Which type of explicit content is least bad?

[Anonymous]

If your kids are under 16 those books are inappropriate to have around. Sex is confusing to young people. I am not a gun advocate but I think guns and hunting and what is right and wrong is MUCH less confusing to a child’s mind. There is a HUGE difference between being comfortable with nudity (like Europeans supposedly are) and flat out graphic sexuality on display.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

1) you are engaged in a high conflict divorce from someone who sounds like he has really different values to you. That is making both of you double down. That's not productive. Denying that it's happening is even less productive.

2) Stop doubling down on these things "being your job" and that's why it's okay. It's okay for you to have books like that on your bookshelves because you are interested in them and books are stored on bookshelves. Making this about your job is accepting his premise that they're unacceptable and need a justification. Stop doing that. He doesn't have to be right.

3) If you are watching Bridgerton with your children, stop doing that. Stop putting them in the middle. You can watch Bridgerton or whatever. Have as many L Word box sets as you want. But if you are actually experiencing these things WITH your kids, stop doing that, for at least the duration of your divorce.

100% this

[Anonymous]

Notice the OP doesn’t say how old their kids are or what their opinions are. Clearly this is just a fight between her and her husband and the kids’ needs or opinions aren’t paramount.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Notice the OP doesn’t say how old their kids are or what their opinions are. Clearly this is just a fight between her and her husband and the kids’ needs or opinions aren’t paramount.

2 are in elementary and 1 in middle school. None of them old enough to truly be interested in adult content in books or movies. They see it in passing at best and most of the time are playing with their friends in their rooms or in the basement.

[Anonymous]

You are thinking of yourself first, when you should instead be thinking of your kids first. You can easily put these sexual things out of sight. You are just stubbornly choosing not to.

[Anonymous]

Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

Derailed not detailed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

That's where I disagree. It's the Christian fundamentalist attitudes on sex that lead to porn addiction, not a Mapplethorpe book.

[Anonymous]

I’m really surprised your upper elementary and middle school kids haven’t weighed in with preferences. Do you not have a good relationship with them? Even a kid who wasn’t very talkative might take steps to hide explicit book covers before friends come over. Have you ever asked them what they think of it? Is DH speaking up because they complained to him? Or is the stuff not as out in the open as you made it seem?

We are really low key about sex in our house and our kid has had comprehensive sex Ed and all the kid appropriate books and high tails it out of the room if we are watching a show and the characters start kissing. Can’t stand any of that talk - says it’s cringe to watch near us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

That's where I disagree. It's the Christian fundamentalist attitudes on sex that lead to porn addiction, not a Mapplethorpe book.

There is a serious porn addiction issue in this country and the world. Are you saying they are all Christian fundamentalist? Wake up. The fundamentalists stick out because they are loud and sound like hypocrites but porn addiction doesn't seem from Christianity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you eat meat?

#1 question not answered. Factory farmed chicken is much worse than those ducks in your freezer, you're just insulated from that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

That's where I disagree. It's the Christian fundamentalist attitudes on sex that lead to porn addiction, not a Mapplethorpe book.

Is this the OP’s response?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:On the off chance that OP isn't a troll...

OP, give us some examples of what books and movie scenes you're talking about. Normalizing sexual behavior in young children isn't just inappropriate, it's dangerous. It makes them more vulnerable to sexual abuse when they have knowledge beyond what is developmentally appropriate. The statute of David is one thing, graphic depictions of sex are another. There are MANY age appropriate books for children on nudity and sexuality that you could use to teach your children (It's So Amazing, the American Girl books, etc.). Random sex scenes in movies are not teaching tools, they're harmful and dangerous.

Separate your feelings about hunting and eating animals from your approach to sexuality "education." They are not related and you are wrong whether or not he is also.

Yes, actually - here are 3 books my STBXH say are "abusive" and shouldn't be on the shelves of the family room:
Polaroid, Mapplethorpe
A woman's right to pleasure
Women and kink
^others follow the same theme, heavy art and a nod to female sexual empowerment.

Movies are along the lines of French films, series like the L word, bridgerton...

All of which fuel my content for my job.

Your trolling is getting worse.

Robert Maplethorpe? REALLY? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop exposing your kids. The dangers of oversexualization are much greater than the dangers of knowing the intricacies of hunting. Are you even serious? Is there any real danger in today's world and assuming you live in suburbia that your kids lives will get detailed because of hunting??? Can't say the same about porn addiction.

That's where I disagree. It's the Christian fundamentalist attitudes on sex that lead to porn addiction, not a Mapplethorpe book.

TFW you know might kn0w who posted. Now I don't feel so bad keeping my kid from going into your house. Take your medication, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How did you and your husband ever get together and stay together long enough to have children?

I nominate Nick Offerman as a cultural guide to both of you. He has an appreciation for hunting, woodworking, feminism and sex. These things do not need to be in opposition to each other.

It's terribly old fashioned but accidental pregnancy.

Well, that's a ringing endorsement of your philosophy of children's sexual education and development over your STBX's.