Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:OP. It a really awful to accuse me of being careless and doing stuff wrong, or being impatient. The opposite is true. I am her caregiver 9 mi this per year as she refuses outside help. If anything, I do too much for her. My sister does nothing and that’s ok - it’s her decision. I don’t want to be taken advantage of - I have more than enough on my plate with full time work, a chronic health condition, and absentee husband with no income and kids of my own. For my mom to expect me to be her servant - that’s just a bit much.
Tell your mom that given her level of need you must now insist on outside care. You are concerned because if something were to happen to you it's clear that she couldn't care for herself, and it's important that you have that care worked out so someone could step up in an emergency. Or, just that you need it now because your own health is suffering.
I mean, it doesn't matter if she's faking or not. She is requiring too much of you. Cut back your time with her and offer to have outside help come in your place.