Why do women still want to be married?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why do women still want to be married?
Most married women playing on this forum are unhappy. And if we extrapolate to most women in this country marriage seems to be a loosing proposing for women. Yet so many women still dream of walking down the aisle. Why is that? Is it mostly for the legal, financial and medical benefits? Or is it an immense feeling of pride to be someone's else wife?

Who are you? Who feels 'immense pride' of being someone's wife?

+1 most people would never acknowledge their DH’s existence outside of to a select few and in church and definitely don’t post them on instagram. No one ever shows who is sitting across from them at the table.

[Anonymous]

Im on my way out and I won't be remarrying ever. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

Not sure what makes you think women want to be married (any more than men).

I never heard a female express pride over being someone’s wife.

What century are you from OP?

[Anonymous]

My marriage was extremely egalitarian before kids. That benefited us both. After kids, it’s still good, but definitely more to his benefit.

We got married because of love, social pressure and hope

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The women who are content in their marriage don't post here. The forum presents a skewed view of marriage.

Yes and I am not sure how much the women who do post on here know of that. They are the outliers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cultural indoctrination.

It’s disappearing with the younger generation, fortunately.

This. I married because of this, also because I wanted kids. Had kids, now divorced, and I have no interest in marrying again.

[Anonymous]

I am divorced. I still want to marry my current boyfriend and can't shake it even though most would say it's dumb. I am conditioned to want marriage I guess. Someone explain it to me.

[Anonymous]

Because biological urges are still a thing and it's still better to be married when you have kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because biological urges are still a thing and it's still better to be married when you have kids.

Better for who? The mother? The children?

It's better to be married to a spouse who wants to parent the children. You need to include that part. To many people on here advocate women having children with men who (expressly) do not want children. This is selfish and unfair to children. Biological urges do not take priority over creating a stable healthy environment prior to bringing a child into the world.

[Anonymous]

human relationships have everything to do with children. If you aren’t interested in having children - there isn’t a ton of a point to get married to anybody. You can have a life partner, but no need for an actual marriage tho. I don’t know why more ppl don’t get this. Human male female relationships are dominated by biological predispositions for keeping babies alive by any means. Trying to overlay all this societal bs on top just makes a mess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:human relationships have everything to do with children.If you aren’t interested in having children - there isn’t a ton of a point to get married to anybody. You can have a life partner, but no need for an actual marriage tho. I don’t know why more ppl don’t get this. Human male female relationships are dominated by biological predispositions for keeping babies alive by any means. Trying to overlay all this societal bs on top just makes a mess.

Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just speaking practically unless you are wealthy there is a whole lot of value in having a teammate.

My kid is a freshman in college and just got engaged to a sophomore at a different college (they met in high school).
They say they don't want kids for a while. They just want to live their lives together.

[Anonymous]

Spiders. And snakes. And other creepy crawlies.

Women still want to get married so that someone else will deal with them.

[Anonymous]

Love being married. Love him, love our companionship and adventures together, love how we complement each other in so many ways.

[Anonymous]

My dh is the silver lining of my storm cloudy life. I love being with him and having kids with him. I don't think this means that others should emulate this lifestyle. Others have different needs and personalities and will find their way, many would not want what I have and I'm glad for that diversity in the world.
I understand op though as I've read posts here that make me want to caution my kids away from marriage despite my experience.