Weekend activities w shared custody

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Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

You're so childish!!!!!! If you think you're the only avenue for kid getting friend time (because Dad is bad at it), then schedule friend time on Sunday. A 1hr swim lesson isn't going to disrupt their great social life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

Scheduling tutoring and lessons. Like I wrote in my OP.

Schedule them!!!!!!!!!

Are you really this challenged by this? What's the root of your concern?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

Scheduling tutoring and lessons. Like I wrote in my OP.

Schedule them!!!!!!!!!

Are you really this challenged by this? What's the root of your concern?

Feel free to read what I posted.

[Anonymous]

Op have dad take the kid during the week and do activities and tutoring.

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Making babies to break up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

Scheduling tutoring and lessons. Like I wrote in my OP.

Schedule them!!!!!!!!!

Are you really this challenged by this? What's the root of your concern?

Feel free to read what I posted.

Oh, I've read it. All I hear is a mom looking to keep her Sunday free.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

I dunno. Are you happy that you purposely came here just to be a jerk to mom looking for ideas on how to best support her kid?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I share custody of my 12 year old son. I have him most of the school week but he spends half the weekend (until Sat evening) with his dad. That means his only full weekend day with me is Sunday. He’s at an age where activities with friends are really important and I also like to take him on outings. But we also want him to so some scheduled activities like swim lessons, tutoring, etc. I’m hesitant to schedule any of these on Sundays, but that may mean that all of the extras are crammed into the school week, which doesn’t seem ideal either.

Any thoughts?

Your custody schedule should not affect your kid's activities and friends schedule. You and dad need to do what you need to do to accommodate your kid. Also, 'extras' happen on weekdays and weekends whether divorced or not. Married people don't do 'outings' every weekend if their kids do activities.

Signed, divorced for 10 years mom of 3 boys.

Generally agree with you but dad’s not that great at facilitating activities with friends so one problem with scheduling “my” Sundays is losing friend time.

What do you mean scheduling 'your' sundays? Scheduling what?

Scheduling tutoring and lessons. Like I wrote in my OP.

Schedule them!!!!!!!!!

Are you really this challenged by this? What's the root of your concern?

Feel free to read what I posted.

Oh, I've read it. All I hear is a mom looking to keep her Sunday free.

Ok Sparky!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Yeah, the tutor time would potentially interrupt longer time with friends, trips, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Of course he can but OP is insisting this is the biggest decision of her life and she can't do both. She wants her Sunday totally free.

Not sure why you feel the need to be so scathing. What are you gaining from this? I’m just looking to hear perspectives.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't most sports have 1-2 weekday practices and one weekend game? Seems like keeping the weekends free is not likely to be a solution here.

OP. My kid is not in a team sport.

WHAT ARE YOU WANTING THEN??????? If your kid isn't into activities or on a team sport then your schedule has no issues. Do what comes up on Sunday. I don't get what your concern is.

There are activities that aren’t team sports. I’m not sure why you’re so worked up.

Because you're complaining about nothing. If you want to cram the activities during the week you can and if they fall on Sunday and they're just for an hour, then what's the issue??????? Just do what works for your family. Most of us are trying to offer recommendations on activities that get scheduled at times we can't control (sport practices and sport games) but that doesn't seem to be your issue because your kid isn't into anything. Well, then you're good, right?

Ok still not so sure why you are so hostile. I’m curious what other people do/think in this situation. The suggestion to consider alternating weekends was a good one but not in the cards this year. The issue is that the activities I’m talking about are sometimes hard to schedule and one slot right now is only Sundays. So either we have to schedule our Sunday or make other compromises like look for a different provider or do it virtually after school.

No one is being hostile but you're being stubborn and selfish. Your child needs to come first. If they have activities that fall on a Sunday, then that's what you do. If you want your Sunday free, you find another time for the activity. It's not that hard. So you have an activity that is being slotted for a Sunday, you take it and do what needs to be done. What's so hard about this?

Ok …. I feel like I have explained this numerous times but here goes again:
1. I have my kid on Sundays
2. We (my ex and I) jointly agree on a couple of activities for him.
3. Said activites are 1:1/tutoring type activities, NOT sports teams where there is little choice about the schedule.
4. My kid is not passionate about these activities or requesting to do them on Sundays but I would absolutely support that if he was.
5. The activity providers right now want to schedule on Sundays but I’m wondering if it’s better to keep Sundays free and unscheduled for friends etc.
6. We can potentially schedule these activities during the week but with some compromises (have to do virtual, find different tutor, less time for downtime after school, etc.)

No, it's not better to keep Sunday free. There, are you happy?

He can't do an hour of tutoring and also friend time on a Sunday? I am confused.

Yeah, the tutor time would potentially interrupt longer time with friends, trips, etc.

For starters, no one is taking a trip EVERY Sunday. For that Sunday that you do have a "trip", reschedule or skip the activity. Secondly, no 12yr has all day playdates or whatever with friends. Those can absolutely be scheduled around the activity. So, again--not sure why the OP is all out of sorts over this.