Cutting off our millennial son

[Anonymous]

I understand you, you want to see your grandkids and you love all of them, but they are being abused by a POS. It seems from your post that you traveled to help them, and they are rude arese.....s. Change your ticket, go back home. Enjoy your 60s instead of being their servant. They are treating you like masters who are nasty narcissists, don't take it. They need to apologize to you.

[Anonymous]

If you cut off son, you can expect to lose contact with his daughters because he is the parent.

If I were you, I’d get a therapist to teach me about boundaries and some strategies for having healthy ones and try again after that.

You can only control yourself in this situation.

Also, sorry to hear about your health problems, but you should also seek therapy for your mental health, too. A good therapist is well worth the time and expense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think I’m a pretty good daughter and DIL, but if my mom or MIL bailed on planned childcare because I didn’t say “goodbye” correctly the last time she came to visit, I would be pissed.

Not everyone can take off work easily at the last minute. DH and I would both have to find people to cover. This time of year, it would probably mean asking someone to cancel their vacation. The alternative of hiring a stranger to watch your sick child is awful. Even if they are professional and well-paid.

I don’t know the whole situation, but this would be really hard for me to come back from, OP. I think you need to suck it up and go. Next time, tell them you can’t do it from the beginning, so they can make alternate arrangements.

This is over dramatic. It’s a tonsillectomy that can be rescheduled to a time when parents can take time off. Sure, there may be situations in which that will create difficulties for the parents. Being a working parent is HARD. But, Parents are not entitled to free childcare from GPs. I think in OP’s particular situation, the degree she’s obligated to show up is linked to how long parents have to make other arrangements.