Childless women should get maternity leave

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s called short term disability. Maternity leave is for mothers (though often we have to take STD).

This. It sounds like you need a mental health break, OP. Talk to your PCP, then a psychiatrist, and get yourself on short term disability to get better.

[Anonymous]

My question would be why are the women taking on the “mental load and emotional labor” in an office? What even is that?

In the home I get it, I’m a wife and mother and take that on, because it’s my *family*. People I love. But in the office, while it can definitely be stressful at times for me, what I’m doing and the amount of work isn’t any different from my male colleagues. Are the women just letting the stress get to them more? Are they unnecessarily getting emotional about duties or coworkers?

Wouldn’t your 90 days off lead you to coming back to the same situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My question would be why are the women taking on the “mental load and emotional labor” in an office? What even is that?

In the home I get it, I’m a wife and mother and take that on, because it’s my *family*. People I love. But in the office, while it can definitely be stressful at times for me, what I’m doing and the amount of work isn’t any different from my male colleagues. Are the women just letting the stress get to them more? Are they unnecessarily getting emotional about duties or coworkers?

Wouldn’t your 90 days off lead you to coming back to the same situation?

Depends on the company, this bank I worked at often ask women analysts to host happy hours and coordinate volunteer events. Men just need to present data findings for the same “visibility”.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Peri needs are just as legitimate but should be within a broader mental health category. I actually took a permanent step back at work bc of peri since my work has no good options for my situation and no possibility of a real long vacation.

They are not, and you know it.

Right, that’s what I am saying…

NP. Under what authority do you proclaim your expertise about perimenopause and its possible affects on health and wellbeing or lack thereof?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yeah my childless female boss snarled at me "Must have been nice to take a three month vacation" the day I came back... sleep-deprived, had just stopped bleeding a couple weeks earlier, with painful bowling-ball breasts, and an emotional wreck. So hi boss!

I think the bleeding has some special stem cells, people are researching application for dementia management. Just don’t extend the future treatment to clueless men 🤣

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s called short term disability. Maternity leave is for mothers (though often we have to take STD).

+1. If you can't handle the stress of life without breaking down what you have is a mental health problem that needs treatment. Look into STD.

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I don’t mean to sound condescending or like a know it all mom, but when I went back to work after my first maternity leave, work felt like such a break. I work in a high stress field, yet it felt so predictable and manageable compared to maternity leave and the initial few weeks of zero sleep and some awful physical things. Please don’t imagine maternity leave as being like a vacation

[Anonymous]

It’s called flma. Get a doctor to write a note.

[Anonymous]

Op is a troll

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Peri needs are just as legitimate but should be within a broader mental health category. I actually took a permanent step back at work bc of peri since my work has no good options for my situation and no possibility of a real long vacation.

They are not, and you know it.

Right, that’s what I am saying…

NP. Under what authority do you proclaim your expertise about perimenopause and its possible affects on health and wellbeing or lack thereof?

I don’t think anyone needs to explain to you that “peri” is not the same as childbirth and caring for a newborn.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It’s called short term disability. Maternity leave is for mothers (though often we have to take STD).

+1. If you can't handle the stress of life without breaking down what you have is a mental health problem that needs treatment. Look into STD.

+1
I don’t mean to sound condescending or like a know it all mom, but when I went back to work after my first maternity leave, work felt like such a break. I work in a high stress field, yet it felt so predictable and manageable compared to maternity leave and the initial few weeks of zero sleep and some awful physical things. Please don’t imagine maternity leave as being like a vacation

My kid is 12 and I still feel some measure of relief on Mondays when I sit down in my quiet organized office where all I have to do is think about myself and my job!

[Anonymous]

There was twice in my life where I wish I could’ve gone to rehab, but I didn’t have an addiction.

I’m not sure if you’re having a mental health breakdown why you can’t take a few weeks of sick leave that’s why mental health falls under sick leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Peri needs are just as legitimate but should be within a broader mental health category. I actually took a permanent step back at work bc of peri since my work has no good options for my situation and no possibility of a real long vacation.

They are not, and you know it.

Right, that’s what I am saying…

NP. Under what authority do you proclaim your expertise about perimenopause and its possible affects on health and wellbeing or lack thereof?

I don’t think anyone needs to explain to you that “peri” is not the same as childbirth and caring for a newborn.

Childcare is hard but the physical movement, standing up, carrying child are good for you. No one has gotten high LDL or blood sugar from running after kids. But sedatory office workers die from heart attack all the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Peri needs are just as legitimate but should be within a broader mental health category. I actually took a permanent step back at work bc of peri since my work has no good options for my situation and no possibility of a real long vacation.

They are not, and you know it.

Right, that’s what I am saying…

NP. Under what authority do you proclaim your expertise about perimenopause and its possible affects on health and wellbeing or lack thereof?

I don’t think anyone needs to explain to you that “peri” is not the same as childbirth and caring for a newborn.

Childcare is hard but the physical movement, standing up, carrying child are good for you. No one has gotten high LDL or blood sugar from running after kids. But sedatory office workers die from heart attack all the time.

So do some exercise and eat better.

and sure, tell those working moms of infants how good it is for them 😂

[Anonymous]

Agree with everyone - it definitely isn’t a break to have maternity leave. I had 8 weeks due to a c section and my baby was in the NICU, so my time was spent recovering from major surgery, driving back and forth all the time (no overnight parents allowed), spending days in the hospital, pumping nonstop bc my baby was too small to latch, etc.
if we need to give everyone breaks, that is one thing, but don’t compare the two, because I have absolutely no break during my leave.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Peri needs are just as legitimate but should be within a broader mental health category. I actually took a permanent step back at work bc of peri since my work has no good options for my situation and no possibility of a real long vacation.

They are not, and you know it.

Right, that’s what I am saying…

NP. Under what authority do you proclaim your expertise about perimenopause and its possible affects on health and wellbeing or lack thereof?

I don’t think anyone needs to explain to you that “peri” is not the same as childbirth and caring for a newborn.

Childcare is hard but the physical movement, standing up, carrying child are good for you. No one has gotten high LDL or blood sugar from running after kids. But sedatory office workers die from heart attack all the time.

What? Women die from pregnancy and childbirth all the time. Many more have lasting health issues as a result.

I had preeclampsia with severe features, which left me with apparently permanent elevated blood pressure. And before you come at me, I’m not overweight, I eat a healthy diet, and I exercise 3-4 times a week. I didn’t use ART to conceive and I wasn’t AMA.