Should I homeschool dc?

[Anonymous]

Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Homeschool for a few years with a co-op and see how it goes. The people claiming there are no social opportunities have clearly never homeschooled.

The no social opportunities concern is due to the parents having jobs.

And also due to the fact that this is a child that presumably doesn’t connect and make friends easily. “Social opportunities” aren’t the same for our kids on the spectrum. There’s literally no way I could replicate the social opportunities school provides at home, even with weekly co-op social events or whatever.

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Yes

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Homeschool for a few years with a co-op and see how it goes. The people claiming there are no social opportunities have clearly never homeschooled.

The no social opportunities concern is due to the parents having jobs.

The issue is the parents work full time so child will be cared for a few days a week by grandma. No one can commit to a few hours a day of homeschooling plus social opportunities. Yes, you can do outside activities and social things but its a huge time suck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

Most SN kids did not do better and that’s a fact. I can see some academics possibly being better but it’s not good to isolate any kids, and especially not good to isolate SN kids, unless there’s a really good reason for it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

Most SN kids did not do better and that’s a fact. I can see some academics possibly being better but it’s not good to isolate any kids, and especially not good to isolate SN kids, unless there’s a really good reason for it.

Strange facts as I know kids doing it now who are doing better. It depends on the child and the level of support at home.

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Anonymous wrote:How would you make it work if you both work? Who would watch her during the day and can you do a few hours a day of schoolwork?

This is a concern. So, dad and I each have a weekday off. My mom (we'll call her GM) picks her up the other days. GM wants to help homeschool her-I never want to burden her with that, but we were talking and GM really wants to. She did help during Covid (as me and dad work in person only job) and it was using the same curriculum program that I might use again (it has streaming/dvd classes with a teacher and kids, plus you get the paper books and the teacher gives the assignment). GM has been relatively healthy, but those of us with elderly parents know how that can change and quickly.

If I didn't work, I would absolutely homeschool her-but I do work so I'm trying to think through all angles.

You really need to commit to more. Do you have a virtual school where you live? That might be better.

OP here. Yes, there is and that is an option I'm considering. I love the idea of co-ops but realistically, I just can't do it-not home to be there. Activities would have to be along the hours of traditional school, like in the evenings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you make it work if you both work? Who would watch her during the day and can you do a few hours a day of schoolwork?

This is a concern. So, dad and I each have a weekday off. My mom (we'll call her GM) picks her up the other days. GM wants to help homeschool her-I never want to burden her with that, but we were talking and GM really wants to. She did help during Covid (as me and dad work in person only job) and it was using the same curriculum program that I might use again (it has streaming/dvd classes with a teacher and kids, plus you get the paper books and the teacher gives the assignment). GM has been relatively healthy, but those of us with elderly parents know how that can change and quickly.

If I didn't work, I would absolutely homeschool her-but I do work so I'm trying to think through all angles.

You really need to commit to more. Do you have a virtual school where you live? That might be better.

OP here. Yes, there is and that is an option I'm considering. I love the idea of co-ops but realistically, I just can't do it-not home to be there. Activities would have to be along the hours of traditional school, like in the evenings.

Then who would manage virtual? Homeschooling or virtual will not work except with heavy parental involvement. I’d look at other schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you make it work if you both work? Who would watch her during the day and can you do a few hours a day of schoolwork?

This is a concern. So, dad and I each have a weekday off. My mom (we'll call her GM) picks her up the other days. GM wants to help homeschool her-I never want to burden her with that, but we were talking and GM really wants to. She did help during Covid (as me and dad work in person only job) and it was using the same curriculum program that I might use again (it has streaming/dvd classes with a teacher and kids, plus you get the paper books and the teacher gives the assignment). GM has been relatively healthy, but those of us with elderly parents know how that can change and quickly.

If I didn't work, I would absolutely homeschool her-but I do work so I'm trying to think through all angles.

You really need to commit to more. Do you have a virtual school where you live? That might be better.

OP here. Yes, there is and that is an option I'm considering. I love the idea of co-ops but realistically, I just can't do it-not home to be there. Activities would have to be along the hours of traditional school, like in the evenings.

Then who would manage virtual? Homeschooling or virtual will not work except with heavy parental involvement. I’d look at other schools.

I am going to look at other schools, also. So far, I have only decided for sure that she's not going back next year to her present school, although she is going to finish the year (which is a few weeks). Where I live, there is a bunch of choice/magnet schools, but all those lotteries were done months ago now. I hesitate to enroll her in the local public school due to her sensory issues, her private is literally one class per grade.

The virtual options I'm considering is, one is using the curriculum her current school uses. It's one that has been around for decades and they have an online academy where there is recorded 'class' with a teacher and kids, they learn from the video and the teacher gives assignments and you have paper books and teacher keys and stuff. Another option is Florida Virtual School which is an actual public school here (in Fl), it's all online based I think (I'm not as familiar with it) and you have a live teacher.

