Should I move closer to STBX?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor kid. It’s obvious neither parent is that interested in them.

Ignore this stupid troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your ex only wants to see your child 2-3 days a month, I doubt moving closer is going to turn him into any kind of involved father.

He barely even wants contact.

Do what is best for you both long term. If you would move to where he is regardless and even if he never does more than see him a couple days a month, then move. If you are moving under some belief that being close willl make him want contact - then don't move.

This

+1. Take care of yourself first and foremost. Your child will be happiest if you are happy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Im considering moving to his area so we can have more shared parental responsibility, which was lacking in our marriage, and may still continue to be.

When you lived in the same house, he didn't do his share of parenting.
Now that you live 20 miles apart, he doesn't do his share of parenting.
Why do you think that if you live a mile apart that he'll change?

Stay where you are.

Exactly. Plus it sounds a little stalkerish. He will get a gf and things will really change. OP needs to move on and continue to be a good parent. She won't be able to control a ex.