Spouse Booked Beach House W/O Consulting Me

[Anonymous]

Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

[Anonymous]

I'd be upset - my husband and I always consult each other on something like that.

Some people are saying he did it so you have to be grateful. The time it would have been helpful was last thanksgiving. If he took the lazy way out and just booked whatever was available (which is what my husband would do) and is expecting you to be thankful, then I'd also be mad. If he really searched high and low and didn't want you to miss out, I'd suck it up and go. I think intent really matters here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

DCUM never fails.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Sounds like you stay in dumps so unless you do the work this year you won't go on vacation.

[Anonymous]

Livid is an overreaction. You can always just not go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be mad, yes. Livid maybe not.

And I would feel free to stay home or take my vacay solo while spouse took kids down to beach house I didn't get a say in.

This

[Anonymous]

Livid? Do you always get this angry this quickly? Annoyed maybe, but spend your time on the beach not in your new dump. Have fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

DCUM never fails.

Cool. Maybe you're OK with a dump but I personally would rather stay home. Vacation is supposed to be a break and relaxing. Some of these in NC make Motel 6 look like the 4 Seasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

This.

There is a reason they were still available

Hint, it’s a dump

[Anonymous]

It’s ONE week of your life. The spouse didn’t purchase a house without consulting you. Keep it in perspective.

[Anonymous]

DH knows better but I am really picky about accommodations.

[Anonymous]

To me they solved a problem. If you had been looking as well but they jumped the fun that’s one thing. But sounds like things were crazy, you have very specific needs and going every year in a specific week is your requirement. I guess I’d be happier to go even if it’s not perfect than not go.

I’ll add that I do all the planning and paperwork for almost everything in our home (camp trips kid activities purchases finances college savings everything!) so basically while I try to consult I often do just execute since I’m also busy with work and life. Spouse is welcome to step up and start contributing more should they want more of a say but right now they seem happy to defer the work and don’t complain if it’s not exactly what they wanted.

[Anonymous]

Finding beach houses that meet specfic criteria is a real PITA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh no, not three whole blocks away from the beach!! That’s devastating.

Have you seen some of those places? I honestly wouldn't want to go either and wouldn't want to spend my vacation money in that manner.

DCUM never fails.

Cool. Maybe you're OK with a dump but I personally would rather stay home. Vacation is supposed to be a break and relaxing. Some of these in NC make Motel 6 look like the 4 Seasons.

I can be happy in lots of place. So stay livid, stay home, I guess. Your “standards” are not the flex you think they are.