken salad. $10 his friends said "Ewwww. What's that?" once and he's never even pulled it out of the lunch kit again.

I think there's also some peer pressure and social aspects going on in the lunchroom either. Is he talking a lot and not able to finish his lunch? Is there a friend that buys and he wants to spend time in the line with them? Is there a girl he likes and wants to walk through the line with?

Or, have you ever thought he's giving the lunch to someone else? He may be trying to help someone and doesn't know how to tell you. Just throwing it out there.....You may need to get creative with how you are asking what's really going on at lunch.

The main was posted by OP, some kind of sandwich (PB&J or turkey and cheese) and then suddenly everyone poo-poo'd it like "ugh I would never" but I've been around a lot of kids and they eat this stuff all the time. I wouldn't expect an adult to pack this lunch but it's a very basic kid lunch. OP doesn't sound like she's starving her kid in the least. He's just being fussy. I'd be annoyed too if my kid wasn't eating this and getting nasty cafeteria nachos. There's something I would never eat for lunch!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

Because it’s not an actual meal, just a bunch of snacks. Of course it can’t be filling and seeing other kids, eating rice with meat, tacos or pasta with meat sauce looks much better and appealing. Poor child probably got yelled at after coming home and mom tried to block his account. Shame on you lady. If you want your kid to lose weight, that stuff you’re packing is not it. Cut sweets, especially drinks and present your kid with good amount of protein - chicken, fish, steaks, so his body can fill up and grow properly. I hope you don’t shame him for weight, that is absolutely the worst you can do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

Because it’s not an actual meal, just a bunch of snacks. Of course it can’t be filling and seeing other kids, eating rice with meat, tacos or pasta with meat sauce looks much better and appealing. Poor child probably got yelled at after coming home and mom tried to block his account. Shame on you lady. If you want your kid to lose weight, that stuff you’re packing is not it. Cut sweets, especially drinks and present your kid with good amount of protein - chicken, fish, steaks, so his body can fill up and grow properly. I hope you don’t shame him for weight, that is absolutely the worst you can do.

Am I the only one who actually read that OP sends a sandwich?

[Anonymous]

Oh and by the way, growing up, I ate lunch at school and then had another full lunch at home - and this was Europe, so those lunches were basically the size of American dinners.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

Because it’s not an actual meal, just a bunch of snacks. Of course it can’t be filling and seeing other kids, eating rice with meat, tacos or pasta with meat sauce looks much better and appealing. Poor child probably got yelled at after coming home and mom tried to block his account. Shame on you lady. If you want your kid to lose weight, that stuff you’re packing is not it. Cut sweets, especially drinks and present your kid with good amount of protein - chicken, fish, steaks, so his body can fill up and grow properly. I hope you don’t shame him for weight, that is absolutely the worst you can do.

Am I the only one who actually read that OP sends a sandwich?

Yes, a soggy honey sandwich that the kid doesn’t want. The rest are snacks. Other people commented that those other items are standard lunch items - I disagreed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and by the way, growing up, I ate lunch at school and then had another full lunch at home - and this was Europe, so those lunches were basically the size of American dinners.

What is your point? Do you think the vast majority of American kids are underfed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The kid doesn't want a sandwich for lunch. He wants hot food. Either pack him better lunch or let him buy. I thought this child is in middle or high school, but it is a poor elementary school kid. He sees all his other friends buying lunch that looks fresh and he’s got a squished sandwich with soggy bread. Especially the honey sandwich must be a complete mush by the time he has lunch. Either do your job and pack him an actual lunch or let him buy.

The packed lunch sounds awful; I would have a hard time eating that. In what world does those things sound good to a kid? Maybe he’s squishing it on purpose so he doesn’t have to eat it. I commend him for not just throwing it in the trash.

This packing lunch plan sounds like something that was forced on him and not something that he wants.

There must be a better way to get him to lose weight than micromanaging 1 single meal at school per day. Lunch is 1 meal/day. Let him buy his 5 lunches per week and then you can keep controlling what every single other meal. What are you feeding him for breakfast? Do you feed him enough? What about dinner?

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

Because it’s not an actual meal, just a bunch of snacks. Of course it can’t be filling and seeing other kids, eating rice with meat, tacos or pasta with meat sauce looks much better and appealing. Poor child probably got yelled at after coming home and mom tried to block his account. Shame on you lady. If you want your kid to lose weight, that stuff you’re packing is not it. Cut sweets, especially drinks and present your kid with good amount of protein - chicken, fish, steaks, so his body can fill up and grow properly. I hope you don’t shame him for weight, that is absolutely the worst you can do.

Am I the only one who actually read that OP sends a sandwich?

Yes, a soggy honey sandwich that the kid doesn’t want. The rest are snacks. Other people commented that those other items are standard lunch items - I disagreed

I highly doubt it's a honey sandwich. I read that was PB with jelly or PB with honey. Not just honey. Come on.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

OK, I'll bite. But that is probably a total of 750 calories. Maybe 900. It's not enough.

