If you hired an executive function coach …

[Anonymous]

Where can I find an executive functioning coach fo my almost middle schooler?

[Anonymous]

What does it look like when you have a successful fit with the executive function coach? Ours is online and I think it’s pretty good, but I don’t see him really implementing the strategies and I’m trying to figure out if we need to change course.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It was worth it to build skills around planning and assignment chunking and (perhaps more important) take me out of the role of homework nag. It cost $150/hour. They met twice a week by zoom - once for 60 minutes and once for 30 minutes. During exam time, we sometimes added 15 minute check ins. It wasn't a magic cure -- we still had trouble with implementation and work avoidance -- but it was still an improvement.

$150 for a zoom call is outrageous. Sorry

[Anonymous]

Used executive function coaches for two kids with ADHD. What did not work was working in a group where they would eventually get back to the kid who finished all assigned work. Also, not with someone who has poorly controlled adhd and gets upset with kid due to adhd traits. What did work is one on one counseling. First kid did one on one work where school assignment s were worked on together- first semester 2x / week and second semester once/ week. On own after that. Kid 2 worked through a curriculum of executive function skills, adapted the techniques after 8 or so sessions and no more needed. Look online for free webinars to find the strong programs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It was worth it to build skills around planning and assignment chunking and (perhaps more important) take me out of the role of homework nag. It cost $150/hour. They met twice a week by zoom - once for 60 minutes and once for 30 minutes. During exam time, we sometimes added 15 minute check ins. It wasn't a magic cure -- we still had trouble with implementation and work avoidance -- but it was still an improvement.

$150 for a zoom call is outrageous. Sorry

Don't hire them

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Used executive function coaches for two kids with ADHD. What did not work was working in a group where they would eventually get back to the kid who finished all assigned work. Also, not with someone who has poorly controlled adhd and gets upset with kid due to adhd traits. What did work is one on one counseling. First kid did one on one work where school assignment s were worked on together- first semester 2x / week and second semester once/ week. On own after that. Kid 2 worked through a curriculum of executive function skills, adapted the techniques after 8 or so sessions and no more needed. Look online for free webinars to find the strong programs.

I’m not familiar with this model can you just share the names of what you used?

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Anonymous wrote:I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Same. EF coaching has done wonders for my DD. Great results. Takes time like everything. Worth it 100%. We tried 2 coaches. The 2nd was a great fit. My DD started in Feb. She’ll cont this summer and be ready with the coach for fall. Highly recommend!

Could you please share the contact information for the EF coach you use? Thanks!

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who hired a coach to help with these kinds of things, did it help and what did it cost (generally)? TIA!

I have spoken with a half dozen EF coaches over the years, and have hired two. Both were in the DMV, but worked online. They were charging $120+. Neither was successful. They threw techniques and advice at our teens, which only made our teens angry. OP my advice to you is, don't let a mediocre EF coach make a bad situation worse.

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Anonymous wrote:It didn't help my DS much (high school student). There needs to be some intrisic motivation on the part of the child to change, no matter how challenging it may be. That was lacking from our DS and it felt like another thing to pour hundreds into each month. I snooped through their text exchanges and it felt like I was paying someone to nag my kid about deadlines. I suppose that could be helpful to some, but it didn't do much in our house.

This! you can spend all the money in world but if your child is not motivated then it's like throwing your money in the garbage. I say this as a parent who did hire one for my DS in high school. He was somewhat ready for this but it really wasn't until he got to college that he got it together. Maturity plays a huge role in this.

FWIW - there are many great EF coaches who are not SLPs!

As an EF coach myself, I completely agree that it isn't worth it if your child doesn't want a coach. They need to be open to it for it to work.

This. We had an amazing coach, kid fought the coach the whole year, was rude and disrespectful and a nightmare. I feel sorry for the coach, but the coach did the best they could and was kind. 150 per hour though. Don't do it unless your kid can handle the stress and extra effort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Same. EF coaching has done wonders for my DD. Great results. Takes time like everything. Worth it 100%. We tried 2 coaches. The 2nd was a great fit. My DD started in Feb. She’ll cont this summer and be ready with the coach for fall. Highly recommend!

Could you please share the contact information for the EF coach you use? Thanks!

Sorry for delay. Yes. Don’t want to post coach info but you can send me a msg I’ll send it. Coach is great! Good luck!
hapfam@ proton.me

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Same. EF coaching has done wonders for my DD. Great results. Takes time like everything. Worth it 100%. We tried 2 coaches. The 2nd was a great fit. My DD started in Feb. She’ll cont this summer and be ready with the coach for fall. Highly recommend!

Could you please share the contact information for the EF coach you use? Thanks!

Sorry for delay. Yes. Don’t want to post coach info but you can send me a msg I’ll send it. Coach is great! Good luck!
hapfam@ proton.me

My DD uses this EF coach. They’re fantastic! And I can just be mom and not the bad guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Same. EF coaching has done wonders for my DD. Great results. Takes time like everything. Worth it 100%. We tried 2 coaches. The 2nd was a great fit. My DD started in Feb. She’ll cont this summer and be ready with the coach for fall. Highly recommend!

Could you please share the contact information for the EF coach you use? Thanks!

Sorry for delay. Yes. Don’t want to post coach info but you can send me a msg I’ll send it. Coach is great! Good luck!
hapfam@ proton.me

My DD uses this EF coach. I agree they’re great!! I saw your post on here a little while back & took down the info. Thanks for sharing. It’s really made a difference. And I get to just be mom and not the bad guy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It didn't help my DS much (high school student). There needs to be some intrisic motivation on the part of the child to change, no matter how challenging it may be. That was lacking from our DS and it felt like another thing to pour hundreds into each month. I snooped through their text exchanges and it felt like I was paying someone to nag my kid about deadlines. I suppose that could be helpful to some, but it didn't do much in our house.

This! you can spend all the money in world but if your child is not motivated then it's like throwing your money in the garbage. I say this as a parent who did hire one for my DS in high school. He was somewhat ready for this but it really wasn't until he got to college that he got it together. Maturity plays a huge role in this.

FWIW - there are many great EF coaches who are not SLPs!

As an EF coach myself, I completely agree that it isn't worth it if your child doesn't want a coach. They need to be open to it for it to work.

This. We had an amazing coach, kid fought the coach the whole year, was rude and disrespectful and a nightmare. I feel sorry for the coach, but the coach did the best they could and was kind. 150 per hour though. Don't do it unless your kid can handle the stress and extra effort.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it works particularly well when it's subject matter-specific. My DS has ADHD and a lot of anxiety around planning and handling writing assignments, so we have hired a writing executive function coach (whose work is overseen by a former therapist with CBT, in concert with DS's own therapist), and the results have been very, very real within a year. Pricey, but incredibly worthwhile!

Same. EF coaching has done wonders for my DD. Great results. Takes time like everything. Worth it 100%. We tried 2 coaches. The 2nd was a great fit. My DD started in Feb. She’ll cont this summer and be ready with the coach for fall. Highly recommend!

Could you please share the contact information for the EF coach you use? Thanks!

Sorry for delay. Yes. Don’t want to post coach info but you can send me a msg I’ll send it. Coach is great! Good luck!
hapfam@ proton.me

My DD uses this EF coach. I agree they’re great!! I saw your post on here a little while back & took down the info. Thanks for sharing. It’s really made a difference. And I get to just be mom and not the bad guy!

Sorry this posted twice! 🙈