UMC woman yelling at her husband (possibly ex-husband) to "look alive" at youth sporting event

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is predictable DCUM. The wife screaming in public is immediately defended and the husband must be a terrible parent.

Why did these women even get married?

They’re doing the best they can. They want kids and a family. They don’t know how to create the loving one that they want.

Maybe the guy is cheating, was out late, and she's the one volunteering and getting the kids ready in the morning while he slept in Pretty typical in the DC area. Or maybe she's an overbearing wife. Also pretty typical in the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well there obviously aren't enough men that do because sports are riddled with men that display bad behavior.

Functional is quiet. Dysfunctional is loud. Just because bad behavior is visible and not loudly commented upon doesn’t mean bad behavior people don’t suffer consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well there obviously aren't enough men that do because sports are riddled with men that display bad behavior.

Functional is quiet. Dysfunctional is loud. Just because bad behavior is visible and not loudly commented upon doesn’t mean bad behavior people don’t suffer consequences.

? There are plenty of horrible things said that are quiet. Quiet is not always functional. Nor is loud always dysfunctional.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well there obviously aren't enough men that do because sports are riddled with men that display bad behavior.

Functional is quiet. Dysfunctional is loud. Just because bad behavior is visible and not loudly commented upon doesn’t mean bad behavior people don’t suffer consequences.

? There are plenty of horrible things said that are quiet. Quiet is not always functional. Nor is loud always dysfunctional.

Many men may yell, but that doesn’t mean they’re getting away with it. Plenty of people around them are quietly tolerating the yelling during the game and leaving the boundary there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is her outburst wasn’t about him not cheering loudly enough. He’s probably unengaged as a husband and parent and she’s at her wits end and just lost it.

+1

[Anonymous]

She should play the sport too. I don’t understand why kid sports practice and games are never timed with an adult sports/ CrossFit or outdoor yoga. Keep the overly involved sports parents busy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My guess is her outburst wasn’t about him not cheering loudly enough. He’s probably unengaged as a husband and parent and she’s at her wits end and just lost it.

Certainly possible. This was me and my xH

But not travel sports -- just every. single. possible. child-centric. moment, e.g. 5 yr old is blowing out candles on his birthday cake. Dad is .... scrolling. Checking fantasy league. etc. Can't engage convincingly for 120 seconds with his child because 5 year olds are boring, or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My guess is her outburst wasn’t about him not cheering loudly enough. He’s probably unengaged as a husband and parent and she’s at her wits end and just lost it.

Certainly possible. This was me and my xH

But not travel sports -- just every. single. possible. child-centric. moment, e.g. 5 yr old is blowing out candles on his birthday cake. Dad is .... scrolling. Checking fantasy league. etc. Can't engage convincingly for 120 seconds with his child because 5 year olds are boring, or something.

This basically describes all women between the ages of 25-45. Social media has broken so many of us!

[Anonymous]

Even saint Jen Garner won't stay married to Affleck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are times when I wished I had the guts to say that to my DH in public. He sits there spaced out like a bump on a log when all of the other dads are socializing and I hate it.

That was my thought too. I would never yell at him in public, but I'm thinking about how I feel sometimes when I've been getting the kids ready for some sporting event, I've read all the info about the event so I know how to get there and where to park and what to bring, done check in and our required volunteer activity, am engaged with the kids and other parents, and my husband has wandered off the catch Pokemon in his phone.

I've never snapped but I have fantasized about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are times when I wished I had the guts to say that to my DH in public. He sits there spaced out like a bump on a log when all of the other dads are socializing and I hate it.

That was my thought too. I would never yell at him in public, but I'm thinking about how I feel sometimes when I've been getting the kids ready for some sporting event, I've read all the info about the event so I know how to get there and where to park and what to bring, done check in and our required volunteer activity, am engaged with the kids and other parents, and my husband has wandered off the catch Pokemon in his phone.

I've never snapped but I have fantasized about it.

Omg a child.

[Anonymous]

Wives can be nonstop beatings sometimes. This weekend we had a yard cleanup project and I was carrying a bunch of tools. On my right shoulder I had two shovels, a rake and a hoe. When I got to where she was, I wasn’t moving fast enough for her and she came and started snatching things off my shoulder. One of the shovels swung down as it was falling off my shoulder and hit me right in the Achilles tendon above my ankle. Skin was hanging off and blood was getting everywhere. It’s swollen and I still can’t put weight on it. I’ll try to get an appointment with an ortho tomorrow to have it assessed. But, in the moment, she was like “what did you do that for and just starts berating me”. Her ability to take accountability astonishing.

[Anonymous]

Weekend tournaments are painfully boring and your kid isn’t even playing their sport 95% of the time. Most of the parents are loudmouth psychos and/or getting drunk & if you’re not in their clique you might as well be invisible. Even if your kid wins, it doesn’t really matter because youth sports have become so bloated and pointless. To rational men and women, the whole thing is a transparent waste of a weekend and a money pit scam.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently at a large and chaotic weekend swim event. What does "look alive" even mean in this context and how does yelling at your husband within earshot of hundreds of parents improve the situation? She doesn't think her husband was cheering loud enough or something?

After she walked away the husband had that Ben Affleck meme expression, while he hit an e-cigarette, which made me and my husband quietly chuckle, while also feeling bad for him.

Henpecking. A wife doing this within earshot of others has no self-control and gets off on humiliating her husband in public.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are times when I wished I had the guts to say that to my DH in public. He sits there spaced out like a bump on a log when all of the other dads are socializing and I hate it.

Ugh. As an introvert mom, I’m there supporting my kid. I am not there to socialize. Just f the F off.