He's clearly either growing or not into what you're packing as a "main." Ask: "What can we pack that you'd like to eat? Want to come to the store with me?"

Even after packing what my son wants, he gets tired of it after a while, and I allow him to tell me what he'd like, how we can switch it up, etc. And he does eat the full lunch we pack, but comes home and eats what I call second lunch. He's just....hungry.

If he's doing any kind of sports, protein protein protein. I'm not surprised he's balking at chicken salad. $10 his friends said "Ewwww. What's that?" once and he's never even pulled it out of the lunch kit again.

I think there's also some peer pressure and social aspects going on in the lunchroom either. Is he talking a lot and not able to finish his lunch? Is there a friend that buys and he wants to spend time in the line with them? Is there a girl he likes and wants to walk through the line with?

Or, have you ever thought he's giving the lunch to someone else? He may be trying to help someone and doesn't know how to tell you. Just throwing it out there.....You may need to get creative with how you are asking what's really going on at lunch.

The main was posted by OP, some kind of sandwich (PB&J or turkey and cheese) and then suddenly everyone poo-poo'd it like "ugh I would never" but I've been around a lot of kids and they eat this stuff all the time. I wouldn't expect an adult to pack this lunch but it's a very basic kid lunch. OP doesn't sound like she's starving her kid in the least. He's just being fussy. I'd be annoyed too if my kid wasn't eating this and getting nasty cafeteria nachos. There's something I would never eat for lunch!

I think we all agree it's a very basic kid lunch, but it's clearly not the lunch for that kid.

She's not starving him, she's giving him food he doesn't want to eat. When faced with a choice he's finding a source for the food he does want to eat, which is at school.

I think the OP just needs to take a step back and talk to her kid. What does he want? What will he eat? But leading with the weight issue led folks in another direction that doesn't add up when she lists all the other stuff he's eating, which is basically fast carbs (I mean we don't know if it's a Quaker Chewy or a Kodiak Protein granola bar to be technical). It's simply not sticking with him.

[Anonymous]

If you're concerned that he's eating too much because he's eating two lunches, stop sending a lunch and just let him buy. I think that a kid young enough to have mom pack him a "PB & honey" sandwich probably shouldn't be monitored this closely for "borderline weight issues" -- elementary kids grow out and then up. If he was obese I would understand your concern but a little chunk on a growing kid is likely just a pre-growth spurt moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

What kid doesn't eat: a yogurt or applesauce, grapes, string cheese or fresh mozzarella, pirates booty, a granola bar. That is 100% standard kid fare for many kids.

OK, I'll bite. But that is probably a total of 750 calories. Maybe 900. It's not enough.

He's clearly either growing or not into what you're packing as a "main." Ask: "What can we pack that you'd like to eat? Want to come to the store with me?"

Even after packing what my son wants, he gets tired of it after a while, and I allow him to tell me what he'd like, how we can switch it up, etc. And he does eat the full lunch we pack, but comes home and eats what I call second lunch. He's just....hungry.

If he's doing any kind of sports, protein protein protein. I'm not surprised he's balking at chicken salad. $10 his friends said "Ewwww. What's that?" once and he's never even pulled it out of the lunch kit again.

I think there's also some peer pressure and social aspects going on in the lunchroom either. Is he talking a lot and not able to finish his lunch? Is there a friend that buys and he wants to spend time in the line with them? Is there a girl he likes and wants to walk through the line with?

Or, have you ever thought he's giving the lunch to someone else? He may be trying to help someone and doesn't know how to tell you. Just throwing it out there.....You may need to get creative with how you are asking what's really going on at lunch.

The main was posted by OP, some kind of sandwich (PB&J or turkey and cheese) and then suddenly everyone poo-poo'd it like "ugh I would never" but I've been around a lot of kids and they eat this stuff all the time. I wouldn't expect an adult to pack this lunch but it's a very basic kid lunch. OP doesn't sound like she's starving her kid in the least. He's just being fussy. I'd be annoyed too if my kid wasn't eating this and getting nasty cafeteria nachos. There's something I would never eat for lunch!

I think we all agree it's a very basic kid lunch, but it's clearly not the lunch for that kid.

She's not starving him, she's giving him food he doesn't want to eat. When faced with a choice he's finding a source for the food he does want to eat, which is at school.

I think the OP just needs to take a step back and talk to her kid. What does he want? What will he eat? But leading with the weight issue led folks in another direction that doesn't add up when she lists all the other stuff he's eating, which is basically fast carbs (I mean we don't know if it's a Quaker Chewy or a Kodiak Protein granola bar to be technical). It's simply not sticking with him.

the kid is buying cheezits and an Uncrustable, so basically the same thing that was packed from home. I would cut the purchases off.