What do you think of this?

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

Nobody's disputing that he had a meeting. But did you do a good job?

You are very strange.

There's really nothing strange about wanting a sick child to be cared for in a quality manner. And there's nothing strange about wanting the parent with custody on the relevant day to handle the doctor's note if there is one.

She already said that the mother asked her to care for the same child in the past when SHE had a meeting. Presumably, she trusted OP then so you repeatedly asking if she did a "good job" is just annoying. Also, the other parent, the father thought she did a great job. What business is it of yours and why does your curiously need to be satisfied?

Nothing on DCUM is really anyone else's business, yet here we are.

If a slacker half-ass parent thinks OP is doing a great job, that's not really that impressive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

Nobody's disputing that he had a meeting. But did you do a good job?

You are very strange.

There's really nothing strange about wanting a sick child to be cared for in a quality manner. And there's nothing strange about wanting the parent with custody on the relevant day to handle the doctor's note if there is one.

She already said that the mother asked her to care for the same child in the past when SHE had a meeting. Presumably, she trusted OP then so you repeatedly asking if she did a "good job" is just annoying. Also, the other parent, the father thought she did a great job. What business is it of yours and why does your curiously need to be satisfied?

Nothing on DCUM is really anyone else's business, yet here we are.

If a slacker half-ass parent thinks OP is doing a great job, that's not really that impressive.

You are here with your own agenda. You exude contempt for stepmoms. Deal with your own issues instead of interrogating strangers on DCUM.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

It is totally fine. There is nothing wrong with that. But it's not fine if, in the big picture, he tends to dump his kid on women to the detriment of his parent-child relationship. And it's not fine if he and his wife didn't handle all of the responsibilities of having a sick kid and expect the ex-wife to deal with the administrative stuff. OP needs to wrap her head around that-- that kind of thing is the job of the parent with custody on the day. Even if you have, OMG, a meeting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

Oh how I wish OP doesn't respond to you. You are the only one pretending to be many people. You don't deserve an answer, you hateful shrew.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see, so you and your DH didn't consider whether she needs a doctor's note. So if that is needed, who's going to obtain it?

Did you or your DH mark her as sick on any attendance app the school uses.

Did you or your DH reach out to the teacher to ask if there's any work the kid can do from home to stay up to date?

These are normal parenting things that the mom routinely does. It's what she thinks of as quality parenting. If you and your DH disagree, fine. But if it doesn't even cross your mind, that's a problem. Your DH needs to take more responsibility. Not leave his daughter to get the bare minimum from you and dump the rest on his ex.

Holy crap lady, you have issues. I'm not surprised you are divorced.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I see, so you and your DH didn't consider whether she needs a doctor's note. So if that is needed, who's going to obtain it?

Did you or your DH mark her as sick on any attendance app the school uses.

Did you or your DH reach out to the teacher to ask if there's any work the kid can do from home to stay up to date?

These are normal parenting things that the mom routinely does. It's what she thinks of as quality parenting. If you and your DH disagree, fine. But if it doesn't even cross your mind, that's a problem. Your DH needs to take more responsibility. Not leave his daughter to get the bare minimum from you and dump the rest on his ex.

Holy crap lady, you have issues. I'm not surprised you are divorced.

I'm not. And really, I promise you, this is normal parenting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You did absolutely nothing wrong and everyone should be thanking you for stepping in.

OP, you did nothing wrong. If your husband (the father of the sick kid) did something wrong is somewhat debatable and really depends on the custody agreement, but YOU did nothing wrong.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

Oh how I wish OP doesn't respond to you. You are the only one pretending to be many people. You don't deserve an answer, you hateful shrew.

I'm really not, and if you don't believe me you can ask Jeff. Please don't call names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

Oh how I wish OP doesn't respond to you. You are the only one pretending to be many people. You don't deserve an answer, you hateful shrew.

um wow, Ok.

out of all the weird subsets of DCUM posters, the poster who believes there is one person “pretending” to be everyone who disagrees with her is … quite weird.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

Oh how I wish OP doesn't respond to you. You are the only one pretending to be many people. You don't deserve an answer, you hateful shrew.

I'm really not, and if you don't believe me you can ask Jeff. Please don't call names.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. DH has taken time off before to take her to doctor's appointments, and stayed with her after she had tubes put in her ears so Mom didn't have to take time off even though it was during her time. He books days off when she's with us on non-school days.

His meeting was booked well in advance. He had been preparing for a while.

You are fine. Let him handle the ex. I'd move on mentally if you can.

Thanks. He handles all communications with his ex and 98% of what step-daughter needs. He sucks at hair-do's and I don't.

Back to work for me. I half suspect his ex found the thread.

OP, you asked why there's pushback. People are trying to tell you-- it's possibly because you and your DH may have not done a good job. You can agree or disagree. But if you and your DH don't even know what a good job look like, and don't try to figure it out, then you're going to have this kind of issue ongoing.

You are the ONLY one trying to tell her that because you have issues. The rest of us are telling her it was totally fine for dad to leave his daughter with his wife.

DP. Um no, that’s not what everyone is saying.

I still want to know if dad insisted on taking her on “his” day.

Oh how I wish OP doesn't respond to you. You are the only one pretending to be many people. You don't deserve an answer, you hateful shrew.

um wow, Ok.

out of all the weird subsets of DCUM posters, the poster who believes there is one person “pretending” to be everyone who disagrees with her is … quite weird.

You are posting repeatedly pretending to be multiple people so yes, that's weird.