Can addicts change?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please recommend how to overcome addiction to an addict? I became deeply emotionally attached to a man in the work environment, not knowing about his addiction to alcohol and drugs. Now that I know about that, both my therapist and my boss told me to stay away from that man because they wouldn’t touch him with a ten feet pole.
I’m staying away but it hurts like hell. I’m shaking and crying and can’t function normally.

As an alcoholic myself, you sound incredibly unhealthy yourself. I was never such a hot mess in the throes of my addiction. Get yourself together before you date anyone.

Maybe I’m unhealthy, but it’s also because I have to remain so composed among other people- family and coworkers and keep everything inside. DH (yes, I’m married) looks at me and says: “I’m glad that you are in such a good mood” - when I’m crying inside. So today I isolated myself from everyone and let myself grieve my pain fully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please recommend how to overcome addiction to an addict? I became deeply emotionally attached to a man in the work environment, not knowing about his addiction to alcohol and drugs. Now that I know about that, both my therapist and my boss told me to stay away from that man because they wouldn’t touch him with a ten feet pole.
I’m staying away but it hurts like hell. I’m shaking and crying and can’t function normally.

As an alcoholic myself, you sound incredibly unhealthy yourself. I was never such a hot mess in the throes of my addiction. Get yourself together before you date anyone.

Maybe I’m unhealthy, but it’s also because I have to remain so composed among other people- family and coworkers and keep everything inside. DH (yes, I’m married) looks at me and says: “I’m glad that you are in such a good mood” - when I’m crying inside. So today I isolated myself from everyone and let myself grieve my pain fully.

You sound like the type who enjoys staying in this mood/scenario in order to be the victim.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please recommend how to overcome addiction to an addict? I became deeply emotionally attached to a man in the work environment, not knowing about his addiction to alcohol and drugs. Now that I know about that, both my therapist and my boss told me to stay away from that man because they wouldn’t touch him with a ten feet pole.
I’m staying away but it hurts like hell. I’m shaking and crying and can’t function normally.

As an alcoholic myself, you sound incredibly unhealthy yourself. I was never such a hot mess in the throes of my addiction. Get yourself together before you date anyone.

Maybe I’m unhealthy, but it’s also because I have to remain so composed among other people- family and coworkers and keep everything inside. DH (yes, I’m married) looks at me and says: “I’m glad that you are in such a good mood” - when I’m crying inside. So today I isolated myself from everyone and let myself grieve my pain fully.

Cheaters aren’t cute and nobody cares about their pain. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Can someone please recommend how to overcome addiction to an addict? I became deeply emotionally attached to a man in the work environment, not knowing about his addiction to alcohol and drugs. Now that I know about that, both my therapist and my boss told me to stay away from that man because they wouldn’t touch him with a ten feet pole.
I’m staying away but it hurts like hell. I’m shaking and crying and can’t function normally.

As an alcoholic myself, you sound incredibly unhealthy yourself. I was never such a hot mess in the throes of my addiction. Get yourself together before you date anyone.

Maybe I’m unhealthy, but it’s also because I have to remain so composed among other people- family and coworkers and keep everything inside. DH (yes, I’m married) looks at me and says: “I’m glad that you are in such a good mood” - when I’m crying inside. So today I isolated myself from everyone and let myself grieve my pain fully.

You sound like the type who enjoys staying in this mood/scenario in order to be the victim.

How do I enjoy it? We’ve had a great working relationship with that man, and I was devastated to learn about his addictions and other mental health issues.