family member got evicted

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Sure and I still won’t feel badly for the deadbeats. Get a job and find a cheaper place to live.

People lose jobs and sometimes can't find another. My aunt had to take her Social Security at 62 because she lost her job after 9/11 as did a lot of people. It took her three years before she found a new permanent job. Age discrimination is real and impossible to prove. Most people aren't deadbeats but are simply caught in circumstances they can't control.

Don't be so cocky and judgemental because it could happen to you or someone you love.

Places that don’t practice age discrimination: Starbucks. Walmart. Giant Food. Trader Joe’s. Petsmart. Do you still need ideas?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Amen.
Sometimes a loving word or financial help means the world to someone less fortunate.
You help stand someone up not tear them down. The eviction is done so backtracking means nothing. Being homeless hurts everyone. Especially if there are children involved.

Family is everything. Doesn't seem like you mean people understand that. Lot of selfishness on this forum.
It's ugly.

[Anonymous]

Are they going to live with you, OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Poor landlord. To get evicted you have to not pay rent for months at least.

Actually you could pay the rent and the landlord not pay the mortgage and you will never know until the day the sheriff shows up at your door.

You could also not be paying your rent, therefore the landlord can't pay the mortgage on the property your are renting, it goes into foreclosure, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can't tell who you are upset for. Yourself or your family member.

And agreed, it takes a lot to get someone evicted.

Agree. I am still heartbroken and devastated for my family. Both things can be truie

But because it takes months... there are lots of actions that people can take to avoid being "traumatized." More commonly people think that if they avoid their problems, they will go away. Hence the "shock." No, people need to live in a place they can afford and plan around that. If short-term help is needed, they should have asked before this.

[Anonymous]

Were you evicted, OP, and traumatized by your own eviction from the past?
Or are you traumatized that a family member got evicted? It

[Anonymous]

In the case of a job loss, any landlord with any legitimate experience will include an early lease exit provision. That is not an eviction. There is a legal distinction between a lease being terminated and an eviction.

[Anonymous]

Evictions are only going to go up and up and so are foreclosures. The people on this forum are going to be shocked. There’s also the case of financial abuse. Spouse doesn’t tell his wife that they are in foreclosure until the sheriff shows up. Murder suicides are almost always linked to foreclosures that aren’t shared. It’s ugly

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Amen.
Sometimes a loving word or financial help means the world to someone less fortunate.
You help stand someone up not tear them down. The eviction is done so backtracking means nothing. Being homeless hurts everyone. Especially if there are children involved.

Family is everything. Doesn't seem like you mean people understand that. Lot of selfishness on this forum.
It's ugly.

Why don’t you take in OP’s relative?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any poster who does not understand OP just you wait. Evictions and foreclosures are only going up, and not even wealthy suburbs are immune. It will happen to someone you know eventually

Amen.
Sometimes a loving word or financial help means the world to someone less fortunate.
You help stand someone up not tear them down. The eviction is done so backtracking means nothing. Being homeless hurts everyone. Especially if there are children involved.

Family is everything. Doesn't seem like you mean people understand that. Lot of selfishness on this forum.
It's ugly.

Why don’t you take in OP’s relative?

You are dumb

[Anonymous]

Not with family but I ran into a local teen from my neigbhourhood (best friend of our house sitter at the time) and I heard her upset on the bus but I couldn't hear what she was saying. I went over after she was off the phone and said "I couldn't hear you but I know you are upset. Is there anything I can do?" and she told me they were being evicted (everyone owned I thought in our neighbourhood).

I've never known anyone who's been evicted (that I know of, I guess). I panicked and insisted she take a couple hundred- I had just randomly gone to the bank and she needed it more than me. I guess I'm super special because it was really traumatic for me to even hear/think about and she was so young to have to manage around her family dynamics with her parents. It was one of those 'you never know what burden someone is carrying' situations.

[Anonymous]

Tell them to stop being poor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Evictions are only going to go up and up and so are foreclosures. The people on this forum are going to be shocked. There’s also the case of financial abuse. Spouse doesn’t tell his wife that they are in foreclosure until the sheriff shows up. Murder suicides are almost always linked to foreclosures that aren’t shared. It’s ugly

The landlord has a legal obligation to inform all parties on the lease at multiple steps throughout the eviction process. It has to be verified received by all for the judge to even hear the landlord’s case.

Foreclosures are not increasing. Look at the data instead of internet fearmongering.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Times are very tough for people. Inflation is very hard in the poor and middle class. This is not something to be ashamed or or embarrassed about or feel alone. these are extraordinary times when people facing 30% higher food bills suddenly and so have to choose between rent and food. The best we can do is be a bulwark for our family and friends to help them get through.

My parents were foreclosed on in the eighties mostly due to medical bills. My dads siblings each came up with thousands for a modest down payment and one sibling co-signed a mortgage so we had a place to live. It is families that come through in these times. My siblings and I ended up in in good careers with college scholarships. We know how important family is. Thanks to you they will likely be ok.

The money that they spent to provide the down payment could have been used to forestall foreclosure while your parents sold the house, maintained their credit rating and retained whatever equity they had. Usually people have a number of months to realize that they can't afford their current housing...