Tomorrow we're going to her ped to discuss, I'm concerned about anxiety. I don't want to 'not' deal with that if that is a factor here. I know this is the age where this often presents in our ASD dc.

[Anonymous]

In this situation I'd homeschool temporarily to give her a break from all the stimulation and then try a different school. I absolutely loved homeschooling but it wasn't workable as a long-term thing for a variety of reasons. Homeschooling was a great experience for us all, and I wish I could still do it. I just wasn't great about getting DC the socialization he needed (I didn't try that hard to find a co-op since I'm a big disorganized myself). I am happy though that at least I gave my kid a couple of years of a break with all the overstimulation for a couple of years.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

Most SN kids did not do better and that’s a fact. I can see some academics possibly being better but it’s not good to isolate any kids, and especially not good to isolate SN kids, unless there’s a really good reason for it.

My kid 100% did better with homeschool, academically, emotionally, and behaviorally. Socially it wasn't great (my fault) but now he's back in school and it's a social disaster. Not only does he have no friends, he also has to deal with getting constantly made fun of. The idea would be for me to have a WFH job and more bandwidth to find a good social outlet with homeschool, but sadly I have neither. What he is going through right now is absolutely not ideal, nor is it a good "learning experience" for him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

Most SN kids did not do better and that’s a fact. I can see some academics possibly being better but it’s not good to isolate any kids, and especially not good to isolate SN kids, unless there’s a really good reason for it.

My kid 100% did better with homeschool, academically, emotionally, and behaviorally. Socially it wasn't great (my fault) but now he's back in school and it's a social disaster. Not only does he have no friends, he also has to deal with getting constantly made fun of. The idea would be for me to have a WFH job and more bandwidth to find a good social outlet with homeschool, but sadly I have neither. What he is going through right now is absolutely not ideal, nor is it a good "learning experience" for him.

From what you’re saying it sounds like homeschool was great for him and public is a disaster.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How would you make it work if you both work? Who would watch her during the day and can you do a few hours a day of schoolwork?

This is a concern. So, dad and I each have a weekday off. My mom (we'll call her GM) picks her up the other days. GM wants to help homeschool her-I never want to burden her with that, but we were talking and GM really wants to. She did help during Covid (as me and dad work in person only job) and it was using the same curriculum program that I might use again (it has streaming/dvd classes with a teacher and kids, plus you get the paper books and the teacher gives the assignment). GM has been relatively healthy, but those of us with elderly parents know how that can change and quickly.

If I didn't work, I would absolutely homeschool her-but I do work so I'm trying to think through all angles.

You really need to commit to more. Do you have a virtual school where you live? That might be better.

OP here. Yes, there is and that is an option I'm considering. I love the idea of co-ops but realistically, I just can't do it-not home to be there. Activities would have to be along the hours of traditional school, like in the evenings.

Then who would manage virtual? Homeschooling or virtual will not work except with heavy parental involvement. I’d look at other schools.

I am going to look at other schools, also. So far, I have only decided for sure that she's not going back next year to her present school, although she is going to finish the year (which is a few weeks). Where I live, there is a bunch of choice/magnet schools, but all those lotteries were done months ago now. I hesitate to enroll her in the local public school due to her sensory issues, her private is literally one class per grade.

The virtual options I'm considering is, one is using the curriculum her current school uses. It's one that has been around for decades and they have an online academy where there is recorded 'class' with a teacher and kids, they learn from the video and the teacher gives assignments and you have paper books and teacher keys and stuff. Another option is Florida Virtual School which is an actual public school here (in Fl), it's all online based I think (I'm not as familiar with it) and you have a live teacher.

Tomorrow we're going to her ped to discuss, I'm concerned about anxiety. I don't want to 'not' deal with that if that is a factor here. I know this is the age where this often presents in our ASD dc.

you need to discuss such a drastic measure with a psychologist/therapist. in general you are not supposed to accomodate anxiety by removing the person from anxious situations. that increases anxiety and isolates them. if you put her in a bubble she will not grow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you actually think she'd thrive better in online school? I find that very hard to believe for a sn child.

We had no issues with online school as did many other families who remained virtual. Not sure why you find it hard to believe. Some kids did better.

Most SN kids did not do better and that’s a fact. I can see some academics possibly being better but it’s not good to isolate any kids, and especially not good to isolate SN kids, unless there’s a really good reason for it.

My kid 100% did better with homeschool, academically, emotionally, and behaviorally. Socially it wasn't great (my fault) but now he's back in school and it's a social disaster. Not only does he have no friends, he also has to deal with getting constantly made fun of. The idea would be for me to have a WFH job and more bandwidth to find a good social outlet with homeschool, but sadly I have neither. What he is going through right now is absolutely not ideal, nor is it a good "learning experience" for him.

I mean you said it there - he didn’t get the socialization he needed and now he is having trouble adapting. I don’t doubt that there may be some extreme cases where homeschooling is appropriate as a temporary bridge to finding a better school. But isolation begets isolation. I’ve seen this happen - you end up with a teen who will not leave the house.